My 15 year old wants to try weed

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This is a ridiculous and hipocritical situation! My dad tells me everything and I should be happy that she is so honest and open. I knew this time would come, but assumed that she would sneak off and do it secretly. I suppose I thought it might NOT happen as her friendship group is mostly religious and culturally they just aren’t going to take any drugs or try alcohol. But dd is curious. She wants to do it at home with a friend! I don’t know whether to agree to this. I am also considering getting her the weed, so I can make sure that she doesn’t end up with something too strong.

This is a ridiculous situation. I’ve taken shed loads of drugs myself but I don’t know how to respond to this.( She doesn’t know I have taken ANY drugs...mostly she has assumed and I haven’t corrected her!) WWYD?

Grow the fuck up, OP.

Regardless of your view on Cannabis, at this time it is an ILLEGAL DRUG.

Stop trying to be her friend and be her fucking parent.

There's having an open relationship with your kids and then there's buying drugs for them

You're her mother, not her friend. Kids need boundaries.

Think about what this habit would be funding - slave labour and/or other criminal activity. Have a read around.

I smoke weed. It is 100% legal (legal age recreational 21, medicinal 18) where I live. If I had a 15 year old I would still say 'no'. Just as I would say no to providing them with alcohol (legal age 21) to 'see what drunk feels like'. Do I feel like a hypocrite? Not one tiny iota.

Yes, she'll probably sneak off. Just as I did (back when the Earth was cooling and it was illegal). But there is something about doing it without parental permission that reinforces that you are doing something 'wrong'. And the fact that you have to go home and be around your family afterwards often keeps a teen from over-indulging to a stupid degree. I know those were big factors to me when I was 15.

Agreeing to this would involve saying it is OK to break the law.

When you buy something illegal you don't know what you are buying. Yo are putting your life in the hands of some dodgy dealer.

Modern cannabis is not the same as the comparatively mild drug that people bought in the 60s. Try reading this article BBC: Most cannabis being sold illegally in the UK is super-strength skunk linked to a higher risk of psychotic mental health episodes

If you want to know what cannabis induced psychosis does to a teenager's brain, read Henry's Demons and article by his father, the journalist Patrick Cockburn. Cannabis is an addictive drug that damages young minds irreparably. Make sure your daughter understand this.

If you tried to convince your child that MH problems are a possible consequence, and none of your extended social group have had any MH at all, your argument is weaker

Chances are those that experienced the consequences are mixing in very different circles now that you wouldn't want your child to end up in.

**So, it’s not normal for me that 15 year olds follow parents instructions

It might be a good idea to make it normal for your DD then.

15 is so young. I didn't try it until my twenties. I really would caution against sanctioning something that is proven to affect teenage brain development in such a big way.

As others have said, she will probably sneak around and try it, but I can't imagine letting my kid until they're 18 at least. It's just so young

I think Restless gave some very balanced sensible advice a few pages back. It’s great you can have open conversations with your dd about drug use (my own DM would have screamed the place down). I do think it’s problematic for all sorts of reasons if you buy weed for her: the legal implications, her age, normalising drug use. Teenage brains are still developing and there is the risk of a psychotic reaction - and weed ain’t what it used to be, lots more psycho-active compounds in it. I can completely understand that it feels safer to let her try it with you but it does take you from parent to mate territory. Make sure she’s well informed and knows she can talk to you openly.

I don't think OP is returning to the thread, but I do still believe opting to 'support her' to try and minimise the risk is pointless. The chances are she's probably only broached the subject on the chance that if she's already/or planning on smoking weed and you catch her out then she can roll out the 'well I did ask you to support me' excuse. Seriously, no 15yr old goes to their parent and states 'hmmm, I'm curious about weed, can I try it with your consent (and purchasing) at home, to be safe?'. Yes, there's many teens smoking weed. Plus dab and xanax are also currently the rage for the teens. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean your mum has to say yes to it too.