How much child maintenence do you get?

[Childmaintenence]

Hope this doesn't come accross as being nosey (absolutely not intended). NC ex gives me £140 p/m for 3yo DD.

Interested in what others get to see whether I'm being unreasonable in challenging this

I only ever got the £5 something a week out of his benefits. This was intermittent as he kept changing what he was claiming....sonething I never understood as I've never claimed benefits.

He voluntarily gave up work when we split up because he 'wasn't working to support some other fucker'. He worked cash in hand and CMS did nothing to investigate it because he lied and they said he had a reason to be believed!

We've never needed anything off him. He's never seen his son since he was 4 months old - he's now 22. The way I see it is it's his loss....he has to live with what he is.

He did the same to the four other children he had with different women after we split up.

I have never understood why maintenance isn’t deducted at source . I think that happens in Australia? Apologies if that’s wrong.

£0.00.

CMS were chasing him (slowly and ineffectively, despite having his NI number, name, address and employer info), he officially owes me money. ExH has now been made redundant, so no maintenance is fair enough, but... he was made redundant 2 months ago. He last paid maintenance in Dec 2019 (and only half) and that was the only payment since August 2019. So, £100.00 since August 2019.

I don't even get £5 pw apparently, as he has the DC more than 52 nights a year. Grand.

My ex used to give me £1100 for two kids (big earner) so that they could continue to live in a nice house. Now he has remarried he has moved abroad, didn't say goodbye or tell the kids and won't give me his address. He is now paying nothing. Before he moved he'd reduced it and reduced it, and was calculated to pay £68 a month by the CMS. Another self employed arse on 90k a year paying himself in dividends. It's disgusting that I'm raising his children and paying to do so while he swans about his new life without a care in the world.

@Oldbutstillgotit I agree it could just be applied same as any other payroll deduction. Same with benefits if you have a loan they deduct it so why not with this?

@Gingerkittykat - again, apologies he’s being such an arsehole. I’m sure the system is so flawed it fails everyone, but it’s so frustrating that it’s really letting down the honest people who want to pay as well as the poor mothers who just want the dads to do the right thing and take responsibility.
Basically, if you’re a good person, you’re getting screwed and if you’re a cheat who won’t play fair, you can game it.

Zero.

At one point he asked me for a full breakdown of all my spending so ‘we’ could work out what he thought he should pay. He’s never paid a single penny.

£300 per month, one DC. I think it’s quite a lot, but I’m a high earner and don’t really need it.

I can not believe the amounts of the payments on here
What percentage is it in the UK?
I know we double it how the hell can a mother provide on some of these amounts
Here I think it is 30% of fathers income.

@mumsonthenet. 12% for 1 child, 16% for 2. 18 or 19% (I forget which) for 3+ children. This is then reduced if the father has any overnight contact. It's a pathetic amount and not enforced either.

Mind you, I'd have been pretty happy to get my 16% for the past year...

To add insult to injury, if CMS actually put a payment order in place, you lose some of that, as a contribution to making the twat pay.

Zilch zero nada 🙄

@Oldbutstillgotit It can be.....but unfortunately the CMS in the UK are appallingly rubbish.

I get £60 a month now but for years got nothing. Our dd is the first to lose out when her father is short of money, he'll just not pay. She's 16 now so hardly worth chasing through CMS.

Cms minimum.
After 8 years of him doing everything he could to avoid it. I’m fully aware that he now works at his mates company and is paid a significant amount cash in hand.

If CMS put a payment order in place, you lose 4% of what the NRP pays in ‘admin costs’.

150 but they spend 2 nights a week and he pays for clubs, football etc

£250 pcm plus he pays half childcare fees and school uniform etc. 1 child, he’s on about £30k though I suspect he’s had a pay rise and kept it quiet...

Nothing. He used to be very generous but when his earning power reduced and his alcoholism went up so he decided he needed every penny to support that so that was it, no more child support.

Sweet fuck all. I’m supposed to get over £300 per month but as the CMS are entirely useless, and the military are compliant in assisting him in fucking me over, he gets away with it!

I'm really surprised to read this. When I was in the army to military discipline would be imposed on those who were reluctant to pay with ultimately child support being stopped at source for those who continued to withhold it. It came under the umbrella of "bringing the army into disrepute".

@spacepocket I'd rather lose 4% of something than get nothing and they have to pay an extra 20% too. So it makes no sense to me why a non paying parent would choose to be 20% worse off rather than just bloody pay it

* If CMS put a payment order in place, you lose 4% of what the NRP pays in ‘admin costs’.*

Just doesn’t make sense
Should be split shouldn’t it!

£0 for 4 children hes out of work due to covid

Mine are all over 18 now and I have to say he paid religiously every month for 12 years. But at the rate set at the start of the period. He was self employed, I never asked to see his books.
About 10 years in, he said he was going to reduce it as one was going to uni. I pointed out that due to the cost of living, had reduced it by a third anyway over thr years and it wasn't mentioned again.

He's quite generous to them as young adults; he resented paying to me, as he saw it, in case I spent it on tequila.

@Spacepocket

If CMS put a payment order in place, you lose 4% of what the NRP pays in ‘admin costs’.

I think the admin cost should be either split between the RP and NRP, or the NRP should be paying.

In my case I get nothing. He doesn't see the DC (their choice, it wasn't just me who got abused), so says he shouldn't pay. That I chose to leave so I can pay all the costs. It looks like I should be getting around £30 a month for DS, as DD is now over 18, but we've been gone for 3 years so he should have paid much more. I've never see it though.

I'm giving it one last attempt. I'm a single parent getting some benefits while working and living in rented accommodation, while he swallowed up my savings (and claims I gifted him the money) to ensure his house is mortgage free and he has thousands in the bank. It would cost me money I don't have to try and get my savings back from him. Although I'm thinking of seeing if I can put a charge on his house.

Yes, we weren't married, more fool me. But I was scared of him, and now realise his primary relationship is with his wallet and keeping his money to himself.

It was 200 euro per month from birth to last year and then he offered to up it to 350pm. This is not court ordered and for one child in Ireland.