I have no friends

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Just that really. I have realised during lockdown I have no-one to talk to.
My old friends have either lost contact with me or don't seem to want to know (I always reach out to them and they don't seem interested in maintaining a friendship).
I don't know if it's me. I used to have friends but none of them seemed interested in maintaining the friendship (after eg university) when it was no longer convenient.
I don't know why I'm posting this really, I'm feeling pretty low about it right now.

I hope we can still contributing to this thread.

I have been feeling alienated and isolated for years, and have spent a lot of time naval-gazing and trying to get to the bottom o the issue. For me it was due to the following: a very small family (mother and sister), mother in a different part of the UK and sister abroad. I went to a religious school so cut ties at the first opportunity available, so 'lost' a lot of friends. I went to a university in London (bad choice in hindsight) and made no friends (hated the course but didn't know what to do instead...) and felt depressed about the whole experience. Loitered around for many years, drifting in and out of dead-end jobs/had many, numerous failed relationships - didn't make any friends during my mid-twenties/late twenties. I then dated someone (who looking back on it is on the spectrum Asperger's or Autism) wasted 6 years...we got married and lasted 2 years. Moved around around the country for his 'career development'. Made no lasting friendships.Divorced at 36, found myself living in anew town (no friends) and started to save money to buy a property. Managed to miraculously that aged 37/38. At this point panicking about not having a family/children. Wasted more time with a man in a 'situanship' but made 1 friend....38/39 I get very very desperate as I'm now seeing my life unfold in front of loneliness, isolation....I get pregnant via IVF and a sperm donor aged 39 on the first go. Pregnancy going well and I am so happy about it (it is the only good thing that has happened in years!), but I am so isolated. I keep thinking that baby groups could help me meet people but I have heard so many dreadful stories about them too in terms of feeling isolated etc.

I think on the one hand it is too late. I will have to 'settle' for light-friendships/acquaintances...I'm almost 40 and this is not what I'd expected my life would look like, it's really sad because I used to be popular, well-liked and sociable at school/college. I look and act very confidently in social situations and if only people knew that I had cried myself to sleep so many nights out of sheer desperation and loneliness.

@Yummycakeandcoffee - I have no idea how people keep their friends and have amazing social lives? Maybe by not moving around so much? How is everyone getting on?

Hello, I hope nobody minds me jumping on here. I’m feeling pretty lonely too.. have done for years.
I’m ‘busy’ with kids and do have play dates etc but just feel as I’ve got older I’ve retreated from the world. I used to live in several different countries and was very sociable, but that feels like another life.
Part of me thinks it’s ok to not feel like I have to be nice and life and soul of the party. Then other times I feel like a little island sitting in my house, years going by!

Hi, is there a new link for the whatsapp group?