How much child maintenence do you get?

[Childmaintenence]

Hope this doesn't come accross as being nosey (absolutely not intended). NC ex gives me £140 p/m for 3yo DD.

Interested in what others get to see whether I'm being unreasonable in challenging this

£50 a month for one child. Most the useless bastard has ever paid.
I report him every year for tax evasion but HMRC don't seem that interested.
It's hard not to think that the system is set up to allow men to avoid supporting their children financially.

£5 a week for 6yo DS. Through CMS he doesn't technically have to give me anything so I should be grateful

£7 a week for 2 kids...

@SunshineSmellsLikeSummer I get £400 pcm for our 13 yo. It doesn't come close to what it costs me to house, clothe and feed her
That’s very unusual to spend more than £800 a month on food,clothes and an additional bedroom.

£0 for 2 children, although technically one isn't relevant as she's at uni (which is obviously super cheap!)
Has been that way for over a decade.

@Thatbitchcarolebaskin have you contacted the welfare office? Not that you should have to of course, but it is very hard to avoid paying it if in the military, and it means someone along the way is complicit in it. Highlighting it to the welfare cell should help them fix it.

I'm supposed to get £130 a month for my 4 year old. I have had one payment of £52 in 12 months and he owes thousands in arrears. He just changes jobs every time the DOE is set up and works cash in hand. The CMS do nothing and have been useless as far as I'm concerned. I can support us without his money luckily.

Wow some deadbeat dads around. I’m in Aus but it works out to be about £550 a month for one child. I have full time care because she’s young but he sees her frequently. He pays for other stuff too.

£500 pcm for two kids.

We pay my DSS mum £250a month, we pay his phone contract and buy him everything he needs for our house and hers.

Incidentally he stays at our house 4 nights a week and her for 3, he has for a number of years. Dh earns circa 40k and we’ve 2 children of our own.

Cms are shocking, she has lied to them for years and says that he only stays at our house 2-3 nights a week.

We’ve challenged this and unless court ordered they don’t care.

They could take the word of my DSS given that he is an adult at the end of the year, but they don’t.

The way we see it is that we don’t have to pay it to her forever... she should in fact be paying us.... but that’s by the by.

Once he finishes school next year the payments to her are finished.

Naff all. He doesn't work.

It was £161 per week. But as soon as they (2 DDs)went to university it stopped. They are now home with me and eating me out of house and home. Any offer of any thing - no zilch. They’re still paying for accommodation at university so can’t ask for anything from student finance. Student finance is taken on my income so they get nearly the full amount about 100 per month each short that I’m suppose to make up. He does generously splash the cash on holidays and Christmas.

Nothing here either. He's disabled due to alcoholism and thinks the top up that I get in benefits is is for raising his child and knows that CMS won't persue him.

As another pp has said, I don't need his money. Especially from a narcissistic, arsehole like him who would use maintenance as the ultimate control, or so he thinks. It's ok, there's no contact and I've been told it drives him nuts that I won't ask for anything. Wanker 😡

Sweet FA here too 🙄

Ex remains perpetually unemployed and sponging off his girlfriend

@BeyondDreamsOfBeyondFourWalls

Good job these kids have got us!

yes it is!

£550 pm for 2 DC. Unfortunately due to distance he can only have them overnight in school holidays.

Not a penny in 16 years.
His father stopped working and didn't claim benefits (must be living off the ow). More fool her.
Has chosen not to see ds. Probably to embarrassed that he doesn't pay a penny.
At the end of the day hes missed out on a relationship with ds. I've never had to say a bad word about his father he's worked that out for himself.

Nothing. Not even the steam off his piss for christmas or birthdays.

My ex also moved to the other side of the country so can only have them in the holidays. Yet he wanted 50;50

I'm genuinely horrified at these responses. 0 or next to 0 just should not be an option.

We get £8.61 a week of DSD’s Mum. I do get her share of CB though (£13.40 a week) and about £25 a week in TC.

So say my hubby only paid the same it allows us £56 a week. It does costs us more than that to keep her day to day, we didn’t move to a bigger house so we were paying the bills here anyway and meals when you’re already cooking for 4 another mouth isn’t a huge impact.

However her bus pass is £12 a week, dinner money £10 and £10 a week pocket money. £10 a month phone (giff gaff) so there’s £34.50 a week gone straight away so I guess her using the electric and food probably is covered in the left over money. It’s the school uniform, normal clothes, toiletries, hair cuts, days out etc that it all adds up.

I’d be happy if her Mum paid £30 a week

£7/wk 1 child

Nothing the CMS calculator says it should be £500 a month. He says he is considering paying and he is putting money in a bank account for when he is older.

I don’t want to apply for CMS as he was abusive and I don’t want to make him angry or have a hold over me.