WWYD - Feel so betrayed

[sausageandchips007]

Need some advice please.

We moved house and applied for a school place for our DC - due to circumstances we had to rent, though we ensured we met all the criteria and it was by no means a short term let. We are in this house for at least 2 years and ideally we are looking to buy once those 2 years are up or will just carry on renting where we are.

We came to know that someone wrote a letter to the school telling them that we had given false information and that we had no intention of staying in the area. The school did their investigations with us and found that we had complied with all the criteria etc.

We asked to see a copy of the letter under DPA 2018 and I have just received it. It was handwritten and matches very closely with my best friend. It also had content in it about things which only she knew. She has just asked us to be legal guardians for her 2 DC and her and her DH's power of attorney.

WWYD?

Sorry OP, it does look very similar.

Look at the ‘and’ the ‘you’ and the ‘e’

Almost identical.

Has she ever tried to scupper your plans before? Has she ever shown any resentment?

They could be the same, but I am leaning towards not. I would say that is a common style of handwriting too.

I can't imagine the sort of person who could form a friendship close enough to be called "best" would see you as appropriate guardians for her child and also as people who play a "corrupt and unfair system". You'd have an inkling that all was not as it seemed before now, surely.

If this is out of character for your friend, then I wouldn't mention your suspicions - that would be so hurtful.

Hmm tricky, the spacing is similar and the way they write the Ms are very similar. If it also contains information she'd know it looks suspicious! Is there anyone else at all you can think would do this? I can't understand what her motive would be but people do surprise you.

I don't think they are the same. If it was your friend surely she would have typed the letter.

I'd say they are different judging by individual letters. However, if the information could only have been known by her perhaps it is her but shes attempted to disguise her writing.

Surely it’s much more likely to be someone local who has a vested interest in the admissions to that school,
The handwriting is not that distinctive and things like the ‘d’ are different.
If I was her I’d be quite offended you’ve reached that conclusion (unless of course I’d done it....!)

I do agree that this is a common style of writing. It looks like both my mum's and my sister's! They're in Oz though so fear not, it isn't then.

Show her the letter without mentioning that you think it is her. Ask who on earth would do such a thing and see her response.

The ‘h’ looks very similar too.

However, one has been written at leisure and the other in a hurry by the looks of things.

Dont say anything to your friend until youre sure.

As suggested I'd tell her you are waiting on a copy of the letter the school received and see what her reaction is. As regards the writing it's very similar. My own writing could look different on any given day. As I'm not used to writing much anymore it's not always exactly the same, so while there may be slight differences I imagine it's the same person. Needless to say if it does turn out to be her I wouldn't be agreeing to be guardian to her kids.

Why would anyone handwrite a letter like that! Does she have access to a computer and printer?

No, its looks just like my mates handwriting. Quite a common style of hand

I don't think they were written by the same person - to me there are more differences than similarities.

Having said that my hand writing changes everytime I pick up a pen. Sometimes it's identical to my brothers! You can't tell them apart!

But I do have friends with consistant hand writing styles.

I don't know OP could you show it to your friend and ask her who she thinks it could be?

Good call re the 'f'. Otherwise very similar but I would expect them to be the same.

They are quite different. Look at the ‘th’ words. One joins from the top, the other from the bottom.

The ‘f’s are totally different (look at ‘it’ and ‘of’). It’s the first thing I noticed.

I don’t think they look the same. Similar yes, but not the same.

She knew that we had changed all activities and the leisure centre point is very specific. She is one of very few people who have our full address.

I think I’d show her the letter and say how you can’t believe someone would do it to you and see what she says.

Definitely the same handwriting.

The thing I’d be asking myself is: why would my friend want me to be guardian of her children when she believes me to be a “cheat”? Unless she’s totally unhinged, she wouldn’t want you near her kids would she? This would be my line of thinking in addition to believing that the letter isn’t in her handwriting.

If only she knew those exact points, then clearly it's her, handwriting issue aside.

I think the f letters are so very different that it's not something the same person would do.
Some of the other letters are very similar, but there's only so many ways you can shape a y or an h. The way an f is formed depends on how you were taught to write - for instance my DFs curve both top and bottom to the right, whereas I was taught to curve the top to the right and the bottom to the left.
Your letter writer doesn't curve the bottom at all, which would be a really odd thing to do if they habitually curve the bottom to then join up with the next letter, as in the card.

Some people are just secret haters OP