Cheeky laundry fucker.

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My dd has recently started a new job . A chap that works there travels from wherever he lives and stays in a hotel for the week and goes home at weekends.

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her , saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with.

My washing machine is on it’s last legs as it is without doing a cheeky fuckers bloody washing as well !

I wouldn’t mind but it’s Monday , he’s had the weekend to do his own washing.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

Point him in the direction of the local launderette.

I think sexist too

Of course it's sexist. Not to mention taking advantage of the new, young member of staff.
If he desperately needed washing doing then the logical thing to do would be to ask a colleague he knows well but no, he chose the young female member of staff.

I have a 21yr old DD and there's no way she would have agreed to this, especially as the washing machine is not even hers. Doesn't that make your DD as much of a CF as the bloke

Of course the DD is not a CF! She lives in the house and therefore uses its facilities🙄 plus she doesn't actually seem to have said "yes"

This man is a predator.

Ridiculous. He's just a cheeky, sexist pig

OP your DD should dump the bag by his desk with a note that either says "sorry, our washing machine is broken" or "Laundry isn't part of my job description" depending how assertive she is feeling. Whether or not she should go toHR/her boss depends on what his future actions are IMO.

It's not just sexist he is also taking advantage that she is young and only just started so not confident , still finding her feet.

Good on her for taking it back unwashed. That's her first step in standing up for herself in a work place.

I assume this was not the mans first week staying in a hotel. Well he's managed to clean his own clothes up till now.

It is cheeky and quite mean.

Even if the hotel doesn't have laundry, there's services that will do it for him and deliver it back (I know, because I use one for the washing myself). Of course he asked her because she was a young woman, and of course, being a young woman, she was taken-aback in a new job and said OK - she really wasn't prepared for the question (and who would be - we just get better at saying no as we get older)

My service charges 18 quid per 6 kilo bag, with a 20 quid minimum - that's just washed and dried and roughly folded. (which when you work out the labour involved is fair enough). She should charge similar and tell him she can't do it again.

She’s not going to make a fuss over this , she said she will put the washing next to his desk and tell him she can’t do it.

She is kicking herself for not thinking quickly enough but I would guess lots of us have been caught on the hop and been able to think of a better response to a request after the event.

Let us know what his response is when she hands his sweaty clothes back to him!

I assume expected them to be ironed and folded, too?

Otherwise she could have put them through on a rinse cycle on Friday evening, and bundled them (soaking wet) back into the bag and given them to him (still soaking, and smelling faintly of mildew) on Monday morning.

I would suggest to you did:
Don't wash it, don't damage it.
Just leave it next to his desk.
Speak to your manager and let her know what happened.
If/when this guy asks you about the laundry say "what, you weren't seriously asking me to do your laundry?"

I say this on the understanding from your posts that she didn't actually say yes (she just didn't say no and took the bag) and that he hasn't given her any money.

He can find a launderette himself, he doesn't need your DD to do that for him. It's no more her job than doing his laundry herself.

Do NOT say you haven't done it because the machine isn't working!!

Oh and I would be saying "oh, you weren't serious were you?!" With a smile and a laugh.

This is a good lesson for your daughter and great that nobody will do the washing. This is the kind of thing that would have caught me on the hop as a 22 year old. I wouldn't have known how to react in that instance and so would have probably taken the bag and got really angry with myself (and done the washing and hated myself for it). Maybe talk through with her different ' on the hop' scenarios so that she has some protective skills in the future. This kind of stuff will happen again!

I read your initial post, OP and thought this is exactly the sort of thing I would do. I'm fairly timid and can't come up with responses quickly. Good for her that she's going to return the washing unwashed.

This is crazy.

I think he was very strange to ask, and I agree it's sexist to ask the only woman, but why on Earth didn't she just laugh, look puzzled and say no!?

She would kd benefit from some assertiveness training, the world is sadly full of cheeky entitled people!

Yes, oh I realised you were playing a prank on the new girl, it would be so inappropriate to actually ask someone at work to do your washing.
Or just 'I thought about your request and I don't have any intention of getting into the laundry business.' Avoid apology.

Goodness gracious, you do learn some stuff on MN. I've worked in several male dominated environments and wouldn't stand any sexist nonsense from any man, superior or not. However... I wouldn't have hesitated or thought twice about doing a colleague a favour and doing a bag of washing. You'd think the WOMAN (not a young girl) had been asked to give HIM a wash with all the pearl clutching on here.

It's.Just.Laundry, not chemical waste, I doubt his clothes are any different to yours or mine! I wouldn't have thought it sexist, just more that he thought I was a nice person who would help him out.

All those saying to chop the sleeves off his shirts, or put a red item in with it, what is wrong with you?? He offered to pay, it's not his fault she didn't say no! He isn't a CF or a mind reader, he doesn't know the OP's washing machine is on it's last legs, or that they don't have anywhere to dry the stuff inside.

Bloody outrageous request.

zebras why ask the new girl? Why not a (male) colleague he knows well?

Of course the DD is not a CF! She lives in the house and therefore uses its facilities🙄 plus she doesn't actually seem to have said "yes"

For herself yes, but my DD would ask my permission first before agreeing to use the machine for any other Tom,Dick or Harry. And unless the bloke frogmarched her into the house laden with his washing at gun point OP's DD presumably did agree.

She didn’t say no but she didn’t say yes , a price wasn’t agreed on either.

"Oh no thanks, I hate doing my own as it is!"

my DD would ask my permission first before agreeing to use the machine for any other Tom,Dick or Harry.

She didn't agree. She was given the bag and didn't think quickly enough or have the confidence to say no and got left with it

Of course she isn't a CF. 🙄

How bizarre.

Any launderette will do this. It's called a Service wash - you drop the clothes off & pick them up at the end of the day, washed, dried & folded.

She could suggest he does that instead.

A chap (or woman) in a hotel each week, working away from home, may be a bit lonely at times and would appreciate a home cooked meal. Why not get your daughter to ask him over one evening for dinner and then you'll get the measure of the man. However if you are mean spirited about putting some stuff in a washing machine, I doubt you'll want to feed the man.

pahahaha!

SueEllenMishke Maybe because he thought she was a nice person...? Maybe others have done washing for him before and he doesn't like to keep asking?

She didn't agree. She was given the bag and didn't think quickly enough or have the confidence to say no and got left with it

Oh so he'd already bought his dirty washing in with him and thrust it into her hand as soon as he asked her? Sorry, I didn't realise that. How presumptuous of him!