Showing off DD

[DeadDoorpost]

So I gave birth to DD last Sunday. My nan died the same day, 2 hours before she was born. So I really don't feel like I can show her off to people as they're mourning the loss of my nan. Parents and siblings have met her, but any interactions feel...put on? Like they're being polite. And it feels wrong to be posting photos of her to friends and family when I should also be mourning.

So can I show her off to you guys?

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Nan my darling, but take joy in your beautiful little girl - she is gorgeous. You've every right to show her off to anyone you care to. Welcome to the world, little one ❤

Aww she's adorable. Congratulations ❤️

Congratulations, she is gorgeous. I like the fact that you are sensitive to your family's feelings, you're a nice person.

Congratulations. She is gorgeous. well done and i'm sorry for your loss.xx

Congratulations, she's gorgeous! Sorry for the loss of your Nan.

Awww she is sooooo adorable DeadDoorpost (I truly mean it and I am one of those people who doesn’t go all soppy over babies) . Huge Congratulations and well done. Show her off to the whole world, she’s wonderful.

So sorry about you loosing your Nan, especially at such a time.

There’s no ‘should’ about mourning. Do what’s right for you

I’m sure your families deligh in DD isn’t ‘put on’ im sure they think she’s amazing, but they’re probably feeling a bit guilty finding joy in things that your Nan can’t and feeling sad at their loss as well. It’s a very difficult time. But posting photos and celebrating the joy of Charlotte arrival isn’t disrespectful to your Nan, so crack on.

We had friends of the family bring their new DD to my Dads funeral and she was a total delight to have around, she definitely helped to remind us of the circle of life!

Celebrate Charlotte’s arrival 🌸💕🎂🍰🥂🍾🎈🧸🎉 she’s absolutely gorgeous!! X

Charlotte is beautiful!

Congratulations to you all... I'm sure its hard for you just now - your emotions are all over the place, even without the sad loss of your nan. But don't be afraid to celebrate her - I can't imagine your nan would want any different!

what a little beauty.and what a day or you! im so sorry about your nan.a birth on such a terrible day sounds just the sort of thing a mum/nan would give to you to help heal.
im sure everyone is just as happy as they would be if it wasnt for the sadness of their loss.it must be hard wanting to both cry and jump for joy.you'll all get there though.

She's beautiful, congratulations.
When an older person dies, sometimes it can be really nice and positive to celebrate your Nan's life as well as welcoming your DD into the world.

She is absolutely adorable. Congratulations.

I know a little of what you're going through. My husband's Grandmother died 2 months before my first was born and his Mum died 3 weeks before my second was born. It is hard to share your joy in a time of grief. But a baby is a blessing and I am sure you will find as the initial shock and adjustment is over, people will be thrilled to have something so positive to distract them from their sadness.

What a little bobbin 😍

Shell be leaping off the sofa before you know it 😘

She is a beauty, well done you and congratulations.

On the flip side I am ever so sorry to hear about you loss. What a bittersweet day for you

What a beautiful baby.... Congratulations.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
So many families seem to have the 'one in, one out' situation. Not many on the same day though.... I think at first the shock for those in the middle generation must be hard... Lost a parent/grandparent but gained a grandchild/child... Hard to get your head around!
I do however think that once things have settled this lovely baby will be a wonderful distraction to everyone.

She's absolutely beautiful. A gift from your Nan

My nan passed away the day before my birthday, eight years ago. It's hard, birthdays are meant to be joyful.

But I'd say this one really is, because it wasn't just A birthday, it was the actual day she was born. I bet your nan would be chuffed to know that you made something special and happy happen. She wouldn't want you and yours to feel unable to celebrate.

How about a generic message to your family to let them know how conflicted you feel right now, and that while you're grieving, you're also experiencing this new life and everything which comes with it, and would they let you know if or when you can share this with everyone because you don't know what's appropriate at this difficult time?

Worded better than I put it, though.

I'm sorry for your loss, congratulations on your baby though, she's adorable.

What an absolutely gorgeous little girl! Congratulations!

What a pout! She’s a cutie. I bet your Nan would have been well proud. Sorry for your loss but your Nan will live on through your daughter. Congrats.

Beautiful, congratulations and well done x

She's lovely! DO show her off! My friend's youngest son was born the same day my dad died and seeing her baby photos all the time gave me a little light in what was a really hard, dark period for me.

AHHHHHHHHHH
She is totally adorable congratulations.
And my belief is your nan is looking down with a lovely smile on her face.

What others have said ,.

She is gorgeous , and a big Congratulations too.

I am sorry to hear about your Nan .

What a beautiful baby. Congratulations x

Thank you. Reading these comments really has helped, especially knowing many of you have had similar experiences of losing a loved one at the same time as gaining a new child.

My dad had phoned my DH a few hours after I'd given birth and broke the news to him, telling him to tell me at the right time. My nan had been looking forward to meeting Charlotte, so I do hope they met in passing. I like to think Charlotte came and got my nan, then spent those two hours with her before arriving herself, with my nan bringing her to me. From the sounds of it my contractions started ramping up big time at the moment my nan passed.

I'll share photos of her to the family more this week I think. As you say, I'm sure they'll love to get them.

So beautiful ♥️