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WWYD - Feel so betrayed

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sausageandchips007 · 25/10/2019 17:17

Need some advice please.

We moved house and applied for a school place for our DC - due to circumstances we had to rent, though we ensured we met all the criteria and it was by no means a short term let. We are in this house for at least 2 years and ideally we are looking to buy once those 2 years are up or will just carry on renting where we are.

We came to know that someone wrote a letter to the school telling them that we had given false information and that we had no intention of staying in the area. The school did their investigations with us and found that we had complied with all the criteria etc.

We asked to see a copy of the letter under DPA 2018 and I have just received it. It was handwritten and matches very closely with my best friend. It also had content in it about things which only she knew. She has just asked us to be legal guardians for her 2 DC and her and her DH's power of attorney.

WWYD?

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Summergarden · 29/10/2019 09:26

I don’t think it’s the same.

I also think that if she was going to do something like that, assuming she is of at least average intelligence, she would have either typed the letter or at least completely changed her handwriting.

I think that if you even imply that you think she wrote and sent it you could destroy your friendship.

notapizzaeater · 29/10/2019 10:00

I'd mention it to her face to face and tell her about the extra details in the letter and watch her reaction tbh.

SirVixofVixHall · 29/10/2019 20:07

I agree with Summergarden

DisplayPurposesOnly · 29/10/2019 20:28

Me too.

I think OP will lose her friend over this.

I can't see why someone who'd ask you to be the legal guardian of their children and their husband's POA would do this to you.

I also find it odd that OP hadn't discussed this allegation with her friend, before she'd even seen the letter.

MadeForThis · 29/10/2019 21:25

You need to at least mention the letter to her. You should get a sense from her response.

PreseaCombatir · 30/10/2019 08:21

I also find it odd that OP hadn't discussed this allegation with her friend, before she'd even seen the letter
I thought OP had discussed with her, but just not told anyone she was requesting the copy of the letter. I might be wrong though.

Alleycat1 · 31/10/2019 21:27

It also had content in it about things which only she knew That being the case then the best friend is either the letter writer or has passed Op's personal and private information to a third party. Either way she is not a true friend.

wineandroses1 · 31/10/2019 22:15

So sorry Op. I know you don’t want it to be so, but it is. She wrote that letter.

Cassandrainthenight · 02/11/2019 23:15

Any news, sausage?

JustHereWithPopcorn · 04/11/2019 13:08

Any update?

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sausageandchips007 · 04/11/2019 16:48

Nothing to report at the moment.

Currently scouting for graphologist, they're not cheap!

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CallMeRachel · 04/11/2019 20:05

You may have missed it but someone earlier up thread stated that they worked in the legal field and got the opinion of a handwriting expert who looked at your samples and concluded it was the same person.

Lineintime · 04/11/2019 20:47

@sausageandchips007

DM1209’s post

WWYD - Feel so betrayed
PollyShelby · 04/11/2019 21:03

What a nightmare. I would tell her you know what she did and then go silent.

You'll know if she knows.

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sausageandchips007 · 04/11/2019 21:43

I did see that, thank you.

If I'm going to do this properly and put it to bed I need to be sure for myself hence looking for someone 'known' to give me that opinion/conclusion.

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sausageandchips007 · 04/11/2019 21:47

I was remembering yesterday that BF had also mentioned some time ago that she knew of another friend who had rented and the school had found out and withdrawn the place. She specifically asked me to make sure I had read the school's criteria correctly.

I do wonder now if it was her that was involved in her friend's DC withdrawal of school place.

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Lineintime · 04/11/2019 21:48

Peace of mind needed. You can ask questions, go back to that person for clarification and more clarification if you find yourself having doubts.

Sorry you’re going through this.

Blubluboo · 04/11/2019 22:32

Good luck op! I hope it isn't your friend.

Cassandrainthenight · 04/11/2019 22:53

She specifically asked me to make sure I had read the school's criteria correctly.

That's so strange! Why would she ask you? When we moved I didn't know of any criteria published anywhere, apart from school catchment areas.
I can't imagine any of my friends esp not with kids in the same school or catchment suddenly telling me to make sure I meet the school criteria before I applyConfused, neither can I imagine getting into anyone else's school application business.

Babymamaroon · 05/11/2019 16:28

I'm going to go against the grain and the professionals and say it's not the same writing. Very similar but I've had a good look at the 'f' and 'l' and they are constructed differently - to my eyes.

I hope for your sake it's not your best friend as that's just unforgivable.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 05/11/2019 16:37

I don't think they look alike at all.

Definitely look up your own expert for your own peace of mind.

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sausageandchips007 · 07/11/2019 14:12

Update.

Graphologist report came in this morning and the opinion is that the samples were written by the same hand. So I went round with everything. Her DH was there too. She admitted it. She said she had a moment of insanity and just sent it.

For once in my life I am just totally lost for words...

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marvellousnightforamooncup · 07/11/2019 14:26

Fucking hell! Well I hope you gave her what for.

CottonSock · 07/11/2019 14:31

She just admitted it?

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