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How much child maintenence do you get?

178 replies

Childmaintenence · 07/06/2020 13:24

Hope this doesn't come accross as being nosey (absolutely not intended). NC ex gives me £140 p/m for 3yo DD.

Interested in what others get to see whether I'm being unreasonable in challenging this

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slipperywhensparticus · 07/06/2020 13:27

£6.72 a week between two children

wedding2021 · 07/06/2020 13:28

It's based on their salary though so there will be a huge range of answers.

WisestIsShe · 07/06/2020 13:29

@slipperywhensparticus

£6.72 a week between two children
Me too, although only for one. Still it's a win because for years before this I got nothing.

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SunshineSmellsLikeSummer · 07/06/2020 13:31

I get £400 pcm for our 13 yo. It doesn't come close to what it costs me to house, clothe and feed her but he's reasonable with it and also contributes to half of school uniform and other costs.

We don't have a formal arrangement in place but he ups it when he gets a pay rise and doesn't reduce it for extra nights that he has her.

Surprising really - he was quite abusive when we were together but he has reinvented himself as a reasonable man, it would seem!

Thatbitchcarolebaskin · 07/06/2020 13:33

Sweet fuck all. I’m supposed to get over £300 per month but as the CMS are entirely useless, and the military are compliant in assisting him in fucking me over, he gets away with it! He owes over £6k in arrears. The CMS did recently send me £75 compensation as an apology for being so utterly useless Hmm

flamingochill · 07/06/2020 13:38

It's a percentage of salary (if an employee) so it depends how much your ex earns.

longtimecomin · 07/06/2020 13:38

£28 per week. For my eldest. Nothing for my youngest because of coercive control issues, in order to kick him out, I signed away my rights to maintenance. I earn a hell of a lot more than him and he has put child a lot so it was worth it in the end.

Gran22 · 07/06/2020 13:44

@slipperywhensparticus

£6.72 a week between two children
How can anyone genuinely think that can support one child, let alone two? Perhaps there are special circumstances why the children's father isn't able to offer meaningful financial support.
Original poster
Childmaintenence · 07/06/2020 13:54

I'm so sorry to those who get nothing/very little. It's discussing that they manage to get away with that.

Ah yes I understand it should be relative to income. Ex earns around 30k p/a, no additional help beyond CM per month

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DangerMouse17 · 07/06/2020 14:00

Zero.

Also annoys me that its tested on income and they have a certain level of "protected" income.

Regardless of what I earn, I have no choice but to make it work....so why do they get means tested?!!

gamerchick · 07/06/2020 14:05

Bugger all. He offered me 30p once while laughing his head off at me asking.

He doesn't work and any he does pick up is cash in hand. Says my husband took us on so it's his job to pay for the kids.

MushroomTree · 07/06/2020 14:18

£22.70 a month for one child. It's going up from this month to a whopping £25.25. Whatever will I do with all that spare cash? Hmm

OrigamiParrot · 07/06/2020 14:19

I’m supposed to get £12/month for one child. He can’t even manage that, so actually zero.

JoeExoticsPrinceAlbert · 07/06/2020 14:20

I have two kids with my ex and I don't get anything. We split up 6 years ago and he sees them once a month (if that).

Strongswans · 07/06/2020 14:24

£150 a month for a 14 yr old DS with numerous additional needs. He has no access as he was abusive to DS.

ArcWorc · 07/06/2020 14:30

£4.50 a week for a 4 year old.

TakemetoGreeceplease · 07/06/2020 14:36

Currently £280, that's based on a declared income of around 30k and no overnights. It's been higher but for most of the last 10 years it's been around half that, and it's been zero as well. (most of last year). All through CSA/CMS so always the bare legal minimum.

RyanStartedTheFire · 07/06/2020 14:36

£400pm for our one DC.

gemsgv · 07/06/2020 14:38

@SunshineSmellsLikeSummer

I get £400 pcm for our 13 yo. It doesn't come close to what it costs me to house, clothe and feed her but he's reasonable with it and also contributes to half of school uniform and other costs.

We don't have a formal arrangement in place but he ups it when he gets a pay rise and doesn't reduce it for extra nights that he has her.

Surprising really - he was quite abusive when we were together but he has reinvented himself as a reasonable man, it would seem!

why would he pay the total cost?
RyanStartedTheFire · 07/06/2020 14:39

why would he pay the total cost?

She didn't say he should, she said it was a reasonable amount.

MarkCorriganForPrimeMinister · 07/06/2020 14:40

£150 a month. Used to be £0, then £50, then £100 and now £150. It’s a fraction of what he earns and he sometimes misses it but I have got to a place now where I don’t rely on it so if he doesn’t give it me then I’m not left on my arse for the month which is what used to happen.

arethereanyleftatall · 07/06/2020 14:42

I'm not sure whether to respond, but should otherwise the figures will be not an average. £1050pm plus £750pm spousal.

Marble2302 · 07/06/2020 14:42

I have an indefinate restraining order against my ex partner. I don't want anything off him. He never bought anything when we were together for the house or DD. He can stick his money where the sun doesn't shine.

I will never persue him for money. I am fortunate enough to work and earn enough to pay my own way in life and I have a good family who would never see us without.

Yankathebear · 07/06/2020 14:43

Used to be £25 a week for 3 dc. Now nothing because we do 50/50 care which is much better for us all.

mrshectic · 07/06/2020 14:45

I get zero for my 3 children, aged 6, 12 & 13. After being so fed up at the beginning (6 and half years ago), I've got to the point where I simply am not bothered anymore. I provide for my children on my own, if he doesn't want to contribute then that's his problem and he'll have to deal with the fact that he provided nothing for those children.

So I'm proud of my achievements and the people my children turn out to be. It's actually the fact that he has nothing to be proud of with regards to them that is quite sad really.