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Cheeky laundry fucker.

210 replies

Sofacat · 24/02/2020 18:53

My dd has recently started a new job . A chap that works there travels from wherever he lives and stays in a hotel for the week and goes home at weekends.

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her , saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with.

My washing machine is on it’s last legs as it is without doing a cheeky fuckers bloody washing as well !

I wouldn’t mind but it’s Monday , he’s had the weekend to do his own washing.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

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Nousernameforme · 25/02/2020 07:54

Total Cf trying his luck. I would take the washing to hr and report him then he can go and pick it up and explain himself.
Of course his explanation will be it was a joke ffs he didn't expect her to actually do it etc etc.

AvocadoAdvocate · 25/02/2020 07:55

I can imagine my 22 year old self being caught out like this. In fact it wasn't until I reached my 40s that I learned to say no, and now in my 50s it fair rolls off the tongue. Return it and say I've thought about it and actually I'm not comfortable doing your washing. Interested to know who was doing his laundry before your daughter joined the company?

notthemum · 25/02/2020 07:57

This is not sexist. It is him being a Massive CF.
Put it by the desk, tell him where the launderette is and say. I do not take in laundry.
No further discussion required.
Let us know what happens.

SueEllenMishke · 25/02/2020 07:57

Hmmmm I'm very doubtful zebra more like she's young, new and unlikely to say no. Especially when he's got the bag with him.

I've known people who live in hotels during the week and they've never asked a colleague to do their washing. They do it at weekends or use a launderette/laundry service.

longearedbat · 25/02/2020 07:58

When I read this I first thought it must be a young chap away from home and mummy for the first time - I think it's a very odd thing for a mature person to ask. However, the OP's daughter only had to say 'no'; one little word. A very important word to learn, otherwise she will be on mumsnet for the rest of her life with problems like; 'my neighbours parcels keep being delivered to me' or 'I have ended up giving someone a lift to work every day' or 'another school mum expects me to take and collect her child from school every day'.

Candymay · 25/02/2020 08:01

Whoever suggested inviting him over for dinner ant be serious? Hilarious. So this older man now comes to the 22 year old’s house for tea too? Whilst she washes his undies he could be having an aperitif.

Palavah · 25/02/2020 08:03

Ha ha @ZebrasAreHorsesInPyjamas very funny.

Juliette20 · 25/02/2020 08:03

Can you imagine him asking a male colleague to do the same? No, me neither. It's sexist.

AlexDrake1981 · 25/02/2020 08:04

Bishybarnybee

I totally agree with you. I would laugh in someone's face if they asked me to do that now. However, at 22 and 2 weeks into a new job (where, let's face it, you're trying to be super helpful and wanting to make the best impression), I'm not sure if I would.

Totally sexist though imo. He could have asked anyone he works with, but he chose the young, female newbie Hmm.

Juliette20 · 25/02/2020 08:07

I think at 22 I'd have laughed at him and thought it was a newbie initiation joke, like going to buy a tin of rainbow paint.

ZebrasAreHorsesInPyjamas · 25/02/2020 08:21

@Palavah Wasn't intending to be, which bit? Just offering my viewpoint. If that's what's so funny then okay.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 25/02/2020 08:45

He is being a CF and a presumptuous misogynistic twat

CryptoFascist · 25/02/2020 08:59

Of course it's sexist, or he'd have asked one of his many male colleagues, rather than single out the new woman at work. Can't believe people are saying it's not sexist.

Bedroomdilemma · 25/02/2020 09:09

Good god, can’t believe the people who don’t think this is sexist and completely out of order. And saying that she should do them anyway! Returning the unwashed clothes is by far the best thing to do here, good on your daughter.

FinallyHere · 25/02/2020 09:14

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Not sure he is actually a CF for asking. Being arsey if she refused would mean cheeky fuckery in my book.

Absolutely ridiculous ask but the ball is really in her court to laugh out loud at ridiculous suggestions. And not just do anything she is asked to do. Where might it all end?

Basic adulting, I'm afraid.

If I was somehow landed with someone's washing, I would give it back saying it never thought you were being serious, thought it was just a joke and went along with it. Albeit a joke with the funny bits missing.

What able bodied person would give someone else their washing to do

Having RTFT, I notice I too am different to my 22 year old self. In those days I was very conscious of being successful in a mostly mans world and would not have gone along with it. Nowadays, I might talk him through other options, treating him as if he were genuinely in need of help.

PP up thread pointed out the danger better than I have of going along with things under pressure. What is DD planning in order to prepare herself better in future?

People at work as elsewhere are more likely to respect people with strong boundaries

ineedaholidaynow · 25/02/2020 09:15

Maybe he has previously asked everyone else in the office and they have said no.

However, it seems very odd to have brought his washing in on a Monday morning in the hope that someone would do it for him. Surely you would ask round the office first and then bring it in. Also why would he have washing on a Monday if he has been home for the weekend. Maybe he has been kicked out of home for being a sexist pig. Or maybe it is an office joke that is played on newbies.

Nowayorhighway · 25/02/2020 09:36

I think it’s sexist personally, yes. He’s seen a young woman and figured she’d be too afraid to say no, he knows the men would’ve pointed him in the direction of the closest launderette and the rest.

Damntheman · 25/02/2020 09:53

Poor DD. What a shit thing to do to a person! Single out the youngest woman in the office and treat her that way. She's right, it IS sexist. Best of luck to her today, I'm glad the washing wasn't done.

FinallyHere · 25/02/2020 10:08

His motivation may be sexist ...

our most deadly weapon to respond calmly, being comfortable in being assertive. And if you are not like that naturally, practice til it becomes second nature.

Learning and practising skills that serve us well in all situations sounds like win to me.

TulipsTwoLips · 25/02/2020 10:17

I think it's cheeky and sexist.

Instead of being furious though, I think your daughter needs to learn how to say no!

Peridot1 · 25/02/2020 10:24

He is definitely a CF. And sexist obviously.

I think your DD just needs to say ‘I haven’t done your washing as I really don’t feel it’s appropriate. I didn’t say anything yesterday as I was a bit shocked to have even been asked.’

If he says anything else she needs to go to her boss.

At 22 I could imagine having been so shocked I wouldn’t have been able to say anything either. I’m 55 now and would have torn a verbal strip off him now however!

NemophilistRebel · 25/02/2020 10:47

I’m surprised the amount of people saying they don’t think this is sexist

Must put up with a lot of bad behaviour to feel like that

NemophilistRebel · 25/02/2020 10:48

I’m not too sure even if I could do the laundry and wanted the money that I would want to touch some dirty laundry of a bloke I hardly knew.

pinkyredrose · 25/02/2020 14:10

What happened today OP?

Bluerussian · 25/02/2020 20:03

NemophilistRebel Tue 25-Feb-20 10:48:36
I’m not too sure even if I could do the laundry and wanted the money that I would want to touch some dirty laundry of a bloke I hardly knew.
......
Wear rubber gloves? That's what people do who work in laundries (I worked in a laundry when I was at school, loved it).

Anyway I am dying to know what daughter said to the man today and if she did take his dirty clothes back to him.