Inconsolable teen. So sad for my boy

[AlwaysRememberUsThisWay]

My husband and I adopted our son and he’s now a lovely, warm, loving, generous, sensitive 13 year old. He’s been playing online today with ‘friends’ and got into a bit of an argument with one of them about the game. This boy said ‘well at least my parents didn’t leave me’. He’s absolutely heartbroken and so am I. He has always been a little ‘different’ and has struggled with friendships but is so resilient and just goes with it, spending lunchtimes at the gym at school and tagging along really. He has some friends but no real firm friendship group. He’s confided in one or two people that he’s adopted and the word must have got round to this boy. I don’t even know why I’m posting-I’m just sad for my precious boy.

Unfortunately adoptees are often lectured throughout their lives upon what they are really feeling or what has or hasn't affected them I agree with this (it has happened to me in this thread in fact!) but what I do think is that whatever the problems are, they can be overcome, in an empowering sense, it is possible even if it does not always happen, is what I meant.

jellycatspyjamas I am confused about what I could be projecting about and think you probably mean "misreading" rather than "projecting", but in any event if as you say I have no sense that my children’s losses are worse than others - I’m not sure where you get that idea from. Nor have I said healing isn’t possible then that is excellent, and somewhat close to what lurker said which you quoted at the beginning of your long post. So I am glad that that is all cleared up.

In fact, I agree with all of what you say @IamDisappeared