Don't believe my DP

[Natenywolf]

Name changed for this as don't want this thread to show on my posting history.

When me and partner first got together he was violent (never towards me though I thought I should add) and would punch people if he was annoyed/angry and he knew I didn't like it but he stopped punching people although they made him angry and annoyed.

Today he went out with his friend for a few drinks.

He came back earlier and had a small cut on his face and a cut on his lip. I asked him how it happened and he said he scratched himself.

For some reason I don't believe him.

He's now asleep (isn't used to drinking as he doesn't drink often and when he does it makes him tired).

Any advice on what I could do? Or should I just leave it?

I don't know what I'll do next. Ill see what he says tomorrow but if he doesn't tell the truth i might leave him but not sure

If he doesn't tell the truth i might leave him but not sure

You won’t leave him. Stop kidding yourself.

You know that one day you will ask him and he'll punch you, don't you?

You won't leave him. You sound so enamoured. I doubt even if he had actually hit you you'd leave. It's not easy, I know. But this man is the type of man I'd encourage every woman to run away from.

He’s a piss poor role model should you ever decide to have children with this Neanderthal.

How did he cut himself?!

If he cut himself he should be able to say how he did it.

I have terrible depth perception and am always falling over or banging into things.

But it would be rare (if ever) I’ve ever damaged my face.

He got into a fight because he sounds like a massive loser with anger issues.

OP asking you again as multiple pps have

WHY are you choosing to continue in a relationship with someone who is violent with anyone and who you don't feel 100% confident is always telling the truth??

You're in denial if you think this is someone worth giving a second of your time to. He's a loser.

If you had a daughter, are you honestly saying you'd be OK with her having someone like this in her life?

Wouldn't you want better for her?

That should be the same for you. Want someone better to spend your time with, so you don't have to come on MN asking strangers whether we think he's a liar. Or stay single.

Surely you can ask your partner what has really happened, as in, either a scratch or a punch up, is he an honest guy usually.

Ask yourself honestly, when was the last time you (or anyone else you know) managed to get a noticeable scratch on the face?!

I mean, was the pub inside a bramble bush or something?

If he hit me I wouldn't be with him.

He said he scratched himself on his cheek and lip but is noticeable.

I just asked him because his face is a bit bruised now how he did it and he said he doesn't know. And that he hit his hand on the wall so his knuckles are red.

So he was punching walls? That anger management really hasn’t worked OP.

He said he was walking near the wall and then hit it accidentally.

Not only a prince among men but tedious to be with to boot! Toddlers who lash out aren't charming and big boys who lash out are tedious and too big to put on the naughty step and an embarrassment to be with.

You don’t punch things accidentally.

I still don't know if I believe him though because he said he doesn't know how he cut his face but yesterday he did know.

Have you children with him

Natenywolf, love. Please. He is lying. You know he is because every one of your senses is screaming it at you. He has been fighting, no doubt about it.
You don't want to leave him. Despite your words to the contrary, you clearly don't have enough of a problem being with a thug to warrant ending it.
I pray that you don't have children (his or not) that could ever witness their dad/stepdad/mum's boyfriend punch someone.
How long have you been with him? Cut him out now.
This. Will. Not. End. Well.

What are the chances that a bloke who is known to punch people, came home from a booze-up (and "getting tired" after a couple of drinks is a new one on me) having accidentally scratched himself and hit a wall but can't keep his story straight as to how he did it.

Also, you say he's never hit you.
Yet.
I get the feeling this is a relatively new relationship. So he might still be on his best behaviour (if you can call what he does when out with other people who annoy him that) whilst he hooks you in until you're in too deep (pregnant or with kids). Then, rest assured, he will start on you. Or the kids.
Does he also drive aggressively?

Ask his friend or get him to ask his friend what happened

Im not sure anyone else picked up on this-

He went to anger management but didn’t tell them he hits people?

So he’s happy to lie to professionals?

Why do you value yourself so little that you think this violent idiot is all you deserve? Everyone else can see as clear as day that he is lying to you, it obvious what happened - he got into a fight. Controversial but I don't think any man who needs anger management or has addiction issues is worth bothering with, all it will do is drag you down, I speak from experience. Get out before you've tied yourself to him for life with a child.

He's lying to you, you are lying to yourself. He's hit someone and they've hit him back.

Run