Can’t stop thinking about this comment..

[sunshinegirl13]

(Sorry if this is a long post but I will only add what is needed for context)

Throughout all of my adult life I have been a size 8 but due to complications with endometriosis and blood clots last year, I got the contraceptive injection to stop my periods and as a result of this my thyroid has become under active and I have now gained a lot of weight and am now a size 14.

This year I have lost a stone and have been trying really hard to get back into shape as I feel so down about the way I look. This was inspired by the goal of a two week holiday abroad that I went to on the 3rd of December.

I got myself lots of new nice clothes and made a real effort to try and build my self confidence. I mostly felt ok in what I was wearing and could feel almost stylish.

However, one day on the holiday I went to a shopping complex on the beach with my DM. I was wearing a swimsuit with a skort cover up over the top and I felt like I looked nice for a change as I felt the swimsuit flattered My curves and the skort was flattering on my stomach.

As I was browsing the shop a lady selling something on a market stall called out to me and said “do you know how disgusting you look from the back?” I at first thought I had miss-heard her and looked confused so she repeated “Do you know how disgusting you look?” I was so upset and confused I tried to walk away but my DM (who was previously looking in a shop) walked over to join me. The women then shouted to her “are you her mother?” To which my mum replied yes. I walked away to escape the situation but my DM approached her and she repeated about how disgusting I looked to her. I walked to a near by bench and cried my eyes out. My mother complained to the manager of the shop her market stall was out but I ended up cutting our shopping day short as I felt so self conscious.

At first I thought it could’ve been because my skirt was short (not indecent - especially for the beach) but there were girls wandering around in their bikinis (and even a girl in a thong bikini standing next to the shop).

I can’t stop thinking about this comment and thinking about how fat and grotesque I must look for a random women to say this. I have never felt more insecure and I don’t know how to speed up the weight loss process more than I can. I can’t come off the injection as it’s the only thing helping with my endometriosis that works. I just feel so disappointed in myself and unhappy.

My mum believes this happened because I have a very prominent hour glass figure (which is true but a wobbly belly) and that the women felt I looked ‘disgusting’ as it was sexier than most others but I feel like my DM is just trying to make me feel better and can’t stop over thinking.

I don’t really know what the point in this post is but maybe to get some tips on how to stop overthinking those cruel words, every time I close my eyes at night to go to bed I just repeat it over and over in my head.

Sorry for the long winded vent post

As above I think she has issues with sexy women! You are bloody gorgeous. I would pay to look like you.

Maybe she doesn't know what disgusting means? In any case she clearly had either mental health issues or was just a rude bastard. Maybe it was neurological? Tourette's.

I can’t believe anyone would look twice at you in a bikini, let alone wearing a coverup! She must have issues to have felt so compelled to comment. Regular people don’t do that.

I used to work with children and was told I had a baby in my tummy when I was a size 8... So wouldn't take any notice of that.

@Stegosaurus1990 I know, it’s such odd behaviour at a BEACH based shopping centre. I was so taken a back!

You have a gorgeous figure hun!

Bloody hell, you look fantastic! Obviously you have a fuller figure than before, hypothyroidism can be a bitch but you really have no reason at all to be self conscious. I genuinely mean this, if I thought you looked fat/disgusting I just wouldn’t say anything but I genuinely think you have a beautiful figure and I envy you (I’m a size ten, I don’t look as good as you).

@Peanutbutteryogurt I know, I found it quite endearing as it wasn’t said to offend and he clearly meant it as a compliment

@BonnyConnie thank you, that’s lovely to read but I’m sure if I saw you in the street I would be envious of your figure

sunshinegirl13 you look lovely in your swimdress. definitely not fat either. That woman sounds a piece of work. Am sorry you had trhat experience

Thank you again everyone with your lovely comments. I am going to try and eradicate that women from my mind and replace her comments with yours and I am now off to watch a movie and settle in bed (with better thoughts than before)

You look amazing. You're mum could be right, the woman might have meant 'disgusting' as in she thought you looked 'too sexy' - either way she's mad because you look fab and there is no such thing as too sexy lol!

Sweetheart, a size 14 is not big. You look stunning. I am not being kind. I am as jealous as hell. At your age I looked like you, now unfortunately considerably older and bigger. I don't care. I know that when I go out I still look good.
The woman was bloody deranged and obviously had issues, don't let her make them yours. Hold your head up high, be proud of your amazing figure and don't give the stupid cow another thought. 💐🍷

You look amazing ...ignore her .
What country was it, cause normally Spanish / Latino countries love curvy real women in my experience.

I wish I had your figure - you look stunning.

@sunshinegirl13 you look amazing, I wish I had your figure - I'm a lumpy mass in the middle. I know its easier said than done but you need to ignore the haters, there will always be some because some people are just nasty for no reason!

You look gorgeous, she must have needed glasses! I personally don't think you need to loose any more weight

She must have been jealous, because your figure is absolutely cracking!!!

What an upsetting experience, OP, and probably even worse for your Mum seeing you hurt and not being able to protect you.
But wow, I’ve just noticed that photo is you, not as I thought an advertising shot. The bitchy stall-holder was probably sick with envy!

Wow you have a fantastic hourglass figure.
Forget what that silly bint says, she sounds like nasty cow.

@bert3400 it was one of the Canary Islands

@WitchDancer thank you, I’m just used to being slim that it’s uncomfortable for me and hard to get used to!

Gosh you poor thing, I have hypothyroidism too and it drastically changed my body. It sounds shallow, but the way we look really does affect the way we feel! It's hard enough feeling poorly, to no longer look like yourself affects your mental health in a strange way.

It makes sense that you are unhappy with your body because you are used to your body before (this is so normal, and so understandable) but from all the responses (myself included!) you look phenomenal.
I hope with time you can make peace with your body, both your thyroid function and the way you look

This has to be a stealth boast.

If not, the woman who shouted that was clearly deranged.
You know your figure isn't vile, otherwise you wouldn't have posted a picture of yourself for many strangers to judge.

Wow your figure is incredible!!!
Blatantly a strange jealous woman who thinks you know how hot you are so wants to dent your confidence to make themselves feel better.

@Thinkingabout1t thank you, I am shocked at the response that photo has received! It was one I chose not to upload to social media as I wasn’t sure on it

I have really seen the kind supportive side of MN today