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Can’t stop thinking about this comment..

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sunshinegirl13 · 19/12/2019 20:58

(Sorry if this is a long post but I will only add what is needed for context)

Throughout all of my adult life I have been a size 8 but due to complications with endometriosis and blood clots last year, I got the contraceptive injection to stop my periods and as a result of this my thyroid has become under active and I have now gained a lot of weight and am now a size 14.

This year I have lost a stone and have been trying really hard to get back into shape as I feel so down about the way I look. This was inspired by the goal of a two week holiday abroad that I went to on the 3rd of December.

I got myself lots of new nice clothes and made a real effort to try and build my self confidence. I mostly felt ok in what I was wearing and could feel almost stylish.

However, one day on the holiday I went to a shopping complex on the beach with my DM. I was wearing a swimsuit with a skort cover up over the top and I felt like I looked nice for a change as I felt the swimsuit flattered My curves and the skort was flattering on my stomach.

As I was browsing the shop a lady selling something on a market stall called out to me and said “do you know how disgusting you look from the back?” I at first thought I had miss-heard her and looked confused so she repeated “Do you know how disgusting you look?” I was so upset and confused I tried to walk away but my DM (who was previously looking in a shop) walked over to join me. The women then shouted to her “are you her mother?” To which my mum replied yes. I walked away to escape the situation but my DM approached her and she repeated about how disgusting I looked to her. I walked to a near by bench and cried my eyes out. My mother complained to the manager of the shop her market stall was out but I ended up cutting our shopping day short as I felt so self conscious.

At first I thought it could’ve been because my skirt was short (not indecent - especially for the beach) but there were girls wandering around in their bikinis (and even a girl in a thong bikini standing next to the shop).

I can’t stop thinking about this comment and thinking about how fat and grotesque I must look for a random women to say this. I have never felt more insecure and I don’t know how to speed up the weight loss process more than I can. I can’t come off the injection as it’s the only thing helping with my endometriosis that works. I just feel so disappointed in myself and unhappy.

My mum believes this happened because I have a very prominent hour glass figure (which is true but a wobbly belly) and that the women felt I looked ‘disgusting’ as it was sexier than most others but I feel like my DM is just trying to make me feel better and can’t stop over thinking.

I don’t really know what the point in this post is but maybe to get some tips on how to stop overthinking those cruel words, every time I close my eyes at night to go to bed I just repeat it over and over in my head.

Sorry for the long winded vent post Blush

OP posts:
Orchardgreen · 21/12/2019 08:27

No.....it’s both delusional and illusional.

Loveablers · 21/12/2019 09:42

@duvetstealer

Well then you mustn’t use it very often because the photoshop is painfully obvious!

AltheaVestr1t · 21/12/2019 09:50

This is all a bit depressing isn’t it? Curvy woman looks lovely in a photo - must be photoshopped. Leave the poor woman alone! Hmm

HappydaysArehere · 21/12/2019 09:50

She was jealous of your lovely figure. So would most people be but they are not nasty idiots. Forget it and try to see the humour of the ridiculous situation.

duvetstealer · 21/12/2019 09:52

I use it daily. That is wood grain. Non of the other verticals are affected even slightly which is what you get when pinching, unless the op is really good

AlorMy · 21/12/2019 09:54

This is all a bit depressing isn’t it? Curvy woman looks lovely in a photo - must be photoshopped. Leave the poor woman alone!

Yes it is absolutely depressing that a curvy woman apparently felt the need to photoshop a photo in order to gain approval on an anonymous forum.

bruffin · 21/12/2019 10:05

The angle of the waist is too sharp and pointy as well, The woodgrain is quite narrow vertically everywhere else with the odd knot but by the waist it is a lot wider and looks like it has been pulled apart.

yellowallpaper · 21/12/2019 10:20

Mmmm. I use photoshop in my business and I'm a bit suspicious of the waist too as the otherwise straight grain is much wider near the waist, which is what the liquify tool will do 🤔

bruffin · 21/12/2019 10:28

I use it daily. That is wood grain. Non of the other verticals are affected even slightly which is what you get when pinching, unless the op is really good

The woodgrain to the right of her waist has been bleached out, you cant see it at all in the block behind her waist and legs
The edges of the lockers on the right hand side have heavy shadowing, but there is no shadow of her at all. The whole picture has a very unatural feel about it

Yes it is absolutely depressing that a curvy woman apparently felt the need to photoshop a photo in order to gain approval on an anonymous forum.
Well said, i find it depressing that so many people have to constantly selfie with odd poises and pouts

duvetstealer · 21/12/2019 11:29

Ok, whatever you say. Hmm take a look at woodgrain, it's not all straight and the angle that it's taken from and the position of her body can cause the pinched in waist look. But hey what do I know? Believe whatever you want to believe. I know what I think.

Bluntness100 · 21/12/2019 12:02

To be fair here the folks doubting it have a point, I'm sure it's real but it's very easy to pull your waist in like that with photoshop, and it's very unusual to go from a size eight to s fourteen due to endo etc, and not gain any weight at all round your waist, but to gain evenly and only on your boobs and bum. In addition, waists are not normally pointed like that no matter how you stand.

As said, I'm sure it's real, or maybe she's so self conscious she couldn't bring herself to post a real snap. Sometimes people do things to make them feel good, and it back fires a bit.

astralweaks · 21/12/2019 12:08

Surely this “tinkering with” a photograph was an attempt to receive positive comments when the OP suggests the opposite - and we are all meant to be oh so surprised.

Some Mumsnet posters have form for this sort of thing. This one is a particularly unconvincing example.

astralweaks · 21/12/2019 12:09

Just why bother?

astralweaks · 21/12/2019 12:11

The wood grain is convincing proof, I’m afraid.

Chesntoots · 21/12/2019 17:02

I posted in support last night and didn't really take too much notice of the background (I blame gin). Feel a bit of a twat now!!

Flacker · 21/12/2019 17:16

The background is fine it's just ordinary looking wood grain. I mean it's a great figure but it's hardly impossible I know other people with hourglass figures exactly like this, enviable but it really isn't that hard to believe.

CardiFree · 21/12/2019 17:22

Definitely all WOMAN Grin...

bobstersmum · 21/12/2019 18:07

Feel stupid now.

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