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WWYD - Feel so betrayed

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sausageandchips007 · 25/10/2019 17:17

Need some advice please.

We moved house and applied for a school place for our DC - due to circumstances we had to rent, though we ensured we met all the criteria and it was by no means a short term let. We are in this house for at least 2 years and ideally we are looking to buy once those 2 years are up or will just carry on renting where we are.

We came to know that someone wrote a letter to the school telling them that we had given false information and that we had no intention of staying in the area. The school did their investigations with us and found that we had complied with all the criteria etc.

We asked to see a copy of the letter under DPA 2018 and I have just received it. It was handwritten and matches very closely with my best friend. It also had content in it about things which only she knew. She has just asked us to be legal guardians for her 2 DC and her and her DH's power of attorney.

WWYD?

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pennee · 25/10/2019 19:34

Are you moving away from her? If it is her maybe she’s worried about losing you. Not that it excuses her if it is.

Takemymeditation · 25/10/2019 19:40

It's the word 'hope' that sealed it for me. The placement of the 'p'. I'd be very surprised if they were from different people.

MatildaCat · 25/10/2019 19:40

They look quite different. Look at the y, d, and m in each letter. They are formed differently.

Had you told her about someone contacting the school? What did she say? I'd be more inclined to think that someone else has written it. Maybe a mutual friend that she may have mentioned these things to?

Janleverton · 25/10/2019 19:41

I don’t think they’re the same writer. Similar handwriting but not close enough.

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2019 19:42

Considering this is apparently your friend, you seem really really keen to blame it on her and not willing to entertain the thought it's not.

The fact you think she could do something like this, indicates this isn't a good friendship. The fact she'd ask you to be guardians for her kids, have poa, indicates she's under the mis apprehension it is.

SuperPixie247 · 25/10/2019 19:44

Compare with the beginning of the letter when her hand writing will probably be different to the end.

JontyDoggle37 · 25/10/2019 19:44

It could be someone who was in the same class at school and taught by the same teacher - similarities in letter formation would be high, but with personal differences as described by previous posters

damnilovejam · 25/10/2019 19:50

I don't think they're the same person.

Look at the word "to" in both. Too many dissimilarities IMO.

Naughty1205 · 25/10/2019 19:51

I think they are the same person, 100%

RumpoleoftheBaileys · 25/10/2019 19:55

Right. So if it wasn't the friend, who else has near-identical writing AND:

"Was one of very few people who knew about kids activities and clubs and has our full address which she put in the letter to the school."

Sorry OP, you have your rat.

Chewingbubblegum · 25/10/2019 19:55

Come on! The handwriting is very different in letter formation and overall approach to writing.

Deep down you don't trust or like your friend and you're happy to find something to hang her over.

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sausageandchips007 · 25/10/2019 19:58

I am not at all too keen to blame her but I have racked and racked my brains as to who would have the level of information in the letter.

I have lots of birthday cards from a recent special birthday and have been through them all. I can't think of anyone else, but I know that doesn't mean by default that it's her.

I know I need to tread very carefully as our DC are also best friends and this will destroy my DC if it is indeed her.

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Newgirls · 25/10/2019 20:02

I think it’s more likely she gossiped about you or Chinese whispers and someone else wrote it. Based on what you say - obvs none of us know!

RumpoleoftheBaileys · 25/10/2019 20:02

Just tell her you lodged a FOI Act request and they gave you her details. See how she reacts.

Fantababy · 25/10/2019 20:02

I don't think they're the same either. The 'f' is different, and a few other letters too.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 25/10/2019 20:04

Good point- she could have gossiped about what the kids are up to now? I mean kids' clubs don't make classic gossip but some people just chat away I guess.

GettingPdOff · 25/10/2019 20:04

This is not your friends. The more I look at it the more I see it's different. I'm used to reading a variety of handwriting daily. It's similar but has come from two different people for sure.

GettingPdOff · 25/10/2019 20:05

Estate agent maybe?

marvellousnightforamooncup · 25/10/2019 20:06

I can't imagine there's someone who knows that much about you, gives that much of a shit what you do and writes almost identically. You really have to know your stuff and care to make this much effort. Most people would just shrug and slag you off in the playground for 5 minutes before the convo moved on.

It's got to be her, unless it's... Rebekah Vardey.

littlestrawby · 25/10/2019 20:06

It is similar but could easily be two different people - I can think of at least four people who have handwriting that looks very similar to each example

Fink · 25/10/2019 20:06

They're not exactly the same handwriting, but more to the point they're both very standard UK woman's writing. They look pretty much like the handwriting of a dozen people I know.

Tbh, how would you find out if it were her? You won't get conclusive proof from the handwriting, and there's no way anyone sane would admit to it if confronted with such flimsy evidence.

user1471519931 · 25/10/2019 20:08

How horrible for you. So sorry. No real advice but wishing you strength and sending support for a positive outcome. Xx

Chewingbubblegum · 25/10/2019 20:08

But OP is she the ONLY person who knows these things about you?

wowfudge · 25/10/2019 20:08

There's some really interesting language use and choices of words in the letter. Are there any phrases you recognise? If not at all sure they're written by the same person.

thetardis · 25/10/2019 20:09

i'd make plans for bumping her off, spending the inheritance and auctioning off her kids to the highest bidder. hth.