How long do you take in the shower???

[Dollygirl2008]

My lodger has currently had the shower going for over ten mins!!! I mean - what the hell is she song in there???

Would you say something?????

This is going to become the Mumsnet chicken....Of course I can shower in under 10 seconds using three drops of water exactly!

I timed myself this morning during an earlier than normal start, trying to be slightly faster than usual but struggling to focus. It was 3.5 minutes - shampoo (mid-length hair), condition, wash top to toe with soap and scrubby gloves, rinse.

10-15 mins for me depending on hair wash / shaving.

Lived in Australia for a while, sometimes there are 3 min shower allowances there and I struggled with this but just about managed because I had to.

OP please don't rent out your spare room.

You are clearly too petty and sound like a nightmare to live with especially with that comment about how her personal hygiene is your business because she rents a room in your house. All the things you described are not unreasonable behaviour.

A live-in landlord should be able to let things slide and accept differences in how people live not be as dictatorial as you sound.

Save everyone some grief and quit this landlord lifestyle. Definitely not for you.

Someone like you pisses me off to no end, willing to take people's money but make zero concessions in living with an adult and want to dictate every move to them like they are your child

Me too,15/20 mins.

7 or 8 minutes tops including leg shaving etc. This was a bugbear of mine until recently as my water bills doubled when DH and the stepkids moved in (we are on a water meter). Eldest stepson was taking 20 mins in the shower with the water running the whole time. For the person who said 'don't be a miser' there's no need to have water running for all that time! We told him to cut it down and he has. Same with my DD (very long hair) she takes 7 or 8 minutes tops.

How often does your lodger have these 20 min showers? Some mornings I can take 15 minutes but some mornings (normally when off to work) I take 5 min showers. I generally shower once a day, sometimes twice depending on what I’ve been doing, the weather etc. So I think we can only answer your AIBU if you give more detail on how often she’s showering.

No I wouldn't say something! I take much l9nger than that if washing my hair and shaving legs.
Why are you timing your lodger? Presumably she or he pays you for the privilege of a room in your house and therefore has a right to use the facilities?

Bathroom time..... Teeth, shower, hair, dry off, medicated powder (instead of talc) etc. wipe down shower and tray, mini mop over bathroom floor. bleach down toilet. Towel over wash hand basin etc. 20 minutes. Bathroom set up for the day.

Depends how nice the shower is and how much of a rush I'm in. Getting ready in the morning or a quick shower after the gym and I can be done in 5 minutes, a relaxing Sunday morning shower and I can be ages (especially if the weather is cold).

This is going to become the Mumsnet chicken....Of course I can shower in under 10 seconds using three drops of water exactly!

When I read these threads about 3/4 minute showers I have a mental image of me tying myself in knots and falling over several times trying to do the same! My coordination is awful

If I'm not washing my hair then just 5mins for a wash and shave underarms. If I'm washing my hair then probably closer to 15mins. If I'm also shaving my legs then yeah more like 20mins.

My dh has a 20min shower every day, drives me insane. He puts the shower on and then sits on the toilet for at least 10mins so that the water is hot when he's ready to get in 😡

Love a long shower, I often just stand under the water.

Even if I wash my hair and shave legs etc, it's still only about 5 mins. And I turn the water off while putting shampoo or conditioner in and shaving.

You aren't her moral guardian. If she wants to use the shower and washing machine differently to you, she can! Unless you put it in the contact terms - also if she doesn't shower every day, is she allowed longer? Your contract could state 'use of the washing machine twice per week, between the hours of 5am and 7 am. 30 minutes shower time per week, not exceeding 7 minutes on any given day.'
It seems invasive to be a actively monitoring her shower time in the home you share with her.

Don't mean to sound rude but there's a reason landlords are first for the guillotine. Jesus Christ.

What is the nature of your problem OP? The fact you feel they should shower quicker (none of your business and stop monitoring it and making judgements on it, that's really weird) or that you have contractually allowed a certain usage in your tenancy agreement and she is breaking it (simply remind her of this).

I have an invisible disability and it takes me ages to shower properly. Most people enjoy a shower simply to unwind or relax- accounting for what she is doing in there is really overstepping. I'd hate to live with someone who did this and wouldn't if I knew.

Competitive showerers are the worst, as it's actually evidence that you are more efficient put together people. It's as bad as those that like to stealth gloat about their 'natural' beauty by mentioning at every juncture that how little they use and do and 'need' re" beauty and cosmetics.

I can do have a basic shower in about 3/4 mins. Hair and shaving is probably double that. However my partner he takes about 10-15 mins every day! He does wash his hair daily though....

I live in Germany. We're changed on the amount of water that runs away and also the cost of heating the water.

Judging by the comments on here, heating the water must be pretty much without charge in the Uk as nobody has mentioned it at all and environmentally waste of water also a concern.

I take as long as I need in my crying chamber. Exfoliate, shampoo, hair mask, conditioner, etc. My DH knows if I say I’m taking a shower then it’s 10 mins minimum

You sound like the worlds worst landlady!!

I'm amazed at some of these long showers. Timed myself this morning (just with normal analogue bathroom clock, so won't be very precise) and it took 4 minutes, which included washing and conditioning my shoulder length hair.

Once a week or so I have a longer shower in which I shave legs and armpits and/or exfoliate.

We have a power shower and a water meter.

I always shower in the morning so want to be in and out quickly. If I was having a shower in the evening I'd probably want it to be more leisurely and relaxing.

For those who are having a go at the OP I'm guessing you're not on water meters or you're not paying £70 a month for water at the minute like I am, or you're all rich! Regardless of the environmental concerns.

I think you are totally within your eights to point out the cost, and waste of water. I have long hair but am in and out of the shower in less than 5 minutes, I can’t understand what people do for so long in the shower . Maybe I don’t wash thoroughly enough.

We had a housemate who would spend almost an HOUR in the shower. That really was ridiculous. Thankfully it wasn't very often.

I have 20 min showers but def not every day. Talking about an environmental point of view. Apparently eating meat uses vast amounts of water, so maybe if she's veggie or vegan she's actually doing better than most of us even with daily long showers!