Can’t stop thinking about this comment..

[sunshinegirl13]

(Sorry if this is a long post but I will only add what is needed for context)

Throughout all of my adult life I have been a size 8 but due to complications with endometriosis and blood clots last year, I got the contraceptive injection to stop my periods and as a result of this my thyroid has become under active and I have now gained a lot of weight and am now a size 14.

This year I have lost a stone and have been trying really hard to get back into shape as I feel so down about the way I look. This was inspired by the goal of a two week holiday abroad that I went to on the 3rd of December.

I got myself lots of new nice clothes and made a real effort to try and build my self confidence. I mostly felt ok in what I was wearing and could feel almost stylish.

However, one day on the holiday I went to a shopping complex on the beach with my DM. I was wearing a swimsuit with a skort cover up over the top and I felt like I looked nice for a change as I felt the swimsuit flattered My curves and the skort was flattering on my stomach.

As I was browsing the shop a lady selling something on a market stall called out to me and said “do you know how disgusting you look from the back?” I at first thought I had miss-heard her and looked confused so she repeated “Do you know how disgusting you look?” I was so upset and confused I tried to walk away but my DM (who was previously looking in a shop) walked over to join me. The women then shouted to her “are you her mother?” To which my mum replied yes. I walked away to escape the situation but my DM approached her and she repeated about how disgusting I looked to her. I walked to a near by bench and cried my eyes out. My mother complained to the manager of the shop her market stall was out but I ended up cutting our shopping day short as I felt so self conscious.

At first I thought it could’ve been because my skirt was short (not indecent - especially for the beach) but there were girls wandering around in their bikinis (and even a girl in a thong bikini standing next to the shop).

I can’t stop thinking about this comment and thinking about how fat and grotesque I must look for a random women to say this. I have never felt more insecure and I don’t know how to speed up the weight loss process more than I can. I can’t come off the injection as it’s the only thing helping with my endometriosis that works. I just feel so disappointed in myself and unhappy.

My mum believes this happened because I have a very prominent hour glass figure (which is true but a wobbly belly) and that the women felt I looked ‘disgusting’ as it was sexier than most others but I feel like my DM is just trying to make me feel better and can’t stop over thinking.

I don’t really know what the point in this post is but maybe to get some tips on how to stop overthinking those cruel words, every time I close my eyes at night to go to bed I just repeat it over and over in my head.

Sorry for the long winded vent post

Not many British ex pats are market sellers in the Canaries. In fact not many Spanish are either - they are normally from the African continent, but you know, not like I spend half my life there or anything 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

trolls or not, the victim-blaming on here is astounding.

Let's suppose this is a true story. A nasty body fascist woman says a nasty comment. The OP gets slated and some on here are like "maybe the woman has tourettes/dementia/mental health issues" and "would someone from that country really say this?"

I don't care if the woman had something like terminal cancer, let alone tourettes, she was nasty. The OP is teh one likely to be hurt as she is feeling vulnerable bout her body. The woman got away unscathed.

CrazyCat Doesn't have to be British. I meant any kind of expat or immigrant or whatever the word is (not sure what the difference is to be honest between expat and immigrant) . Many countries are taught English as a second or third or fourth language, so the woman could have been from anywhere.

This story is actually insane....

That a comment was made to you by a stranger? I think you look totally gorgeous in the photo. Your waist is tiny and I would kill for your legs.

I haven't read the whole thread, just the first page until the OP posted her photo in a swimsuit... and as soon as I saw it I just wanted to post this:

@Sunshinegirl13, you look UTTERLY STUNNING, and after seeing that photo I know with 100% certainty that the comment was made in jealousy by a very bitter woman. You do have a very sexy hourglass figure and I bet every man who sees you wearing that will do a double take. I wonder whether that woman's husband did, and that's why she felt the need to be so horrid.

Please, please please, show your body with pride, you're amazing and beautiful.

OP your curves are incredible. Dont listen to her, she's bat shit crazy!

You should have asked her if she knew how disgusting she sounded. What a nasty woman.

Definitely jealousy on her part OP. People pay £££££££££ for a body like yours.

What a vile person she is.

Omg ! What a vile woman ! Please DO NOT let her comments bother you ! You look beautiful and I can't believe she could say that ! You look classy and lovely and have a great figure ! One word ..... BITCH ! That's all I can say about her and def jealous as there is no way in any shape or form you could be called disgusting

I just don't think its right that other Mumsnetters feel like their waists should look like that We are all adults on here, I doubt we are going to lose sleep over a photo. I understand where you are coming from though. It is annoying to know we have been hoodwinked.

She genuinely sounds mentally unwell, OP, I'd put it out of your mind on that basis - it is no reflection of what other, balanced people are thinking let alone would say.

Not that it's relevant to someone being unkind to you or not but what a lovely figure you have!

OP! You are the BOMB! Really! You look amazing. But this is not the point. The point is you don't let people make you feel crap about your appearance.

What other people think of you is none of your business and someone who does this... no words! It definitely says more about her than you! What a crazy woman!

Ps: and your hair colour & style are beautiful!

I probably would have resorted to violence if I was in your shoes!.... Well maybe not but I'd definitely have thought about it!

Sounds like she was jealous because you really do have a wonderful hourglass figure, curvy in all the right places. Plus with your long blonde hair, added to the fact you were on holiday and she was working on a market stall, a whole stream of "life's not fair" probably overcame her.

Ignore ignore ignore.

Bloody hell op you look amazing!
I would give so much to have a figure like you.
Totally rock it, don’t loser weight. Do lots of exercise if you want to toneup, but you don’t need to lose anything.

Op, I don’t lie, which has gotten me into trouble a few times. I just wouldn’t say anything if the photo made you look awful. I would honestly just not comment. However, WOW, it makes you look fantastic and I wish I had your figure! You look so much better than if you were stick thin!
This woman was a bitch so please don’t beat yourself up over what she said! She was probably feeling like I do looking at your photo, jealous. I wish I had boobs like yours!

I think she meant disgusting as in showing too much flesh as well. Theres no way she could have meant fat. You're gorgeous. Shame you feel you have to lose weight, although of course it's how you feel in yourself. I'm a size 18/20 with an hour glass figure too... I think this shape can be quite forgiving!

@CoupeCourte ah yes...I see it now.