Two wedding gowns

[kierawhogives]

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

Here are the pics

They are both lovely and you will look stunning - even if you don’t believe that at the moment. It will be a different wedding to that planned but that doesn’t make it any less special.
The first is simply beautiful and is entirely appropriate for a smaller wedding. It’s clearly your parents favourite, and whilst you don’t have to please them, it’s nice to make them happy too.
As people have said, it’s the marriage that is really important - particularly if you’re trying for children straight away but a memorable wedding is still important. It can still be memorable, if smaller.

You could not go with an overcoat but have a velvet wedding cape made if it’s to be a winter/autumnal wedding. They can look stunning and add to the dress, not detract.

I’m with you. Marry before having children.

I'm so sorry about your Dad. My mum died six months before my wedding and I found it hard to feel excited / feel the things you should feel about weddings. Time is a great healer though and I look back on the day with so much fondness now. My dress didn't really fit properly because I couldn't be bothered to get it altered, but you can't really tell in the photos. I would wear whichever one makes you feel happiest (even though happy is not much of a thing for you at the moment.)

The first one.
I'm 5ft 5" and would love to get back to my pre-two children pre-menopause 30 year old weight of 9 stone! I felt skinny.

Sell one of them. There will be others not able to shop and buy a dress. I prefer dress 1

Both are beautiful.

I absolutely love the first dress, that'd 100% be my "pick".

Agree as well that altering the second will be a good idea, but waiting 10 years to wear it seems OTT. Why not plan a big party for a sooner anniversary to make up for not having the wedding you'd dreamed of? If you're successful TTC then maybe second anniversary not the first?!

It's ok to grieve for the wedding you had planned. You can simultaneously be grateful for what you have and acknowledge you're sad for what you've lost.

The first dress looks elegant. The lace sleeves are beautiful.
Hope you enjoy your day & wishing you a long & happy marriage.

You are about to say your vows to the man that you love more than any other, in front of close family and friends. And I promise it is going to be so so special..a day you will remember and cherish.

I know it won't be the big weekend you planned, but honestly so many brides are so busy planning the 'perfect' big day, that they forget to really experience and enjoy it with their new husband.

So I promise your special day will still be so so very special. You are starting something new and that is so exciting!!! Maybe try saying your vows to yourself and think about what they really mean...it is the most wonderful thing to be saying those words to another person.

Good luck and have a wonderful, magical day!!

And I love the first one...❤️

Sell one of them. There will be others not able to shop and buy a dress

So not the op's problem. She's not obliged to provide a dress to some other woman especially when she's said she doesn't want to sell. I mean come on, at least read the op's posts and have a little bit of empathy?

And wedding dress shops are open so all these mythical brides who can't buy a dress actually can just go into any bridal shop and buy one.

I think the 1st one Op. they’re both beautiful but the first one is timeless to me.

I agree with the other posters who said Keep dress two for 10
Yr anniversary or to pass on to daughter

We had to change our wedding date a few years ago because my FIL was given 6 months to live. I was 18 weeks pregnant so the dress I had just bought didn’t fit anymore and was too “grand” for a registry office. I had to wear a different dress in the end. I remember despite us moving the wedding for a very good reason being sad my day and venue were gone but honestly our wedding was beautiful and perfect. Meant FIL was there (he died the following day) and my grandparents who both died shortly after.

My dress is still hanging in my wardrobe and I’m planning to wear for our 5 yr wedding anniversary and we’re going to have a proper wedding photoshoot then as we didn’t for our actual wedding.

Dress 1 is lovely. It will still look lovely in photos even if other aspects of the wedding aren't what you had hoped for.

The first dress is gorgeous, timeless and as other have said very "bridal". The second is a little plainer and would be good for an anniversary party or (if you dyed it) other event.

The lace one, by miles. Very boho and pretty, perfect for a smaller wedding.

The other one is very plain and I'm not keen on the baggy top. I've never seen a baggy bodice on a wedding dress before, doesn't seem to sit right and has the potential to be unflattering.

The first one.

First one

1st is far better, but you do realise a wedding day is just a day its the marriage that matters. Along as you both married thats all that should count.

Dress 1

The first one is lovely, the second is boring.

I really can't see how or why you'd wear either on a beach, dyed or not.

I refer the second one, and if you go for an autumn/winter wedding where you need to wear a coat over it, I think it will be easier to work with to find something that goes.

Wear the other one to give birth in.

OP, in the nicest way, you've got yourself into a terrible state. I do the same sometimes. Focus on the positives and what you can control:
you are in love
you are going to get married
you have a dress, whichever one you wear
you are getting married asap, so you can start TTC

In terms of what you can't control, focus on what's most important. That sounds at the moment like it's your dad's health. You have a finite amount of mental elasticity to deal with things, just focus on getting through that one thing.

The first one...it's gorgeous!

First one for sure!

I love the first one. Have a lovely day.

I love number 1, hate number 2, sorry.

How tall are you? I can't imagine at almost 9st you are anywhere near being fat.

I love number one too, it's gorgeous.

Either will look amazing with a floor length flowing cape - something like quality velour, or any fabric you like so long as it is lined will be warm enough.