DS punched someone in school today.

[AlaskaElfForGin]

I'm mad with him, of course I am.

BUT his form tutor told me that it happened in reaction to a boy in his year telling everyone that I've just had a mastectomy (I have) and taking the piss out of DS because of it. Asking how he felt now that his 'mum is actually a man'. Apparently it had been going on last week and continued today so DS lost his temper.

DS is never in trouble - he hasn't had one behaviour point since the start of the school year and only had one last year for forgetting his PE kid.

I've been called in to speak to his form teacher, for the first time ever. What are they likely to do? I understand that there will be sanctions, I totally get that and he should never have hit this boy, but I can see how it happened.

Good news. The school dealt with it well. I'm also impressed with how the other mum responded because it's such a contrast to how a mum of a child in dd's class responded after her dd did something unpleasant recently. She brushed what her dd had done under the carpet, even though it was quite bad and then tried to lay blame on various other people. She accused one boy of "being a bad influence." The boy had had nothing to do with it. Very unedifying!

So glad to hear how well this has been handled by the school and the other Mother is clearly mortified by her child's actions, so hopefully that will be the end of it.

That sounds like the best possible outcome in this situation. Glad to see the school and the other parent are being quite sensible.

Excellent outcome. The other mum sounds like a good mum, too, ensuring you knew that she wasn't having it either. Really pleased for your son, OP.

Great news and how positive to hear of a school who takes bullying serious.

Oh that is good news, I am pleased for you both.

lowlandLucky Very well said!

AlaskaElfForGin What a great outcome! I hope that you and DS can relax now

That sounds like a really good outcome, OP. Sanction is pretty minimal but not absent - I do agree that he shouldn't be allowed to believe that violence is an acceptable recourse, whatever the provocation. The other boy's mum sounds to be a good egg. Hopefully he (the other boy) learns from this, it would be a shame if he went through life thinking that he could do unpleasant things without consequences. And your DS will hopefully get to have some time with his tutor, which will allow them time for further discussion, & for your DS to relax a bit about it & realise he doesn't need to hide it any longer.

Glad you had such a good outcome! I bet the other boys mum is going to give him hell at home as well as the trouble he is in at school.