anyone awake? Please chat with me for an hour

[WLmum]

Hello, is anyone awake and willing to chat with me about anything at all.
I'm waiting for daybreak, and then for school drop off time, so I can go and be with my truly amazing, so loved dm while she passes away. I am heartbroken. Been awake most of the night wondering if she's going to hold on long enough for me to with her.

Anyone else up? Tell me what you're up for and help me pass the time. Please.

I'm so so sorry for you

Sorry to hear that - I’m sure she sensed that you were with her.

Today will feel weird for you - it sounds like your family are diamonds so let them take over some things from you.

Remember - there is no rule book as to what you feel/do now. My mum died 12 years ago and it just felt surreal for a while. Don’t forget to eat.

I'm late to the thread, WLmum, but I'm sending you huge hugs. My own lovely Dad died in the early hours of Saturday but I'm so thankful now for the time I spent with him in the weeks before, holding his hand and telling him how much I loved him. You did that too for your own lovely Mum. She knew how much you meant to each other and that will have given her such peace and strength. 💐💐💐

I'm so sorry for your loss

Oh @WLmum I am so so sorry for you loss. It is incomparable to anything losing your mum. Whilst it's hard right now please try and take comfort in the fact she is no longer in pain.

She will be so proud of you and you DBs for how gently you cared for her.

I am sending my love to you and yours for the days ahead xxx

Oh OP, sending you all the love possible over a Mumsnet post.

So sorry .

So sorry WLmum

When DF died I think I was in denial for the first few days it just didn’t seem real. Grief then kicked in, sometimes like a punch to the chest, it would literally take your breath away. Take care of yourself.

There is a thread on the Bereavement section for people who have lost a parent. I found that invaluable especially in the first year.

So sorry to hear this. Now she is at peace. I can feel the love & warmth from this thread & really hope I can experience the end like your Mum when it's my turn. (Not imminent as far as I know!). What a lovely family you are. Hold each other tight as you face the next few weeks. Thinking of you all & sending love.

Your mum was lucky to have you and your family

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ it must be a relief that your DM is now at peace. Wishing you strength over the coming hours, days, weeks and months. You and your DB did her proud and knowing that you were with her to the end will be a comfort to you both, in time x

So very sad...be kind to yourself. X

She chose her time, I am so sorry for your loss. My dearest dad chose to go just as my sister had taken the clock off the wall in his hospice room to adjust the time, the clocks had gone back and no-one had altered the time. As she took the clock down and turned it round to adjust it, the hands swung wildly and a nurse stuck her head around the door to see how dad was. Despite being an adult, my sister tried to hide the clock behind her back and we (me, my sister and my daughter) started to laugh. My mum had already stepped out of the room to update my brother. As we laughed dad took one last breath and died. It was the most peaceful death I have ever seen (seen a few) which in turn, gives us all great peace. I hope you will find some inner peace too

So sorry for your loss OP. I was with my Mum when she passed. She looked so peaceful and it was very reassuring. Huge hugs to you all.

I am so sorry love.
Be really kind to yourself over the next few days xx

The undertakers have been and taken her body

Oh gosh that’s a hard thing. I don’t know if you/ your mum was a religious sort- but my atheist dad really enjoyed the vicar visiting him when he was terminally ill. He had a wonderful way with people.

I'm so sorry to hear this OP. You've been so strong and caring all the way through this

So sorry to hear this xxx

So sorry to read this WLmum. What a lovely daughter you are. I can only hope my death is surrounded by such love and consideration as your Mum's was. I'm having a little cry at your thread while my 5 month old daughter looks at me as if I am insane 😆

So sorry for your loss OP

Sorry for your loss WLmum xx

Sending you much love. You will look back on this time and realise what a privilege it was to be with your Mum through to the end. Your mum will know that she was not alone.

Xx

So sorry op.
Wishing you strength for the tough run up to the funeral- so much to organise, when one is least able to think straight.
Be kind to yourself, and look after your health generally, I was in a fog for the first year after each parent died.

So very sorry for the loss of your dear Mum op.Take comfort from the fact you were with her to the end,surrounding her with love.My deepest condolences to you and your family.