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Cheeky laundry fucker.

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Sofacat · 24/02/2020 18:53

My dd has recently started a new job . A chap that works there travels from wherever he lives and stays in a hotel for the week and goes home at weekends.

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her , saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with.

My washing machine is on it’s last legs as it is without doing a cheeky fuckers bloody washing as well !

I wouldn’t mind but it’s Monday , he’s had the weekend to do his own washing.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

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Sofacat · 25/02/2020 20:49

CLF wasn’t in work today, I will update when dd sees him.

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BoomBoomsCousin · 25/02/2020 21:57

Did she leave his laundry by his desk, or is she hanging on to it to give to him face-to-face?

Palavah · 26/02/2020 07:50

Just leave it by his desk!

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Sofacat · 26/02/2020 18:03

She’s waiting to see him but he’s not been in again today. Dd thinks he’s avoiding her.

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CoraPirbright · 26/02/2020 19:27

If he goes home every w/e, why on earth does he need any washing done anyway? Surely he should just bring enough to see him through the week if this is a regular thing? Totally weird all round.

mathanxiety · 26/02/2020 19:43

OP, she shouldn't tell him she 'can't do it.' This is making an excuse unless she says she can't do it 'because his request for this service was totally out of order'.

mathanxiety · 26/02/2020 19:47

He is a predator because he is asking the young woman to handle his used underwear. There is a sexual undertone to this.

It's not at all in the same category of general sexism, examples of which would be assuming she would make him some coffee or do his photocopying.

ThePawtriarchy · 26/02/2020 19:49

It’s perfect that he’s not in, she can just leave it by his desk. Otherwise say that her mum took the bag to the charity shop by accident and tell him which one Smile

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Sofacat · 26/02/2020 20:16

It is all very odd, dd said the bag weighed a ton and there is underwear in it , which he said to her that there wouldn’t be Hmm

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 26/02/2020 20:30

there is underwear in it, which he said to her that there wouldn’t be

And why exactly would he bring up the issue of his underwear (except for the obvious reason)? Hmm Since his job involves staying in a hotel, it may not be a stretch to imagine his idea of payment could involve dinner and maybe more

Red flags all over the place ...

fastliving · 26/02/2020 21:08

Why did your dd say yes?
This is one of the weirdest threads/situations that I've ever read on MN (been here since it was all fields).
Did you tell us how much he offered to pay her?

Original poster
Sofacat · 26/02/2020 21:09

Dd didn’t say yes or no, no payment amount was discussed.

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Sofacat · 26/02/2020 21:10

*wasn’t discussed

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Palavah · 27/02/2020 00:21

Do you know what, on reflection I don't think she should leave it at his desk. She should take it to the HR department and leave it with them, tell them what happened and let him collect it from there.

He's creepy AF and she shouldn't have to deal with him/it any more.

mathanxiety · 27/02/2020 05:04

So he left her a nasty surprise.

What he is doing is like flashing.

I agree that bringing the bag to the HR department and lodging a complaint would be a really good idea. He could pick it up there himself.

wrinkledimplelover · 27/02/2020 05:39

I also think she should take it to HR. Or if she's in a small company, her (female) boss and explain what happened.

My DH works in an industry where men (usually, not women) are staying in hotels of have to travel for work a lot. I've worked somewhere where (again mainly men) would be travelling to. Never have I EVER heard of one who asked ANYBODY to wash their clothes. Sometimes guys who were on the road for quite a long time would get invited to family dinners by my boss (Male), because a home cooked meal is a real treat after hotels and eating out a lot. In over a decade of this though, I've never come across one (or heard of one) even mention their laundry!

I'm betting he's given it to DD complete with underwear and is shutting it so will come back to work with some family drama to make sure he's a victim and nobody can be angry with him.

Give the bag to HR or her boss, tell them what happened and then she doesn't have to think about it again. If he does come back with a sob story (real or not) DD needs to offer no apology for him having a bag of dirty laundry sitting with HR/boss, just say she thought it was a joke, of course she wouldn't be washing his underwear and leave it at that.

wrinkledimplelover · 27/02/2020 05:40

*"shitting it", not "shutting it"

wrinkledimplelover · 27/02/2020 05:44

btw at her age I'd have taken it home (I was living alone) and most likely done it! I was a total walkover and no boundaries. Things have changed now!

Now we have the "be kind" message everywhere, it actually makes it harder to say No to people, because that's not "kind". So while DD was taken off guard, I bet she wouldn't be alone in that.

isthismylifenow · 27/02/2020 05:49

This just gets more creepy OP.

The fact he said there is no underwear in there in the first place. But there is. Then he hasn't been back since he gave her the bag.

What has she done with the bag?

Shoveoff · 27/02/2020 06:22

Why have you even opened the bag?

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 27/02/2020 06:38

@mathanxiety is a switched on poster at the best of times and I agree on this occasion - your recent updates prove that on balance there’s likely to be a sexual undertone to some young woman washing his chuddies.

Your daughter is a young woman of 22. If I were you I’d be encouraging her to monitor the work situation for a few weeks in case there are any more incidents.

As a mum I’d be wanting to give her boss a punch in the cock.

PenelopeFlintstone · 27/02/2020 06:40

btw at her age I'd have taken it home (I was living alone) and most likely done it!
Me too. I wouldn’t have minded for some extra money, so long as there was no underwear. This is assuming she’s got a junior role though.

Ginfordinner · 27/02/2020 06:49

Laundrettes are as rare as hen's teeth where I live.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 27/02/2020 07:11

It doesn’t matter. You don’t ask a 22 year old staff member to do it for you. You ask a mate.

SueEllenMishke · 27/02/2020 07:24

I would be leaving the bag near his desk then emailing him to explain why I wouldn't be doing his washing. Then there is a record of it should anything escalate. If it genuinely is innocent then it might make him realise it's not the done thing.

But it is incredibly weird and inappropriate.