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Friend blocked me after a gift

973 replies

Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

OP posts:
usersouthcoast · 07/09/2019 08:55

Could your gift have gone into her junk email and she hasn't seen it?
Not that that's any excuse for her behaviour.... asking for her gift back is pathetic and she's embarrassed herself

ContessaLovesTheSunshine · 07/09/2019 08:56

Send her an email saying "Friend, I've clearly upset you and I'm really sorry about that, but I'm also very confused because I don't understand how it's happened! I saw your posts, thought you'd like 'thing' and sent it over. Please can we talk? I never meant to cause upset'.

Then wait! She can't be utterly furious anymore or she wouldn't have unblocked you...

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 07/09/2019 08:56

We can’t tell you. You need to ask her.

LIZS · 07/09/2019 08:57

How odd, either you misjudged it or it never arrived. You need to ask her.

Bluntness100 · 07/09/2019 08:57

That seems odd, I personally would ask her the issue, as I suspect fhere is more to this and it's not about her not liking the gift of something,

Have you said something she could have taken offence at, that you didn't maybe realise or intend the way she's taken it?

katewhinesalot · 07/09/2019 08:58

Yes, ask her.

CandyLeBonBon · 07/09/2019 08:58

How strange op. Is there a backstory?

celebrityskin · 07/09/2019 09:00

Is the gift she gave you of greater value than your gift? Perhaps she feels offended or shortchanged...? Which of course is completely the wrong attitude but sometimes people do feel offended when people don't spend as much on them....?

C0untDucku1a · 07/09/2019 09:00

Sbe might not have received it and thinks you just completely ignored her birthday.

BruceAndNosh · 07/09/2019 09:01

Is there any way that you thought you were buying a gift card for X but she actually received a gidt card for Y?
Like you thought it was beauty products but its actually for weight loss products?

Mrsthomasshelby1 · 07/09/2019 09:03

What Contessa said or something along those lines.

I'm going to guess she hasn't received the gift

PhilipJennings · 07/09/2019 09:03

Where overseas? Is she British? Just asking because in some cultures, giving money gifts unless for wedding/baby might be insulting. That's about the only reason I can think of, and tbh it's probably still quite far-fetched. You'll have to ask.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:05

Ha!!
None of the above!!

She got the gift card.

Its somewhere she can try out new stuff, so not limited.

And no back story. We give gifts regularly.

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keepingbees · 07/09/2019 09:06

Has she definitely received it? If it's an occasion gift she might've thought you've forgotten if she didn't see the email

Wildorchidz · 07/09/2019 09:07

Well you’re just going to have to ask her straight out what the issue is.

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:08

And we try to avoid birthday and Christmas pressure, so will go off piste at times and just send token at 'official ' time. If that makes sense.

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Rivkka · 07/09/2019 09:12

What was the card, could it have been offensive?

wowfudge · 07/09/2019 09:13

With so little info no one here will be able to help. Sounds like she was offended/upset initially but has realised it wasn't worth losing a friendship over. Or maybe blocking you was a mistake.

wowfudge · 07/09/2019 09:14

Hang on no - I should read more closely: she unblocked you to have a go at you. Are sure it was her? Maybe someone else has sent the message?

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:14

It was to her local wine makers, whom she had raved about.

Hence, gave variety and opportunity to test new products.

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dudsville · 07/09/2019 09:14

You have to ask her. We can't possibly know.

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:16

It was definitely her who replied, fudge, she referred to her last gift and asked for it back!!

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Sorrysorrysosorry · 07/09/2019 09:17

Have you re checked the email gift card you sent? Was there an error on it? Did you mean to send eg £20 worth but it accidentally registered as £2 worth so she feels you don’t value her?

You will have to ask her.

Annonymiss123 · 07/09/2019 09:17

Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back

This adds to the strangeness of the situation. 🤷‍♀️

OhMyGodTheyKilledKenny · 07/09/2019 09:17

Did the company send the gift card direct to her , rather than to you who then sent it to her?

If they sent it direct they could have muddled it up with one for someone else that had a personalised message on that she found rude/offensive.

That's the only explanation I can think of