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Showing off DD

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DeadDoorpost · 23/09/2019 19:19

So I gave birth to DD last Sunday. My nan died the same day, 2 hours before she was born. So I really don't feel like I can show her off to people as they're mourning the loss of my nan. Parents and siblings have met her, but any interactions feel...put on? Like they're being polite. And it feels wrong to be posting photos of her to friends and family when I should also be mourning.

So can I show her off to you guys?

Showing off DD
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Devonishome1 · 23/09/2019 21:45

Completely adorable, beautiful baby and those lips are so cute👶🏻

Brenna24 · 23/09/2019 21:46

She is stunning. I agree with Bishop though, your children haven't brought death, they have restarted the life cycle. I also agree with Doubting that you can celebrate your children while grieving at the same time. In fact in a way they are the star in the darkness. I am sure that once the shock has worn off your family will be more natural around you. I am so sorry for your loss and wish you long happy years with the family that you still have.

TheHonestTruth100 · 23/09/2019 21:54

it's almost as though our children have brought death to the family

Absolutely not OP! Your children bring a new lease of life to the world. Like a ray of light in dark times.

Charlotte is adorable! Congratulations Flowers

Ohmygod123 · 23/09/2019 22:00

My MIL best friends daughter died the same day my DC was born, the daughter was the same age as my DP (barely 30) and it was very sudden from natural causes.. It was awful, we didn't know what to do, we wanted to show off our DC but it was such an upsetting time. We sent photos to family just to say DC had arrived and was doing well then left it for a couple weeks before any updates. Its a sad time but I'm sure your nan would want you to enjoy your moment and enjoy your LO :)

MoaningNet · 23/09/2019 22:05

She’s beautiful op.
Flowers for your loss.

OhioOhioOhio · 23/09/2019 22:08

A star is born!!! Congratulations!!!

kulaexchange · 23/09/2019 22:15

What a beauty!! She's perfect. Congratulations op.

WLAH · 23/09/2019 22:16

Sweet. Congrats
Sorry for your loss

SirVixofVixHall · 23/09/2019 22:18

What a gorgeous baby. I think there is something very moving about her arriving as your grandmother left. When older people die, it is so lovely to have new ones being born.
Congratulations!

MidnightMystery · 23/09/2019 22:18

She's a little beauty congratulations!

So sorry for your loss xx

bellalou1234 · 23/09/2019 22:19

Ah what a beutiful baby girl you have.

eternallybaffled · 23/09/2019 22:20

I think it's hard because 5/6 days before DS was born we lost my DH's granddad so it's almost as though our children have brought death to the family.

No way! I'd look at it as a little bit of nana and grandas soul being passed into your DC congratulations on your beautiful new baba! And I'm sure your nan would want you to have her fussed over 💖

Ember12 · 23/09/2019 22:20

Aw shes gorgeous congratulations

WorraLiberty · 23/09/2019 22:21

Aww she's beautiful OP.

Sorry for your loss and congratulations on the birth Thanks

flossletsfloss · 23/09/2019 22:21

She is so SO beautiful OP. ❤️❤️❤️

elaine26 · 23/09/2019 22:22

She's absolutely beautiful, congratulations and also sorry for your loss 💐

1frenchfoodie · 23/09/2019 22:23

Beautiful. And now a bit of your nan lives on for another generation. Show her off to anyone you want to, she is no less loved for the the sad passing of your nan.

Frenchmom · 23/09/2019 22:24

I lost my mum 8 days after my third child was born. It was expected, but didn’t make it any easier.
Family and friends were happy to celebrate my daughter’s birth as they saw it as a positive at a sad time.
Your baby is gorgeous. It’s early days on both accounts. I’m sure your family will be besotted with her soon.

leli · 23/09/2019 22:26

A dear truly gorgeous baby. How hard for you. I'll bet your family are holding back because of all the complex emotions but they'll be so thrilled she's here. You'll get the love soon I'll bet and the little one will be bringing you and her dad joy.

RogueV · 23/09/2019 22:26

Beautiful! 😍

NationMcKinley · 23/09/2019 22:27

Ah! Charlotte is absolutely gorgeous. Well done and congratulations Flowers

Condolences on the loss of your Nan. That must be very sad for you all. Be gentle on yourself, a birth and a bereavement at the same time really is a lot to deal with.

Actaea · 23/09/2019 22:27

I’d definitely look at it as a bit of your Nan being passed into your beautiful daughter. If you believe in reincarnation the timing is spot on. I’m sure your Nan wouldn’t want her passing to affect the arrival of her new great-granddaughter.

NewAndImprovedNorks · 23/09/2019 22:36

Oooh, she’s gorgeous! And clearly practicing some fab dance moves...I can hear samba music ;)

Italiangreyhound · 23/09/2019 22:38

She's gorgeous. People will soon get over the initial rawness of loss. My dad died a few months before my dd was born. I was sad, of course, but the birth of a baby brings great joy.

IlonaRN · 23/09/2019 22:39

She is beautiful - congratulations!
Very sorry for the loss of your Nan :(

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