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Friend blocked me after a gift

973 replies

Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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Devonishome1 · 24/09/2019 23:06

I’m sorry that your worried about the dog I hope he/she is ok.

MrGsFancyNewVagina · 24/09/2019 23:07

Oh OP, what’s wrong with your poor dog? I’m sorry if she/he is unwell and I hope she/he gets better soon. 💐

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 23:07

'@funkylittleboatrace'

And your consrtuctive comment is......what?

If you dont like it, don't read it. Pretty simple, really.

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Itallt0omuch · 24/09/2019 23:09

I can't believe how invested some people have got in this. Fair play to op, stringing it out to nearly 40 pages!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 23:11

If anyone else wants to take a swipe, feel free. Because I've had enough of it all.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 23:16

Typical example as per Itall .
If i don't come immediately with useless updates I'm accused of stringing it along.

I answered a question from ginkypig , that's all. I was letting it go
till I knew more.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 23:19

And, no,my dog is not ok and I wish I'd never asked a simple question.

Or given an update.

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BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 24/09/2019 23:29

So sorry your dog is poorly, your silly friends love life pales into insignificance compared to that, really hope your dog recovers Flowers

Welltroddenpath · 24/09/2019 23:32

Red - - sometimes people do nasty things like throwing you under a bus to protect there own skin. You just have to take what you can from it and walk away. Your friend isn’t very loyal or honest. Plus she could have quietly told you sooner. Not qualities you need in a friend.

EdtheBear · 24/09/2019 23:33

Op i think I've got it, shes had both your number and the OMs number saved against your name. I'd be keeping your distance from this lady, both physically and emotionally. She thinks nothing of cheating on her DH, she has kept you dangling on a string and she is asking for specific gifts which just doesn't seem right. All in she just doesn't sound a particularly nice person.

So many things make me go Hmm. I actually think you should block her and delete her details. And concentrate in getting on with your life without her.

HesMyLobster · 25/09/2019 00:07

Hope your dog will be ok Thanks

doublebarrellednurse · 25/09/2019 07:50

Oh Jesus she has played you along, and her husband :( I'm sorry she's not who you thought she was.

I hope your dog gets well soon x

For those who don't get it

Friend was using Red name in her phone as her affair partners contact as well. So he would call and come up as her. Friend husband in dark and red in dark. Exchanging random gifts (which is totally normal actually for a lot of long distance friendships) appears to have been used as a cover for her to receive gifts from affair partner too.

Husband has now found out affair partner exists.

Friend blocked OP in an attempt to show husband that she has blocked affair partner. Husband has clearly now figured this out.

Friend is a bit of a selfish knob.

Binglebong · 25/09/2019 08:13

I'm sorry. It must feel horrible. Try to remember that there was a real friendship there as well, the using you was just a small part of it. She wouldn't have been able to fake it that long! I'm not suggesting forgiving her but try not to spend all your time wondering.

I hope your dog is doing better.Flowers

Mothership4two · 25/09/2019 08:24

Avoid her like the plague, she sounds very manipulative. She has used you and your friendship in a very cynical way. Block and move on.

Jp1953 · 25/09/2019 09:57

Sorry for your confused state, it's a bummer when you don't know what you have supposed to have done. Is someone else stirring trouble for you? A friend of you both who is jealous of your close friendship? Sometimes you can't please people no matter what they have done, good luck with it all, you may never find out the truth of the matter.

BadLad · 25/09/2019 10:04

Exchanging random gifts (which is totally normal actually for a lot of long distance friendships)

If you say so. Personally I think it's rather odd to be sending as many gifts as the OP apparently has been to someone you've never actually met (and the person's family too).

ODFOx · 26/09/2019 11:36

Glad the mystery is solved and your friend is ok. Hope your dog recovers Thanks

Drum2018 · 26/09/2019 12:41

This really goes to show that you don't know this woman at all, despite an online relationship. Personally I wouldn't want anything more to do with her and I wouldn't send any further gifts to her child. Block her for good before she involves you in any more of her crazy shit.

TheClitterati · 26/09/2019 14:29

Do you think the husband thinks you are the affair partner @Redshoesandtheblues ?

Hope you dog is ok.

SeaSandandSun · 26/09/2019 18:08

How weird! Maybe she has fallen out with affair guy and her DH saw the messages so she said she had fallen out with you to cover up?

Either way, I think you have been dragged o to some right rubbish!

Couldn’t she have Calle should to explain?

You don’t deserve the nastiness you have got on this thread. Ignore the haters!

I hope your dog is better soon

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Redshoesandtheblues · 26/09/2019 19:49

I have had a brief call.
I didn't ask many questions, because it was rushed call.

It's crap situation. Emotional affair, I think, but gifts to him and from me have been used as a cover.

I'm guessing that's why she refused my idea of choosing something from Amazon.

She wanted postmark and handwriting etc to know who it was from?
It was only here and there, but I think the gifts have been a trojan horse.

I've no chance to ask any more at this stage. And the stress compartment in my head is overloaded.

So I'm leaving well alone.

Thanks to everyone who asked after dog. We not out of woods. Tests, samples , holiday cancelled etc.

But he's more important at moment than some crap emotional drama.

But, yes, I've been asked to send the books. And I will.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 26/09/2019 19:53

I'm trying to take my mind off things, so looking at more cheery threads.

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Atalune · 26/09/2019 20:01

Ooooft, op that’s just horrible.

To be used like that, or at the very least to be caught up in it.

So sorry about your dog, hope they pull through.

At least you know and can put it to rest now. Flowers

EleanorReally · 26/09/2019 20:33

this is a lesson.
sorry op
sort of catfish situation.
how wicked

FoxFoxSierra · 26/09/2019 21:37

Don't send her anything, she's not your friend. Wherever you stand on the cheating issue she used you and didn't give a fuck about how you felt when she was play acting telling you to fuck off