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Cheeky laundry fucker.

210 replies

Sofacat · 24/02/2020 18:53

My dd has recently started a new job . A chap that works there travels from wherever he lives and stays in a hotel for the week and goes home at weekends.

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her , saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with.

My washing machine is on it’s last legs as it is without doing a cheeky fuckers bloody washing as well !

I wouldn’t mind but it’s Monday , he’s had the weekend to do his own washing.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

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Sofacat · 24/02/2020 22:29

Bishybarnybee I agree, we all learn by our mistakes, I am very different now compared to my 22 year old self.

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coconut21 · 24/02/2020 22:51

He offered to pay. Get her to drop it off and say that will be £300 please.

Mamia15 · 24/02/2020 22:52

Not everyone learn - you read so many CF stories on here and nearly always the victim says it's not their first time and admit they have weak boundaries.

Ariela · 24/02/2020 22:54

She should go in early, leave it by his desk with a list of local dry cleaners/laundry companies that offer a service wash locally stapled to it.

Pollyputthepizzaon · 25/02/2020 04:12

Oh course it is sexist!! He didn’t ask any of the men did he. She needs to bring it up with her boss and practice saying no.

He asked, she accepted so maybe she should do it this time but be firm next time that she doesn’t have want to.

FredaFrogspawn · 25/02/2020 04:22

Is he her superior at work or her peer?
It’s very sexist.
She should resist making broken washer excuses or saying sorry she didn’t do it. She needs to say you caught me on the hop but on reflection it was inappropriate and sexist for you to have asked. Have your washing back and never ask me again.

Then she will have learnt such a great lesson at a relatively young age.

Pixxie7 · 25/02/2020 04:40

As he has offered to pay, I would charge him per item as they do in a laundry I doubt he will ask again.

JRUIN · 25/02/2020 05:26

I have a 21yr old DD and there's no way she would have agreed to this, especially as the washing machine is not even hers. Doesn't that make your DD as much of a CF as the bloke. I mean at least he offered to pay. All she needs to do is bring his dirty washing back to him explaining that you're not happy so the deals off, and then practice being a bit more assertive.

PlumsGalore · 25/02/2020 05:28

@coconut21 ha ha yes! That’s the way to go, then refuse to hand back his washing until he stumps up.

It’s a ridiculous ask, does he bloody well want it ironing too? He is a CF IMO, fancy thinking its ok to even ask this. DH working away now for a week at a time for six months, I would die if I thought he had asked this of someone.

Also why TF can’t he drop them off at a launderette on Monday for a service wash and collect later?

mathanxiety · 25/02/2020 05:33

This isn’t a young man either- he has grandchildren!

Oh the dirty old git.

I can totally understand her being caught ok the hop. I bet her vulnerability shines through
[Bagofoldbones]
This ^^
This man is a predator.

BoomBoomsCousin · 25/02/2020 05:56

If I were your daughter I would be tempted to hang on to it and not mention it. Then when he asks just say. “What? Do your washing? Don’t be daft. Why would I do your washing?” And walk off, looking at him like he’s a bit odd.

Then perhaps leave it by his desk a few weeks later, because I’m not actually in to stealing.

MiniGuinness · 25/02/2020 06:09

Why didn’t she say no. If she thinks it’s sexist she needs to challenge it.

Bluerussian · 25/02/2020 06:13

Ladyratterley Mon 24-Feb-20 18:55:06
He’s not a CF if he asked, offered to pay and your daughter took the laundry without saying anything.
....
That.

Not all hotels offer laundry service - in fact a lot don't. There may not be a laundrette near where he stays. He'll be able to iron in his room though, all hotels will provide an iron.

I'd do a couple of loads of washing for someone in that position, male or female - and have - why not? He is happy to pay, it's not just a favour. He asked, she could have declined.

He probably does take washing home at weekends but he may need stuff that he has worn during the week.

You say your washer is on its last legs but presumably you are still using it so it isn't quite dead and when it does die, you'll replace it.

