Drag queen at wedding

[wedding2021]

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

Haha I'd love it, I hate weddings, all so samey and boring. A drag queen would properly liven things up. Keep the swearing in

I get confused all the time.
Am I the only one who has to scroll up sometimes, or have another tab open, just to make sure you're reading what your seeing?

Sorry @canigooutyet I'm not getting what you're on about. Might have missed some of your comments. What does being around drag artists all your life have to do with me?

Oh. A poor attempt at sarcasm. Good luck having 2 tabs open on the app

Oh @wedding2021
@lordfrontpaw

Brilliant idea. Get married as Drag King and Queen

@PuppyPuppy

God MAP 🤢 I think someone referred to them earlier and had her post deleted. Shame.

We should be inclusive and embrace them though until they overstep the mark and actually break the laws that surround their "preferences" according to some pps

I did see a video where a drag queen turned up in full wedding gear and a veil and ‘crashed’ the wedding as a jilted ex.

@crustycrab

It was my quote you used and then asked if I had been around Drag. Which I have, all my life

It wasn't sarcasm, it was a genuine question, as sometimes I scroll up (phone) or have a tab open (anything bigger)

Oh fuck @crustycrab yea why did I answer, just scrolled back up. 😂

This place would be so much easier with a like function

@crustycrab I don't believe it's right to tar a whole group with the same brush.

Not all pride events are like the one listed. Yes there are seedy characters out there but they are not lurking behind every drag queen or gay person are they. As @canigooutyet said lots of pride events aren't like that. I wouldn't dream of attending the one in London much less taking DS but most are lovely events were inclusivity is embraced.

I don't understand why people feel that all drag queens have a certain attraction towards young children. It is simply not true.

As I said yesterday some politicians in the tori party had attractions to young children. I don't believe that every single member of the party do though.

As a teacher I've been put into situations where male children have expressed an interest in dresses and makeup. Why the hell should I say no it's wrong? Why can't they do it? Do I think it's a form of bashing women because they want to do it - absolutely not. It is attitudes like this (that all drag queens have attractions to young children) that has resulted in bullying and suicides. Would you dream of saying of Fred likes to sleep with other men, some men who like to sleep with other men may be attracted to children therefore Fred should not be allowed near children? No - didn't think so!

As for why I (as a straight person) go to pride events it's because my best friend who is of the LGBT community has invited me along. I don't use it as a I'm a cool person because I've gone, I went because she asked me too and I'm not opposed to it

I did see a video where a drag queen turned up in full wedding gear and a veil and ‘crashed’ the wedding as a jilted ex

That sounds well funny, I'd much rather that than a magician

@canigooutyet

So the drag artists you've been around are just simply men in dresses? They won't make much of a living.

There are no issues with men wearing dresses. So I don't really understand your point. A man wearing a dress isn't drag

I'd definitely try and find somewhere else to sit or try to slope off early. Really not my thing at all.

My god @grumpyorange it's like bashing my head against a brick wall.

Where have I said a boy can't wear a dress or play with make up or whatever? Where have I said drag queens are sex offenders or attracted to young children? I haven't. But your main argument has been based on your beliefs that

1. We should "embrace" anyone, however they choose to live as long as it's illegal.

1. We should call men "she" as and when they tell us they feel it's warranted, such as whilst they are in drag.

1. That a woman's right to a safe space away from men when she needs to change her sanitary towel, for example, doesn't matter anymore because the need to appear "inclusive" trumps it.

1. That most Pride events (except London bizarrely) are lovely, inclusive events.

I disagree with all of these opinions for the reasons I've given you repeatedly. The embracing of fetish and the claims that anything other than accepting that is "bigotry" has set women, especially lesbians, back decades. All women. But very very few men, if any.

As for your rosy view that Pride events are lovely.

"I wouldn't dream of attending the one in London much less taking DS but most are lovely events were inclusivity is embraced."

Tell that to the children who were objectified by men in fetish gear last summer in York, Glasgow, Stoke-on-Trent and Lancaster. Tell it to the lesbians who weren't welcome and who were assaulted, attacked and called bigots because they refuse to have sex with men. At Manchester, Swansea, Lancaster, Brighton and yes, London Pride events.

