Can’t stop thinking about this comment..

[sunshinegirl13]

(Sorry if this is a long post but I will only add what is needed for context)

Throughout all of my adult life I have been a size 8 but due to complications with endometriosis and blood clots last year, I got the contraceptive injection to stop my periods and as a result of this my thyroid has become under active and I have now gained a lot of weight and am now a size 14.

This year I have lost a stone and have been trying really hard to get back into shape as I feel so down about the way I look. This was inspired by the goal of a two week holiday abroad that I went to on the 3rd of December.

I got myself lots of new nice clothes and made a real effort to try and build my self confidence. I mostly felt ok in what I was wearing and could feel almost stylish.

However, one day on the holiday I went to a shopping complex on the beach with my DM. I was wearing a swimsuit with a skort cover up over the top and I felt like I looked nice for a change as I felt the swimsuit flattered My curves and the skort was flattering on my stomach.

As I was browsing the shop a lady selling something on a market stall called out to me and said “do you know how disgusting you look from the back?” I at first thought I had miss-heard her and looked confused so she repeated “Do you know how disgusting you look?” I was so upset and confused I tried to walk away but my DM (who was previously looking in a shop) walked over to join me. The women then shouted to her “are you her mother?” To which my mum replied yes. I walked away to escape the situation but my DM approached her and she repeated about how disgusting I looked to her. I walked to a near by bench and cried my eyes out. My mother complained to the manager of the shop her market stall was out but I ended up cutting our shopping day short as I felt so self conscious.

At first I thought it could’ve been because my skirt was short (not indecent - especially for the beach) but there were girls wandering around in their bikinis (and even a girl in a thong bikini standing next to the shop).

I can’t stop thinking about this comment and thinking about how fat and grotesque I must look for a random women to say this. I have never felt more insecure and I don’t know how to speed up the weight loss process more than I can. I can’t come off the injection as it’s the only thing helping with my endometriosis that works. I just feel so disappointed in myself and unhappy.

My mum believes this happened because I have a very prominent hour glass figure (which is true but a wobbly belly) and that the women felt I looked ‘disgusting’ as it was sexier than most others but I feel like my DM is just trying to make me feel better and can’t stop over thinking.

I don’t really know what the point in this post is but maybe to get some tips on how to stop overthinking those cruel words, every time I close my eyes at night to go to bed I just repeat it over and over in my head.

Sorry for the long winded vent post

@Panpastels that’s what DM said but there was a girl in a thong right in front of her so I couldn’t see how my outfit was at all more offensive.

You look absolutely beautiful op. She was as jealous as hell. Please don't think this is about you. It's her insecurity that's the problem

You look beautiful OP. She, however, was ugly inside. Which can't be painted over or dressed up.

This has got to be a stealth boast with a figure like that?!!

Where are you,. OP?
What country or at least which language?

I'm a size 14 also but mainly flab, with a bloated belly (damn you, menopause) I'd love a body like yours, its perfectly in proportion (I no longer have an actual waistline...) and she was definitely saying to be spiteful rather than actually meaning it

You have an amazing figure and I'm not just saying that. The woman sounds deranged!

You look AMAZING!!! I would KILL to have your waist!!! That woman was a fucking beast! She is the type of woman that doesn’t like other women. REAL women support others and tell them how great they are. They don’t need to bring others down to feel good about themselves. (BTW, I assume this woman feels like shit about herself, and I’m really pleased about it. She deserves to because she’s fucking nasty.)

OMG you have a cracking figure.

Put it out of your head.

You look fabulous in that photo, don’t listen to anyone that criticise you!

@LazyArsehole I wish it was because I really didn’t want to be crying on my holiday over a nasty women

@ChristmasVag It was a Spanish speaking country

I can’t believe the compliments I’m receiving and wasn’t expecting it at all, it just goes to show how different our perceptions of ourselves are. Thank you all for being supportive maybe tonight I will sleep thinking of these comments instead

I agree no one in their right mind would say such a thing.

Also, based on your follow up photo, I think your mum's comment about it being to do with your hourglass shape rather than weight is right. Honestly, you have curves like Jessica Rabbit. That's pretty amazing.

I think I also worry because most of my friends my age are size 8s with flat stomachs and toned skin. I just feel out of place and although my shape is ok it’s the flab and cellulite and things that get me down. so thank you all for helping me feel as though I don’t look disgusting!

Oh I see someone else has mentioned Jessica rabbit, thought I was being original 😂

Op you look 🔥 probably better curvy then slim x

You look amazing . Sexy with curves in all the right places .
Tiny waist , girl you are rocking it !

Take absolutely no notice of that stupid jealous woman
If I looked like you I would be bikini clad in bloody Tesco’s ( 😉)

There is no way you are fat. You have a lovely figure. A size 14 is not big anyway. Too much emphasis is put on being a size 6 or something. 14 is not big. When my son was little he came out of school crying a boy said your fat.
I told him tell him tomorrow my mum likes her size and she can lose weight if she wants to, your mum is ugly but there's nothing she can do about that.
He was never nasty to him again. You should have told her she looked discussing cause she's ugly that would have shut her up x

I’m actually in shock with the response my photo has gotten! And although I suspect a lot of them are sympathetic complements I am grateful, it will be nice to go to bed thinking of these for a change. Sorry if I sound soppy or annoying, it’s just made me feel a lot better about the weight gain.

Wow OP, you're gorgeous!

Life is too short to worry about someone else's opinion of you and you mustn't allow her crappy comment any headspace. She must be a very bitter person to call out comments to you like that. I almost pity her. Chin up OP

@sunshinegirl13 Fuck me! I wish I looked like you! Your figure is amazing!!

@lisag1969 I work with young children and one told me earlier this year “Sitting on your lap is nice. Soft squishy tummy” while we were sitting down for story time!

Bloody hell OP you're a knockout! That woman clearly had issues of her own.

I've had most aspects of my appearance picked over and criticised over the years so I understand words can echo round your head for a long time. Hopefully you can replace hers with some of the lovely stuff others have said.

The photo clarifies things a bit, she was jealous because you look absolutely amazing. You have a fab figure. Don't think on it any more.

What a crazy lady! Unfortunately sometimes, random comments or more so-how they make us feel, get stuck in our heads but honestly - she sounds like a lunatic. Carry on with your journey for your own sake! It's important to do it the right way!!!

You have a stunning figure!! Honestly. The only possibility is that she was jealous. Or mental. If I had a figure like yours I’d be wearing that swim suit ALL day long! Sorry it made you feel so bad x