To have to run so I can eat Sunday roast?

[Jellywormy]

No doubt posters will link this to other threads and be mean, but posting as really upset.

We are going to family for Sunday roast tonight and my husband has just had a go at me and said it’s unhealthy and worrying that I have to go for a run to allow myself to eat Sunday roast.

Am I being unreasonable? I would just feel so anxious if I ate a big meal and pudding without having offset it somehow.

Feeling vulnerable so please be kind

It is worrying I’m afraid OP if the thought of eating what most would consider a regular Sunday meal makes you so anxious that you feel you have to run before you can eat it. Do you have a disordered relationship with food generally and is it something you’ve sought help for? I’m sorry - it must be an anxious way to live your life

A big run won’t offset a roast and pudding but ok

Yes that’s extremely worrying
And more worrying that you can’t see it.

It’s all well and good to do exercise either before or after and think oh now I can treat myself.

But it’s a different level if you are getting anxious and you won’t partake and enjoy something BEFORE you eat

It is a bit worrying and unhealthy op.

That's disordered thinking.

YANBU at all
Your husband is being a bit of a knob

I run so that I can reward myself with all the mayonnaise I can eat ha!

Naturally I would feel sluggish after a large Sunday roast, so for me a run beforehand would (in my mind) offset that sluggish feeling

Run. As much as you like. He's being an arse

Burning it off with exercise is no better than bulimia

You sound like you have an unhealthy attitude to food

I get what you mean, our cheat days used to be on a Saturday and i would try to burn off as many calories as i could in the morning to enable me to eat what i wanted during the day. Looking back now (my life has changed a bit) i just feel i was putting in so much effort for a little reward. But advice to you would be to enjoy the meal, eat better/healthier during the week if you can, and enjoy a little naughty food every now and then!

@whiplashy now you have made me really worried- I only justified it as I had run.

If you're running because you're anxious about the calories you're consuming then yes it's a problem.

Sorry OP but that is not a healthy attitude and suggests you have a disordered relationship with food.

@TrebleBadger great to hear someone else does it too!

Do you have any history of disordered eating?

You know you don't have to eat a big portion? You could just have one Yorkshire, veg and a small portion of meat with one or two roast potatoes.

It’s the anxiety about eating that’s the issue. Plenty of people offset food with exercise

But most people don’t spiral into anxiety if they don’t manage to do it

@TrebleBadger did you not see that the OP said how anxious she would be if she didn’t run? That’s not normal behaviour around food. A healthy approach to exercising is fine but that doesn’t sound like this is what this is. And it may do the OP more harm than good if she feels that other people are validating these feelings.

No @Jellywormy
@TrebleBadger isn’t doing like you do. Clearly. And if she is, she’s hiding it well.

@Jellywormy I don't see any issue with running before or after any meal as long as you are enjoying the run

I understand trying to achieve balance etc but actually ticking off 'I can eat a Yorkshire pudding if I run for X miles/do Y squats/swim Z metres' is classic eating disorder/exercise addiction thinking.

Your h is right to be concerned . Exercise because it's good for you or you enjoy it. Don't use it to justify eating a roast.

It’s not a bad thing to balance exercise and diet but if the idea of not going for a run makes you anxious and panicky thinking about the calories then that isn’t a healthy response.

MN isn’t always great place to post eating habits though, as there are a lot of funny attitudes to food and exercise on here. You could eat nothing all day but 3 raisins and a celery stick and still have some posters acting like you’ve eaten a bargain bucket by yourself.

@TrebleBadger
Either you have an eating disorder too, or you have literally no idea about them.

It’s not about the run. It’s about the anxiety

Unless there is a back story of unhealthy eating no you aren't. Sun roast is a lot of calories so offsetting some makes sense. I use my fitness pal and eat my exercise calories.

If more people thought asking the same lines in a healthy way we might have less of an obesity issue in the country.

If there is about to be a drip feed of eating issues though I take back what I said

Well obviously there is a back story
The first thing the OP says is I’m sure you’re going to link to my other posts.

I haven’t, because there is no point. I can guess what they are