Cheeky laundry fucker.

[Sofacat]

My dd has recently started a new job . A chap that works there travels from wherever he lives and stays in a hotel for the week and goes home at weekends.

He has asked her to do his washing for him and has offered to pay.

Dd didn’t know what to say and has come home with a bag of his washing. She is furious that he has asked her , saying that it’s sexist and a bloody cheek, which I agree with.

My washing machine is on it’s last legs as it is without doing a cheeky fuckers bloody washing as well !

I wouldn’t mind but it’s Monday , he’s had the weekend to do his own washing.

I’m tempted to bung it in the machine with a red sock !

Cheeky fucker, tell dd not to think any more about it, to give him back the laundry tomorrow and say the washing has not been done.

Sofacat I have every sympathy with her. That's why we should all train ourselves to have an auto-response of "I'll think about it"

He is a CF though...cut the arms off his shirts he won’t ask again 😆

Totally inappropriate of this bloke to ask in the first place. That is very odd!

Is there a HR dept? This stinks of sex discrimination.

I would be tempted to buy a cheap, "sexy" g-string and send it back in the middle of his unwashed clothing.

I would have laughed in his face in the first place, but I am older than your daughter and refuse to put up with crap any more. I think this is a good lesson for her, actually and I bet she won't do it again! I also bet he wouldn't have asked a male to do it either....

Your DD took the laundry? That’s just as weird as asking her to do it in the first place.

Tell your dd to take it to the launderette In the bag and ask for a service wash. Give CF the ticket. Up to him if he collects or not. If he says anything she can look at him, laugh and say oh surely you didn't mean ME to do it?! Then never get caught like that again.

Putthebinsoutalan she could also ‘forget’ which laundrette she took it to !

I think she’s just going to leave it next to his desk .

I agree to drop it off at a laundrette for a service wash, give him the ticket and say breezily "I dropped it off for you as a favour since you aren't local - now you know where the laundrette is you can drop it off there yourself in future."

Yes he's a sexist arse, and yes your DD should have refused to do it in the first place. However now she has the washing she has to salvage the situation by putting him on the back foot, so he will know never to take advantage of her again because she has the measure of him. If she goes to HR, or gets a new job and leaves, she will lose the opportunity to gain the upper hand.

Every thing mathanxiety.

He is fucking creep. No way would he have asked any of the blokes or an older female.

I can totally understand her being caught ok the hop. I bet her vulnerability shines through.

OP tell her to allow herself to get utterly pissed off and angry about it. Sometimes when we are younger it takes time for incredulous things to sink in so we can see them for what they are.

I’d take them back and dump them in reception and when he asks where his laundry is tell him it’s been sat stinking in the bag.

I wouldn’t even trouble my self to drive it to a laundry!

I second cutting the arms off his shirts!

Or you could wash the pants and sellotape the ankles ends inside - iron them and he won’t be able to get his feet through - again. Works great that actually —yes I have done that to some one—

She’d best learn to be more assertive or she’s in for a rough life.

Yes leave it next to his desk. If he says anything she should laugh and say she thought it was a joke of course! Pretty risky leaving the comedy laundry with her though - who knows what her team did to it ha ha! So funny.

If he says he was serious. She should look him dead in the eye and say "Oh, it never crossed my mind that you meant it. Well, oh dear, you've been misinformed I don't do stuff like this. Try asking Big Mick The Knife over there, he always has nicely pressed shirts, he might help you out."

Has she actually washed it? And what did he offer her money wise? I’d definitely be asking for that and saying no more, there’s a launderette somewhere dying to do you a service wash, you CF!

No she hasn’t washed it and he didn’t say how much he would pay her.

DingleberryRose I think many people could do with being more assertive, you only have to read some of the threads on MN to realise this.

I am amazed that he asked and amazed your daughter said yes.

I have never anything so odd.

Your daughter needs to learn how to respond to situations in the workplace, and this man needs to learn what is and is not appropriate.

When I was 22 I would have laughed and said no way - new or not. I work with a lot of younger staff, graduate entrant so around your daughters age. I can’t imagine any saying yes to this, in fact they would be very quick to complain to HR (quite rightly).

Your daughter needs assertiveness training, or a mentor

If he goes home every w/e, why on earth does he need any washing done anyway? Surely he should just bring enough to see him through the week if this is a regular thing? Totally weird all round.

I do hope she doesnt do it, takes it back to him and says sorry I didnt have time, you will have to take it to a launderette. Its so weird/creepy/CF

Thinking about this - I've never had a CF moment, I must have that sort of face and body language that does not invite people to take advantage of me.

CFs seem to be able to accurately sniff out potential victims. I think DD needs to learn how not to come across as a doormat - the fact she actually took the dirty washing tells us that she needs to toughen up.

I wonder if the people being so dismissive of your daughter were always so sure of themselves in real life. At 22, you are still trying to work out your place in the world. A much older bloke assumes she will do something, she's in the first weeks of a new job and obviously wants to get on with everyone, she feels uncomfortable but can't quite put her finger on why, she reflects on it and realises he's out of order. That's how we learn to be assertive. Next time she'll be more likely to trust her insticnt. Perfectly normal. At 22, you are mostly independent but do need to check.in with friends or family for a sounding board from time to time. Not weird at all.

One day I'm going to set up a MN virtual reality assertiveness role play course where some of us play the CF and the others have to say no. You have to say the no out loud. If you make stupid excuses, lie or say sorry you lose.

Obviously agreeing to wash your colleague's clothes for a non-specific amount of money is a definite fail.

Also still providing free lifts to someone you hate to a club you stopped going to 5 years ago after you moved 20 miles away, all because you "don't like confrontation."

Mamia15 we all live and learn eh ?