My 15 year old wants to try weed

[Fingernail]

This is a ridiculous and hipocritical situation! My dad tells me everything and I should be happy that she is so honest and open. I knew this time would come, but assumed that she would sneak off and do it secretly. I suppose I thought it might NOT happen as her friendship group is mostly religious and culturally they just aren’t going to take any drugs or try alcohol. But dd is curious. She wants to do it at home with a friend! I don’t know whether to agree to this. I am also considering getting her the weed, so I can make sure that she doesn’t end up with something too strong.

This is a ridiculous situation. I’ve taken shed loads of drugs myself but I don’t know how to respond to this.( She doesn’t know I have taken ANY drugs...mostly she has assumed and I haven’t corrected her!) WWYD?

Right OP
You either say no and install the point that it isn’t right. Yes she might try it behind your back but she’ll always know it’s wrong

Or... you can say yes and lead her to believe it’s not so bad if mum allows a bit, so this opens up to more frequent use

This is kind of dodgy reasoning- would you get her heroin to try at home if she was curious? After all, it might stop her sharing needles! See how ridiculous this sounds? At some point in parenthood you have to just say no. Kids need boundaries to feel safe. She can try weed when she’s an adult. She doesn’t need to rush into stuff she’s to immature to cope with. You can’t just get her whatever she wants out of fear she will do it anyway as that train of thought will never end will it?!!

This is a very irresponsible and bad idea

@AlexaShutUp, yes I think that is what I am going to do. I think just make it really clear that if she DOES try it, she can call me to collect her and I won’t be angry

I think I’m just trying to avoid the being out wasted somewhere, where she gets into trouble/whites out and no one helps her

And you didn’t answer about not smoking it yourself.

Are you for your disability?

Educate her then. Talk talk talk and more talk about the repercussions of smoking it.

Mental health problems
Feeling sick
Paranoia
Lethargy.
More vulnerable to sexual assault
The damage it does to your lungs
The damage it does to your brain.

If she’s not able to cope with an adult conversation about the side effects they she defiantly not ready to try it

Please don't buy weed.

Regardless of how harmful it is to someone smoking it (and my personal opinion is that it should be legalised), buying illegal cannabis fuels human trafficking and slavery, and horrors such as those 39 poor people found dead in the back of a lorry last year. Please don't give money to these trades.

Just this week the BBC ran a large feature on it, although this is nothing new: www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-51176958

@PGtipsplease why are you digging up my history??

I haven’t smoked weed for probably 20 years. I actually did try it again about 6 years ago to see if it helped with pain from my disability. But it didn’t. I was just in pain and stoned. I HATED the tobacco and couldn’t be bothered to fart about with tobacco less paraphernalia

What dothe parents of your Daughters friend think about you supplying drugs to their Daughter ? Hopefully they are on the phone to the local cop shop as i type. If i was them i would make sure the whole town knew you were a pusher, then i would make it my lifes work to make you suffer

@Lockheart and your laptop and mobile phone undoubtedly contain conflict-minerals which are mined by child-slaves and fund terrorist organisations.

Plenty of homegrown weed available for those that want it

@lowlandLucky I asked that question. She apparently is allowed to smoke at home with older siblings

Posters do realise that some people smoke weed like you probably all enjoy a glass of wine or whatever??

Honestly I think you're understandably very much being swayed by your own experiences here of being your daughters age. Which sound very different to your daughters circumstances. But really reflective that you're stepping back to figure out what is driving your thinking on this.

Also on some of the other points, cannabis is illegal, whereas obviously alcohol isn't so aside from the criminality aspect, there's the whole impact of the illegal drug trade to consider.
I'm not sure how you know for sure that going to a dealer is safe unless you already do? Or how you will get 'mild' cannabis? I'd be really surprised if anyone was selling anything on the street that wasn't really strong and chock full of THC. Which does have a link with psychosis, even for some unfortunate people after minimal useage. It's really not 'safe'.

I hope you find a way through it all

Hopefully they are on the phone to the local cop shop as i type. If i was them i would make sure the whole town knew you were a pusher, then i would make it my lifes work to make you suffer

Christ alive

@Fingernail I never said they didn't. But two wrongs don't make a right.

And if you read the article, you'll see it's homegrown UK weed that's the problem.

Maybe try googling the impact of weed on the immature brain? Weed is not harmless, but for most people is not a big deal after the age of approx 25.

Over age 25, somewhere like Amsterdam, where it is legal and quality controlled? Fine. Age 15, purchased illegally, and contaminated with God knows what? No way. You need cop on and parent her.

@applebobbin thank you for your more sensible post

Whilst I haven’t smoked for decades, many of my friends have/do. Obviously middle aged adults have established decent supplies/suppliers of mellow smokes. Lots of homegrown, so removing the dramatic criminal underbelly/international trade aspect

My eldest sons friends mum used to buy it for her son and all his friends and let them smoke it in the house. Apparently it kept him from being out and about causing trouble

None of us knew thats what she was doing at the time. Did her son loads of good, nothing but a waster who is in and out of prison

You clearly want to justify your shit parenting choices so on you go. Tell her she has your blessing to go get stoned. You say she’s not your child with MH problems- sadly that might not be the case for too long. 🙄
I almost wish you were a troll.

Would you like to see the Coronor's report from the inquest into the suicide of a 15 year old who was at school with my DD? Weed was a contributory factor as he smoked it on the morning of his death. Drugs kill. Simple.

'Homegrown weed' in the UK is massively a problem. People (especially young men with practically zero English), are being trafficked and set up/locked in to houses with weed farms in them. They get threatened, and only have contact with people dropping in food for them and checking how it's all ticking along.

@Lockheart I am not talking about UK based cannabis farms. I’m talking about grown ups growing their own cannabis plants in their own homes for themselves/friends/family

Ultracrepidation alive and well on this thread

Did you mean ultracrepidarian?

'Ultracrepidation' isn't a word. Which is ironic, given it's meaning

You need to go educate yourself!!

If she is curious then you bloody well educate her too.

So what, you took drugs. That's permission to let your child break the law?! Your just continue a unhealthy cycle. The 15 year old who don't listen are the ones have parents to let them do whatever the hack they want!! It's NOT experimental..

Do you understand how harmful drugs are?! You may get weed, but what is actually in the weed, NOT pure product.

You are being irresponsible by using the wrong approach. Creating a safe environment so you can keep an eye on her is not protecting her body from poison or reducing harm.
It's giving the idea that I will support you breaking law so go you done whatever you want.. did me no harm... you'd need a rethink that one!

Fingernail, almost everything people have said here you have answered with variations on "Oh, but it would be okay because. . . " and "I know what I'm doing."

Crap parenting. Where the hell are your boundaries? Where the hell is your common sense? You are blithely saying that you will break the law (by buying weed) in order to stop your daughter breaking the law (by buying weed.)

I hope you get caught, one way or the other. Partly because of the weed itself, partly because I suspect your lack of boundaries makes you a crap parent in other ways too. Am not really sure why you're posting, tbh, given that you have dismissed most of the advice offered and all of the info about consequences. Hoping that we'll all say "Fill your boots"?

Do you know how much you can actually harvest off a couple of plants 'grown ups' have, it's seriously not much. Highly unlikely they'll be dishing it out to friends and family. The only way to get anything 'worth it' is a set up in a loft or bedroom, and then you're talking lights, carbon filters, extraction system. It stinks to high heaven when it's ready to crop. There's not many who go to that level of trouble and risk without having the police eventually banging on their door.