Can’t stop thinking about this comment..

[sunshinegirl13]

(Sorry if this is a long post but I will only add what is needed for context)

Throughout all of my adult life I have been a size 8 but due to complications with endometriosis and blood clots last year, I got the contraceptive injection to stop my periods and as a result of this my thyroid has become under active and I have now gained a lot of weight and am now a size 14.

This year I have lost a stone and have been trying really hard to get back into shape as I feel so down about the way I look. This was inspired by the goal of a two week holiday abroad that I went to on the 3rd of December.

I got myself lots of new nice clothes and made a real effort to try and build my self confidence. I mostly felt ok in what I was wearing and could feel almost stylish.

However, one day on the holiday I went to a shopping complex on the beach with my DM. I was wearing a swimsuit with a skort cover up over the top and I felt like I looked nice for a change as I felt the swimsuit flattered My curves and the skort was flattering on my stomach.

As I was browsing the shop a lady selling something on a market stall called out to me and said “do you know how disgusting you look from the back?” I at first thought I had miss-heard her and looked confused so she repeated “Do you know how disgusting you look?” I was so upset and confused I tried to walk away but my DM (who was previously looking in a shop) walked over to join me. The women then shouted to her “are you her mother?” To which my mum replied yes. I walked away to escape the situation but my DM approached her and she repeated about how disgusting I looked to her. I walked to a near by bench and cried my eyes out. My mother complained to the manager of the shop her market stall was out but I ended up cutting our shopping day short as I felt so self conscious.

At first I thought it could’ve been because my skirt was short (not indecent - especially for the beach) but there were girls wandering around in their bikinis (and even a girl in a thong bikini standing next to the shop).

I can’t stop thinking about this comment and thinking about how fat and grotesque I must look for a random women to say this. I have never felt more insecure and I don’t know how to speed up the weight loss process more than I can. I can’t come off the injection as it’s the only thing helping with my endometriosis that works. I just feel so disappointed in myself and unhappy.

My mum believes this happened because I have a very prominent hour glass figure (which is true but a wobbly belly) and that the women felt I looked ‘disgusting’ as it was sexier than most others but I feel like my DM is just trying to make me feel better and can’t stop over thinking.

I don’t really know what the point in this post is but maybe to get some tips on how to stop overthinking those cruel words, every time I close my eyes at night to go to bed I just repeat it over and over in my head.

Sorry for the long winded vent post

You have a gorgeous figure (as in the photo) but even if you didn't, no-one has the right to insult another person. Ignore these sad, nasty individuals. Don't give them the power to hurt you.

Dear darling, you look absolutely gorgeous. She was clearly very well jell of you. Take what she said as a weird compliment!

Your figure is AMAZING. Like seriously. All I can put it down is pure jealously

Omg @sunshinegirl13 you have the most gorgeous body shape. You look stunning.

Firstly the woman was a crazed lunatic, have you considered she quite possibly had tourette's, because her comment cant actually have made reference to you in reality.
Secondly,
You really are totally unaware of what you really look like. You look lovely. I know it's not so easy to believe when your mind isn't there yet but it really is true. You need to start listening to good things people are saying and have a huge sip or even bottle full of confidence, its absolutely deserved.

Why do people `feel the need to troll hunt on here? I don't get it. Why call trolls out? If you think someone is a troll and it bothers you, report it. Or just find another thread. I can understand people being bothered about trolls who ask for money. But this kind of thing? who cares?

That woman was jealous. I've looked at your photo and that is the only possibility because you have a lovely figure and I never comment on these kinds of posts.

I have also asked for this thread to be taken down due to troll hunters

Are threads taken down for that reason? Just curious...

Have a look in AIBU at the thread "Feel like a tit" furrymulesandPJs, I'd imagine some people "troll hunt" for reasons like that 🤷
Can't say for sure though.

@CharityDingle it wouldn't surprise me. Threads get taken down for the most arbitrary reasons nowadays.

Op you have an incredible figure. You say it was a Spanish speaking country, I can only assume this woman was very jealous and unhinged.

BaubleTheLumpofCoal You know your figure isn't vile I don't know, actually. I have a freidn on Facebook with Body Dysmorphic Disorder, depression, eating disorders (diagnosed and genuine) and she posts a lot of pictures of herself in skimpy outfits. She says she does it to get reassurance that she isn't ugly? I tend to think low self esteem when I see women who are all the time posting pics of themselves. However this OP isn;t posting all the time? Some people are just nasty and body shaming. I hear on MN quite a ,lot about how a size 16, for example, is fat. Lot of body shaming out there. Real obesity like I have (I am size 24 top, 26 bottom), that is a different kettle of fish.

Why are people shocked that the woman could speak clear English? It was at a touristy beach shopping centre where that woman probably interacts with English people every single day, not very hard to believe IMO especially in Europe

IhateBoswell I will have a look. Btw, I hate that sodding Boswell too. did that mystery ever get solved???

@IhateBoswell that's the whole point though - if they are a troll they get off on the 'troll hunting' on the threads too - that's why you just report to MN and say nothing.

If it is genuine then troll hunting comments can really hurt a vulnerable OP.

To those saying they surprised that a woman from the Canaries is being like this: maybe she herself was a tourist or expat??? in a popular holiday resort, OP is not going to be the only foreigner.

You have an amazing figure OP, maybe you looked a bit too eye-catching and she was jealous! Don't hide away, make the most of what you've got, and don't delete photos of yourself, in years to come you'll be looking at those photos and kicking yourself for how you feel now.

Don't agree with previous poster that said someone in canaries can't speak English like that, what the hell, you know how many British live out there.

@furrymulesandPJs

Your FB friend sounds genuinely unwell and seeking validation from the people she (presumably) knows well enough to have on Facebook.

It's very much different from someone posting a picture of themselves on a public forum, for many strangers to comment on, whilst maintaining that their confidence is shot to bits.

No it didn't, furrymulesandPJs 😡 I need to change back to my previous name, it annoys me when I see it.

MyKingdom Yes, I have seen that happen in the past on here. I used to be on MN a long way back then deleted and took long break. I saw women who were posting about child abuse being mocked and goaded on here, to the point they were in distress. The they lost their accounts due to malicious reporting of people totasly lacking in empathy. Another poster was goaded into wanting to harm herself and mocked due to having a personality disorder then was told "you just saying that cos the thread isn't going your way etc"

maybe these people were trolling, maybe they weren't. there is no way you can tell though, surely? I fyou don't ant to say something nice and give benefit of the doubt, just leave the thread.

Wow. You seriously look amazing and have a figure I can only dream of (I look like a teenage boy). She was very obviously jealous and was too thick/horrible/unhinged to hide it.

Your mum sounds lovely and was spot on.

@BaubleTheLumpOfCoal exactly that, MN are old hands and will know what you mean.