It's not for you to do, he asked your daughter and I'm sure she knows how to use a washing machine. Of course you can dry washing indoors, I do it all the time, it hangs on clothes airers and dries fairly quickly. Not a big job at all, no hard work involved.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

That is unnecessary and mean in the extreme.

I thought we were all meant to give each other a helping hand at times but in this case, he will pay for the service so it isn't just a favour.

Your daughter was probably embarrassed to ask you as would most with a mother like you. One of the reasons I was keen to leave home early was because my mother was so inhospitable and unhelpful.

A chap (or woman) in a hotel each week, working away from home, may be a bit lonely at times and would appreciate a home cooked meal. Why not get your daughter to ask him over one evening for dinner and then you'll get the measure of the man. However if you are mean spirited about putting some stuff in a washing machine, I doubt you'll want to feed the man.

How can you be so sure the man asked your daughter because she is a woman? It could just be that he likes her and finds her friendly, easy to talk to. Don't jump to conclusions.

caffeinefix · 25/02/2020 06:42

I think he's cheeky and a little entitled. Definitely give it back and tell her to say it's not on her job description.

caffeinefix · 25/02/2020 06:42

In not on.

oldmum22 · 25/02/2020 06:43

If you have a local launderette, get them to do a service wash , give him the ticket for collection and get him to pay for it.

Your DD needs to practise being assertive . It is CF of the highest order .

Eddielzzard · 25/02/2020 06:48

What an arsehole. I wouldn't say anything, I'd just leave the unwashed bag by his desk.

rwalker · 25/02/2020 06:50

He asked and she said yes he has offered to pay it's totally her fault . Think you just need to suck it up and she'll say no if he asks again.
There could be many reasons he couldn't do it at home form when I work away it's difficult to get it dry ready for setting off back.
All the guy has done is ask she said yes so out of order saying you will do it and then don't.
She agreed to do it so wrong to take it to dry cleaner then present him with bill.
Really sorry but what type of person thinks it acceptable to ruin (red sock in wash) somebody else's property .
If you really feel that strongly about after she agreed the best option would be to say washer broken not destroy his stuff.

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Sofacat · 25/02/2020 06:54

Of course you can dry washing indoors, I do it all the time, it hangs on clothes airers and dries fairly quickly. Not a big job at all, no hard work involved

There are 3 of us in our house, there isn’t a day at the moment when there is no washing hanging on airers drying- I really don’t want any extra clothes to dry.

Why not get your daughter to ask him over one evening for dinner and then you'll get the measure of the man

I could do , I work shifts , I don’t want to entertain a stranger- I am not mean spirited, I help people that I want to help.

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Sofacat · 25/02/2020 06:55

Really sorry but what type of person thinks it acceptable to ruin (red sock in wash) somebody else's property

I was joking.

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alphabunny · 25/02/2020 06:58

😂 at the suggestion you should have him over for tea to 'get the measure of him'!

Not sure we can necessarily jump to the conclusion that this is a power trip from a dirty old man, but it is 100% inappropriate and sexist- especially to ask the 'new girl' who would naturally probably feel less able to say no.

I would not make a HUGE deal about it- I would return the washing, say that she's not willing to do it and have a discussion with line manager.

isthismylifenow · 25/02/2020 07:00

I am sure we have all been caught out at some point in life and didn't respond as we just didn't know how to. She is 22 so just a young girl. Life lesson this one. I think next time someone tries to take advantage of her, she will speak up.

isthismylifenow · 25/02/2020 07:01

Why would you invite him over for dinner???

He would probably think to himself, oh yay, dinner cooked and washing night.

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Thinkingabout1t · 25/02/2020 07:03

Staying all week in a hotel must cost a fortune, which suggests he’s on a good salary and therefore is old enough to have heard of laundrettes! If not, it would be kind to tell him.

NemophilistRebel · 25/02/2020 07:07

Yes it is sexist unless he’s quite happy to ask a grown man to do his washing for him and pay him for the service which I highly doubt

I was in a very similar company, only young female and used to get asked to do all the dogs body ‘pink’ jobs just because I was female