Cheeky laundry fucker.

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My dd has recently started a new job . A chap that works there travels from wherever he lives and stays in a hotel for the week and goes home at weekends.

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her , saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with.

My washing machine is on it’s last legs as it is without doing a cheeky fuckers bloody washing as well !

I wouldn’t mind but it’s Monday , he’s had the weekend to do his own washing.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

Who agrees to do a complete stranger’s washing? New job or not it is an incredibly stupid thing to do.

You could always do the washing but 'accidentally' leave that bright red, non-colourfast jumper in the machine at the same time ... he won't be asking your DD to do his washing again.

This isn’t necessarily sexist but it’s off the scale odd!! Why would anyone ask an employee to take their clothes back to their house to wash?! That is so creepy, I hope there’s no underwear in that bag, yuck! I’m not surprised your DD didn’t know what to say. I’m well versed at saying no and I’d have just stood there with my jaw on the floor if someone had asked me to do this. She needs to take it back and just explain she was put on the spot and in hindsight it’s not something she’s comfortable with.

Of course it's sexist to assume a female professional colleague would be willing to be used as a part time washerwoman.

Why didn't he ask the males to do his washing for money?

The DD needs to bring this up with her HR department.

Since she already brought the washing home she needs to do it, but she needs to tell him when she returns it that she only said yes because she was so flabbergasted at his cheek.

And yeeeerughhh at the thought of handling and seeing his tighty whities in all their used glory. What sort of undignified mummy's boy is he?

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her, saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with

Absolutely. Am not sure why she wasn’t so furious when he gave it to her though.

Tell her to take it back unwashed tomorrow-say your machine isn’t working.

I'd just leave it at reception and ask reception to tell him there's a package there for him, to come and collect it.

I wouldn't even dignify him with a conversation. He'll try his luck elsewhere.

Your DD needs to start looking for a new job asap.

This young man probably gets all the new 'girls' to wash his keks for him.

Presumably the other woman working there has run this gauntlet, unless she was there already when the young man started working there.

And DO NOT wash it. He’s crossed a line, a massive creepy CF line and he needs to be told! Surely the hotel can suggest a launderette. How people don’t think he’s a CF is beyond me. He’s asked another employee to fondle his dirty clothes!

He's been at home this weekend so I can't work out why he didn't do his washing there.

It's because getting a young woman to see and handle his worn underpants, and treating female colleagues as if they are there to do tasks that are beneath him turns him on.

She needs to mention this to her line manager and state that whilst she is willing to get involved in all aspects of the business, in line with her job description, she is not willing to do a colleague's washing.

No reason why he can't do his washing at home at the weekend, if he puts it on on Friday night it has the rest of the weekend to dry. Or he needs to familiarise himself with the local launderettes during the week.

I actually agree having seen other posts that she shouldn't do this laundry. Yy to bringing it to the hotel and dumping it there.

She needs to go to HR.

How old is dd?

But your daughter said yes?! She needs to hand the washing back and say no. Or do it as a one off and say dont give me any more.

Is this real 😂 this is the stuff of nightmares for me, someone I don’t know handing me their dirty laundry 😳😂

Dd is 22 .She’s not normally a pushover but the more she thinks about it, the more she’s pissed off.

This is hilarious!! I would have just laughed, said no thanks And walked away. She shouldn’t even have touched the bag let alone bring it home.

He's bonkers to even ask, but your daughter is weird for taking them off him!

Yes it's his sexist views that made him ask her (and not the female boss), but your daughter needs to say no.

I'd be interested in what was actually said by him and why on earth she took the bag?!

Unless he was in some way forcable or made it seem like it was part of the job (doesn't sound like it since he offered to pay) then I can't really see what reporting him to HR will achieve. Yes he's a sexist pig, but your daughter could have said no.

Put it to a dry cleaner and get her to give him the ticket tomorrow. If he wants his clothes, he can pay to get them

Weird for him to have asked imho. Very odd behaviour.
Just tell your dd to take them back to him and say the washer has broken, don’t ask me again.
I can’t imagine doing a stranger’s washing. Undies and everything yuck.

Your DD has a bad default position.

The default answer is No to anything under pressure. Not yes. Her default position when in doubt was to say yes. This is the route to a life of resentment.

If in doubt, if wrongfooted say "I'll think about it and get back to you."

If pressure continues say "If you need an immediate response then it has to be a no."

These should be the words that just fall out of your mouth automatically when someone asks for something and you aren't sure what to do.

Do not tell him the washer is broken!

"Hey CF, I don't know what you were thinking yesterday. No way am I washing your socks for you. Well, not for less than £200 a wash! Here's your pants back. See you later. Byeeee."

TorkTorkBam I do agree with you but I expect lots of us have been caught in an awkward situation and it’s only when we’ve had time to think that we realise we’ve taken on something that we don’t really want to do.

This isn’t a young man either- he has grandchildren!