Don't believe my DP

[Natenywolf]

Name changed for this as don't want this thread to show on my posting history.

When me and partner first got together he was violent (never towards me though I thought I should add) and would punch people if he was annoyed/angry and he knew I didn't like it but he stopped punching people although they made him angry and annoyed.

Today he went out with his friend for a few drinks.

He came back earlier and had a small cut on his face and a cut on his lip. I asked him how it happened and he said he scratched himself.

For some reason I don't believe him.

He's now asleep (isn't used to drinking as he doesn't drink often and when he does it makes him tired).

Any advice on what I could do? Or should I just leave it?

Ask him again when he's sobered up and judge his reaction.

Does he have a criminal record?

There are some women that feel a misguided sense of protection being with men whom are violent. There comes a time when they'll be the ones feeling the punch. I don't know why you don't leave him. Violent past, you doubt his stories, now passed out after some drinks. Your life sounds like the basis of a bad Eastender's plot.

Look, if he punched someone in the face the knuckles almost always get damaged from the teeth, punching a wall the knuckles swell get really red.
If someone punched him it leaves a lot more damage than two scrapes, maybe a light very light tussle gives you scrapes.
Someone will fess up IF he’s not telling the truth.
If he’s matured and learned to control his explosive temper good for him.
Positive thoughts OP.

No he doesn't have a criminal record but he has been spoken to by the police a few times.

I'm not only with him because I think he would protect me because I didn't need protected. He's only asleep now as he doesn't drink often (maybe every few months probably 3/4 times a year max).

I'll try to ask him tomorrow but he will probably say he scratched himself again.

His check where the cut is, is a bit red not sure if it's swollen though because I can't see it properly and if I turned the light on I would wake him up. And his knuckles look red aswell but only on the one hand.

Your standards are way way too low

I would've left him before if he didn't get anger management. But he did so I didn't leave him.

I'm not worried I just don't believe him for some reason

I'm saying this gently but ... why wouldn't you be worried about the fact that you don't trust your violent partner? From the outside, this looks like a situation you should be running from. It sounds like you have normalised the behaviour of a very unpleasant man. Trust your gut.

Well, that hasn't worked, then - because he's clearly got into a fight.

Or he's beaten up a completely innocent person and the police are going to be after him. Hopefully just for abh/assault and he hasn't managed to kill somebody.

He went out and drank too much (it didn’t make him tired. He’s likely pissed as a fart) and got in a fight.
Aim higher.

A thug and a liar.

when a man (possibly women as well, I don't know) feels compelled to tell you how many drinks they've had, you can usually double it.
plus, he's violent and has anger issues.

waits for someone to proclaim him a prince among men

I haven't normalised his behaviour.

I know he wouldn't have drank much because he gets drink after 3. And alcohol does make him tired.

He knew he had anger issues before and went to GP for anger management. He probably wouldn't go again though because he didn't admit he was in a fight/punched someone

If he gets violent when drunk, he should never touch a drop ever again.

Anything else and he's making a conscious decision to be violent before he even raises a hand.

He doesn't drink often and he doesn't get violent everytime he drinks. He used to be violent without drinking

He doesn’t binge drink often.
He’s not always a violent shithead when he drinks.
Jeez OP can you really not see how you’re normalising and minimising this shitty behaviour?

I don't mean to sound like I'm allowing him to get into fights and minimising his behaviour because I'm not.

I just posted looking for advice because I don't believe what he said.

So you believe he’s getting drunk and getting into fights? So end it.

Niiiiiiiice

He comes home before 6pm because he’s had enough to drink that he needs to lie down, and he has a split lip and scratched face?

Cripes, your standards are low. He sounds like an utter scuzz.

Yes I think he was fighting today.

He came home before 6pm because he went out this afternoon.

Cut on his face and lip, red knuckles, he’s punched someone and been punched back or vice versa. He told you he has scratched himself because he doesn’t want to disappoint you or create a scene.

Did he say how he managed to scratch himself? Do you not believe him because it doesn’t sound credible? You will see more in the morning, bruising etc.

Yes I think he was fighting today

So what are you going to do next?

It doesn't sound credible to me. As he said he scratched himself on his face which I kind of believed and on his lip (I don't know if you can scratch a lip and if you can it must be hard to).

And his knuckles are red.