I'm sorry but no. The normalisation of this through the insistence that we need to be "inclusive" above anything else is what is allowing abuse of our children to happen in plain sight. On the street, during a celebration where their parents are stood right there with them as the police look on. Repeatedly, in the pup tent, in the cosplay tent and in the MAP tent. Over and over and over all day.

I'm sorry this is long but you have spent the past day and a half hammering anyone who dares to raise these issues and suggesting they are bigots. They aren't. We need to protect our children.

I think you run the risk of alienating the half of your guests who don’t find drag humour amusing, because it’s typically crass.
At a gay friend’s birthday party, a drag queen told my DP that women are terrible at blow jobs because there’s too much teeth. Well, I wasn’t aware I chew, also as a gay man, how would he know? He was vulgar, and so self obsessed he bored me. My first and only experience with a drag queen.
It’s your day, you should do as you please and I agree most weddings are a yawn fest but a band, karaoke, party games, a treasure hunt, quiz are all safer bets.
My pet peeve is there are usually no ice breakers at weddings, so it’s all up to you as a guest to small talk and mingle, often with people you don’t know and have zero in common with and it can be hard work.

1. We should "embrace" anyone, however they choose to live as long as it's illegal

Very pretty sure said legal there, was that a typo?!

@crustycrab and I disagree with your opinions

1. We should "embrace" anyone, however they choose to live as long as it's illegal.

Could you please explain why you think this is wrong? Why shouldn't people be allowed to live within the law and be free to dress as they please. My whole arguments are referring to drag queens. As it has been all along. I think you'll find the men who had erections were arrested at a later date and now have a criminal record.

1. We should call men "she" as and when they tell us they feel it's warranted, such as whilst they are in drag.

When a man is in drag they are a she.

1. That a woman's right to a safe space away from men when she needs to change her sanitary towel, for example, doesn't matter anymore because the need to appear "inclusive" trumps it.

I said I didn't understand what sanitary towels had to do with it. I still don't. The argument is there that women may be uncomfortable going to the toilet next to a man however to say it's only because they get periods is stupid. What about women who don't have periods by your logic they wouldn't have an issue because it is only women changing sanitary towels who needed that space. I have never been in a toilet in a public place where there were gaps at the top and bottom of a stall the only place I've ever seen that is in schools.

1. That most Pride events (except London bizarrely) are lovely, inclusive events.

Most are. How many events have you been to? Have you attended any at all?

After having a close family friend who bing himself because he came out as a drag queen and faced the sort of abuse that some posters have said on this thread I am passionate about it.

My whole argument has been around drag queens. People should be embraced in life. They shouldn't feel so bullied and harassed that they kill themselves to escape it.

Obviously I copied and pasted what you said but I presumed you meant legal as I said not illegal.

Well, like TeeBee, trying to bring the thread back to what the OP asked, rather than going off on a complete tangent like most of this morning's posts.....

Regardless of what any of us think about drag acts, to me the idea of booking a 'cabaret' (of any kind) for your wedding is just odd

^What if the drag act was just singing, no cabaret or jokes?
Would that be OK?^

@LemonadeAndDaisyChains For me (and just offering my opinion as invited) - No, I don't want to sit through 'a concert', 'a performance', 'a show', 'a variety act' of any kind at a wedding. That was kind of the point of my post. Fine, if the singer or band were there to blast out some covers and get everyone up dancing (though I'd still prefer a DJ for the length of set and variety of music - but that's just my preference). The point is, I don't want to have to continue to be sitting at the table I've been at for another hour r more, after the two hours or more I've been sitting there for the meal, which came after the service and the photos.

I love a show / concert / singer / gig if that is what I'm going to, in the evening, in my local venue, but, for me, I don't understand the need for it at a wedding. That was the point of my post.

@crustycrab you are nasty. So because I’m part of the LGBTQ community I’m seedy.

Fuck off!

@crustycrab
No, I don't. Hence I'm kicking myself that I misread your quote. I abhor all the stereotypical hatred.

During the sit-down and eat bit.

Anything would be better than a room filled mainly with the sounds of people trying to eat. Random people standing up in an attempt to be funny. (oops make the speeches)

Also sorts out the - ooh I don't want to sit at that table - next to that person. Seriously what is it about weddings, and suddenly you are bombarded by guests saying I don't like/want and making demands. No wonder people run away to get married, the moaning will be easier to deal with.

@Livingonachair

Where did I say you're seedy?