My 15 year old wants to try weed

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This is a ridiculous and hipocritical situation! My dad tells me everything and I should be happy that she is so honest and open. I knew this time would come, but assumed that she would sneak off and do it secretly. I suppose I thought it might NOT happen as her friendship group is mostly religious and culturally they just aren’t going to take any drugs or try alcohol. But dd is curious. She wants to do it at home with a friend! I don’t know whether to agree to this. I am also considering getting her the weed, so I can make sure that she doesn’t end up with something too strong.

This is a ridiculous situation. I’ve taken shed loads of drugs myself but I don’t know how to respond to this.( She doesn’t know I have taken ANY drugs...mostly she has assumed and I haven’t corrected her!) WWYD?

I left home at 16. Learned about life the hard way and somehow I still managed to parent appropriately and managed to say no when needed.

You are a parent, not your daughters friend to indulge her every whim in a 'safe' environment.

I'm always pro weed but not for under 18s. It's known to have negative effects on growing adolescent brains. Take her to Amsterdam when she's 18.

Can’t believe you’d even contemplate this. It’s got child protection issues written all over it. If you go ahead I hope someone finds out and reports you. Shocking parenting.

Buying a bottle of cider off the lady at the shop is a bit different to meeting a mate of a mate in a dark corner somewhere

Well she wouldn’t would she, if I got it for her. I can buy weed SAFELY

I can buy weed SAFELY

Can you? Can you actually guarantee that?

Well she wouldn’t would she, if I got it for her. I can buy weed SAFELY

Yeah right so you’d be her dealer...

Ok get back under your bridge zzzzzzz

I hope you haven't told her about the drug taking in the squat days? You don't sound like a very good role model I'm afraid 😕

Maybe you need to help her be safe by being honest with her about your own past. Tell her about your experiences, tell her the good and the bad so she's properly informed.

Like you say, it is possible to leave home at 16 so parents have a responsibility to prepare their children for real life as much as possible. But actually providing drugs I think is a step too far.

@Bluerussian thank you for your post. I think I’m going to say no

Do you not want better for your child?

So what happens when she wants to try cocaine?

This isn’t your child that has the mental health problems and hasn’t been to school since July is it???

Seriously wtf are you doing? Are you actually smoking it already?

Scenario A: mum buys weed for 15 yo, allows said child to smoke at home. A year later child wants to try e or speed or cat or whatever. Mum's a bit unsure but thinks well she's done weed and at least she's e-ing under supervision. Age 17 kid wants coke, speed, skag. Then what?

Scenario B: mum decides to be a parent and says hell no. Kid does it anyway. Comes to no harm. But doing weed illicitly for a couple of years is enough of a rebellion, and she's although tempted to try e at 17, she knows of someone who died of a dodgy e and she thinks twice.

BE A FUCKING PARENT.

@huntinghighandlow71 a lot has changed since then. I’m a pretty decent role model nowadays I think. And regarding that aspect of life, I hardly even drink alcohol

Well she wouldn’t would she, if I got it for her. I can buy weed SAFELY

You know someone who sells it legally? How is that possible when it's illegal. Are you in another country?

You can buy weed safely? As opposed to your Dd (& friend), who potentially don't know who they can buy it off, or what the hell to do with it? Which could be the only reason she's raised the subject in the first place? In which case you don't have to worry then do you? Unless you assist her she'll not be doing it from the sounds of it.

I’m not responding to ‘what when she wants to try class As’... it’s just hyperbole and not relevant

I’m a pretty decent role model nowadays I think.

You think wrong then. Jesus.

If your daughter has mental health problems and hasn't been to school for 6 months, you should be helping her get better not going off to 'safe' dealers buying her weed

Ffs..your meant to be her mother not her best mate...or dealer

OP, it's great that your dd is so open and honest with you. Can't you just tell her that you've considered what she wanted, because you understood her curiosity and thought it would be safer for her to try it at home if she was going to try it at all, but that you cannot go along with it because a) it's illegal, b) it relies on the slave trade and c) it could potentially wreck her mental health. That way, you can demonstrate that you're not just saying no for the sake of it, and that there are good reasons why it's not the best route to go down.

@TrainspottingWelsh, I don’t think she would get past 1 toke tbh. She would HATE the tobacco

@PGtipsplease no, this isn’t the child with MH issues.

I don’t think you can stop her trying it OP , and I understand your feelings about wanting to control the situation to make it safer for her, but I think it just gives her the message that it’s OK to smoke weed. Even if you talk to her about any misgivings you have there is an underlying acceptance that will come through in your actions.
She is 15 . Her brain is still developing . If she likes it and wants to keep doing it will you continue to supply it - because it will be very hard at that point to say no . And if she then develops any secondary mental health issues you will effectively be complicit in that.
If she takes it with a friend and the friends parents find out you supplied it all hell will break loose.

Now why didn't I think of the safe source aspect. Maybe I should ask to try adhd meds again so I could replicate bombing speed for dd in a safe home environment. I've got loads of prescription animal drugs too, I'll post dsd some at uni so I can guarantee she only experiments with medical grade gear.