How do you deal with horrible, random messages from men?

[minou123]

I had some diy work done in my house before Christmas and I hired a self-employed guy to do it.

I had his telephone number to arrange time/date of the work. He spent 1 day in my house completing the work. I kept out of his way and spent the day completing paperwork in my bedroom.

He has just (tonight) what's app me saying
"Minou, I think I heard you masterbatIng when I was at your house. You turned me on. You up for some"

What the fuck? I barely spoke to him and I certainly didnt do what he saying I did.
I have not replied to him.

Has anyone else had similar? What did you do? I'm a little concerned because he knows where I live.
I'm I being precious and should laugh this off? Or should I be concerned?

Eww that's horrible.
Where did you get his number from?

So this is someone with a reviewable business?

OMG! That is awful. No advice;as thankfully I've never been in this situation,no doubt someone will be along soon who is wiser than me. Bur I think you've done the best thing in ignoring him.

PickwickThePlockingDodo

My neighbour recommended him. My neighbour has done loads of work done in his house and said he was really good.

And he was good at the work. I just didnt it comes with sexual harassment

"Minou, I think I heard you masterbatIng when I was at your house. You turned me on. You up for some"

Seriously?

Tombakersscarf

Yes. I can review his business. I have screenshots of his message. But what if he gets aggressive? He knows where I live.

I should have mentioned I live alone.
I hate this. I'm strong person, why does this shitty man make me feel scared in my own home?

Is this true? If so he's disgusting. I would name and shame him on Facebook by showing screenshots of what he said.

I can attach the screen shot of his message. I've deleted his number and my real name

I would 100% name and shame him. How dare he use your number to sexually harass you! What a pig.

I'd absolutely report him

Never had this but what I would want to do is post the message on his social media page for all to see. What I would actually do is to show message to DP (will leave he outcome to your imagination). If no DP or one who isn't good at 'confrontation', I would, just before blocking them, send a strongly worded response eg Dear Bob I assume this message was sent to me in error. Regardless, your retainment of my personal details breaches GDPR regulations..With immediate effect you re required, by law, to securely destroy any information you hold.on me
Should you make any further contact your messages will be used as evidence in a prosecution of harassment.

Oh yuk,

Block and ignore.

I had something a little bit similar. I responded, after stewing for ages, about how to put him in his place.

'In your dreams mate'

In return I got a kind of apology that said the initial proposal was sent by a friend of his son - yeah OK

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I would tell the police, personally. See what they say.

You lost the impetus by not immediately responding so he knows you are scared/worried. Get typing and blocking!

Ew, how vile. What a creep. I was also wondering if it could be a police matter? Unsolicited messages asking for sex? I don’t know though x

And he can't spell!

'sum'

Block and ignore.

But then he's just going to go right out and do it to other women. Why should he get to stay in business if this is how he treats women? I'd be sharing the screenshot far and wide, personally.

That is so gross. He writes like he's very immature.
Show your neighbour the texts. If he does lots of work for her he might lose the work.
Put those screenshots in the bad review you'll leave him.

Anyone who sends those kinds of messages get off on your reaction, angry, disgusted, panicked, whatever.

Imagine being him, sitting at home waiting for a reaction that never comes. Until he realises he is completely and utterly irrelevant.

That’s why I choose to block & ignore,

I just called 101. She advised to not block and collect the messages as evidence.
But if I feel they are too much, them block.
She said dont respond.

A police officer is coming round tomorrow to take the details.

Thank you so much for all your advice. It has really helped. I'm pleased that no one thought I was being precious.

TARSCOUT you are right. That's the bugger with what's app that it shows the other person you have 'read' the message. By the time I came on here for advice, he was a couple of messages in. I have not 'read' any further messages, just seen them come up on my home screen when they come through. I have not clicked on them.

I am so glad you called police. Most people would have been too scared to so that's why I suggested the other options. Well done you!

I would also show your neighbour, so they know what he's like.