To have to run so I can eat Sunday roast?

[Jellywormy]

No doubt posters will link this to other threads and be mean, but posting as really upset.

We are going to family for Sunday roast tonight and my husband has just had a go at me and said it’s unhealthy and worrying that I have to go for a run to allow myself to eat Sunday roast.

Am I being unreasonable? I would just feel so anxious if I ate a big meal and pudding without having offset it somehow.

Feeling vulnerable so please be kind

Hi OP please speak to a doctor about this, this could be disordered eating and may be a type of bulimia. Bulimia can manifest itself in a few ways not just purging by throwing up but by abusing laxatives or obsessive exercise.

If you are already at the low end of a healthy weight this may be why your husband is expressing concern. It isn't healthy to have to justify every big meal with exercise.

Please consider speaking to someone, you shouldn't be experiencing stress from having an occasional large meal.

I exercise every single day and have done for the last 14 years. I have a terrible relationship with exercise and food etc
It’s a slippery slope
Also sometimes you eat more thinking that the exercise has offset it when it really hasn’t
I need help myself with this tbh so not much use to you! Other than a mirror to your own issues perhaps

@Runningonempty84 you really need to do some accurate research.

On AVERAGE, you burn 100-150 calories per mile run.
I'm pretty sure she's not running a marathon every Sunday before lunch.

You're also forgetting that even if this WAS the case (it isn't, because you're talking shite) that a roast and a pudding is around 2000-3000cals on average.
So even if she ran a marathon distance to burn off those calories, that would reset on on zero calories for that day and she'd still need to eat 1000-2000 MORE calories on top of the roast and pudding to be healthy.

Exercise is amazing.
Food is amazing.
Only doing one of the above correctly is the complete opposite of amazing.

Jellywormy it might be an idea to look up 'exercise bulimia' and see if any of that sounds like you?

I've got close to it in the past, but I've now found a healthy balance and a stable weight... hopefully!

a roast and a pudding is around 2000-3000cals

That sounds like rubbish - a roast is some meat, potatoes and vegetables. Probably about 600 cals. A pudding is about 300-600 depending on what it is.

Absolutely no way you are burning 2000 calories off the back of a run. When I was training for a half last year, I was burning 700 at most off of 10-12 mile runs.

And this is why most of the UK is overweight. You know you're going to have a big meal so you exercise to try and burn some of those calories before. It's not unhealthy it's quite the opposite!

This is complete bollocks and has no bearing on why the UK is overweight.

I'm educated in this industry, and is creating a unhealthy relationship with food.

Sounds like you know you’ve got an issue with food OP hope you can get some support with this.

I don't think this is a good place for this thread. The body is built to exercise and eat. it becomes efficient at conservation of expending energy when exercising over time and efficient at storing fat when food is restricted.
I'd recommend looking at books about Intuitive Eating and ignoring specific diet related advice on here.

It is an unhealthy way to view food, so yes your dh is right. You should not feel a need to do this.

I'm curious to where the 2000 calories come from for a roast, the veg usually will be low calorie wise, also a few slices of meat isn't high calorie wise , the worst is the roasties and Yorkie but none of it gets to 2000 calories.

Yes @HeresMe so true.

@BeijingBikini not the places I eat!
My local independent gastropub does calorie counted meals.
But look at the calorie count for a wetherspoons roast (for example). Easily over 1000.
Yorkshire pudding (ton of oil), meat, gravy, mash, roast potatoes (cooked in fat), swede mash, broccoli, peas, carrots, more roasties....!
Puddings are 600-1500 depending what you have and if cream/custard/ice cream on too.

People are far these days because they have zero idea of the calories they are eating.
I account for those calories on my weekly total so no problem.
But I don't underestimate them.

Evening, everyone. OP, as you're feeling vulnerable we think this might be best moved to Chat where the replies are likely to be a bit less 'bald'. Thank you to everyone who has replied so far though.

For the record, OP, both having a run and a eating a roast sound like perfectly good and healthy ways to spend a Sunday. We hope you enjoyed both, but we do think it's a shame if you feel like you aren't allowed to enjoy one without the other.

I would feel like you OP. I couldn't eat a big meal without exercising before. I like earning my food and feeling hungry. I love running, cycling and swimming so it isn't a problem, I can't just stuff my face without earning it and genetics mean that I have a very low BMR, if I didn't run I would probably only be able to eat around 1200 daily without putting on weight.
You probably are a but obsessive as I am but as long as you enjoy what you are doing don't worry.

For the record, OP, both having a run and a eating a roast sound like perfectly good and healthy ways to spend a Sunday.

Yes, but how do you keep the gravy on the plate?

But look at the calorie count for a wetherspoons roast (for example). Easily over 1000.
Yorkshire pudding (ton of oil), meat, gravy, mash, roast potatoes (cooked in fat), swede mash, broccoli, peas, carrots, more roasties....!

I'd take you seriously but wetherspoons don't do a roast and haven't since 2016.

A Sunday dinner once a week isn't harmful, the attitudes are.

@Heresme

I never said wetherspoons currently do roasts, did I?
I said look at their calorie amounts as an example, as they are easily still found on MPF and online, whereas my local indie pub in my example that gives calorie amounts is not viewable to all on here unless you want to visit there and view their menu.

Likewise, I never said a roast was harmful.
Completely the opposite.
I eat their roast AND their dessert and don't give a flying fuck, because I know how many calories it is and allow for that in my weekly total.

@BobbyBlueCat

You are comparing something that doesn't exist though, plenty of chains still do.

Choosing something from 4 years ago is completely useless as cooking methods may have changed since then.

Yes, but how do you keep the gravy on the plate?

Boom boom!

Not read the whole thread, but sorry I'm with you DH on this one - you "have" to run in order to "allow" yourself to have a Sunday roast?
That's not a healthy attitude around food, sorry.

I'm a runner and enjoy the fact I can eat what I want and stay the same size. But if your husband has said this then it does sound as if you're neurotic about it.

Try to skip the odd run and still have Sunday lunch- it really will be fine!

None of us are experts here Op and don’t fully understand your personal circumstances but my advice from someone who’s suffered with anorexia and bulimia since I was 12 is that whilst I am in ‘recovery’ I still can’t eat certain foods if I don’t exercise first. I would be wracked with guilt. All the therapy in the world hasn’t pushed out those disordered thoughts unfortunately.

Maybe go and speak with someone but one instance is not clear enough to give you a formal diagnosis I don’t think.

There's a lot of terrible advice from people who seem to have their own issues with food on here. It doesn't help to justify "earning" food and estimating calories on a thread where a person has anxiety around food and exercise and is at the lower end of healthy weight.

A roast is not junk food, it's a meal of protein, veg and carbs. It sounds like talking to someone irl about your anxiety would be more helpful.

A roast is not junk food, it's a meal of protein, veg and carbs

I agree, was thinking the same.
A roast dinner is a perfectly healthy meal, with meat, potatoes and vegetables, but there seems to be several people on the thread going on about calories and justifying it to themselves.