Currently in a stand-off with my teenager

[Sewbean]

I have his phone and will not be giving it to him until he lets me see his French homework. His results in French have been pretty bad recently.

I'm not sure why he has chosen to make such a massive thing about this. He has been coming in and out of his room to rant about it since 8.30pm. That's almost 90 minutes he has wasted. He's been standing in the room whining non stop since 9.45, it's now 9.55 and he's still here going on about how horrible I am. I haven't said a single word. He knows very clearly what he needs to do, I am not backing down, I am not arguing.

I am however quietly going mad with the noise of him droning on and on. Usually he has given in long before this, I'm not sure what's got into him.

God he's hard work just now.

@moonmelodies . That made me 🤣. Although kids are far more able to turn it back than us

I personally don't think you have handled this badly. You are now being blackmailed by a tantruming 13 year old, 'give me my phone or I'll make your life a misery'. Having a phone is not a right, it is a luxury he should be grateful for.
I'm not sure what the solution is, I think the issue is bigger than the French book. Why does your son feel he is so entitled to his phone?

I'd go in to see the teacher with an open mind rather than asking to swap. Ask her what he can do, as he won't help you do what you offered.

Argh I feel your pain.

My teen ds has stopped bathing and covers up his matted (long) hair with a stinky beanie.

He's just doing it to be annoying

How you doing lass?

Sounds like he knows it's his fault that he's doing badly and absolutely nothing to do with the teacher. And now he's digging in because he doesn't want you to realise that he was trying to mug you off.

You didn't fall for the 'my teacher's shit, it's not my fault, go in and sort her out for me' bollocks. And he doesn't like it.

In any case, he doesn't need a phone. He might like a phone, but he certainly doesn't need one.

What’s happened since, @Sewbean?