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Friend blocked me after a gift

973 replies

Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

OP posts:
1984isnow · 07/09/2019 09:59

There's got to be a a problem or mix up with the gift, especially as she has made the point of asking you to return her gift to you.

MaryDollNesbitt · 07/09/2019 09:59

'Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!'

Is she even old enough to be drinking? Her behaviour says otherwise ... Confused

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/09/2019 09:59

That is really really odd. I would Contessas message. Wait. If she still asks for the present you received returned refuse and get on with your life knowing some people are completely bonkers.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 07/09/2019 10:00

Was it this wine?

miniaturelocomotive · 07/09/2019 10:02

What was the gift she sent you? Have you used it? Did you thank her for it?

SleepingStandingUp · 07/09/2019 10:03

Op what gift did she want returning, for context?

I think you either need to message her again Re "clearly something is upsetting you and I want to know what" and if thst doesn't work, does she have a partner or parent you have contact details for? Say you've seemingly upset her but she won't talk to you about it, can thry at least tell you what you've done. Mutual friend?

PegLegAntoine · 07/09/2019 10:04

The fact it’s wine makes me wonder if she’s taken offence at you suggesting she has a drinking problem or something?!

Aridane · 07/09/2019 10:05

She's batshit or something peculiar has happened- eh has your email been hacked and someone has been sending abusive meesages from your email account ?

InsertFunnyUsername · 07/09/2019 10:05

What was the gift she asked for back?

That could be a clue, if for example it was a picture of her completing her AA course then I can see her point. Other than that I've got no bloody idea what you've done.

dellacucina · 07/09/2019 10:06

Has she done anything like this before, OP?

CoraPirbright · 07/09/2019 10:09

Any mutual friends you can ask? The whole thing is really strange.

ClemDanFango · 07/09/2019 10:10

Regardless of what her problem is there is no excuse for verbally abusing someone who has tried to do something nice for you.
If she had a problem with the gift she should have just said so in a polite manner and maybe you could have tried to resolve it.
The fact she’s turned on you so easily in this way tells me she’s not someone you need in your life any longer, try and get the voucher cancelled and send her gift back with a note telling her to firmly shove it up here arse.

ClemDanFango · 07/09/2019 10:10

her! Ffs phone 🖕🏻

CookPassBabtridge · 07/09/2019 10:11

This is all confusing. Just ring her and have a proper convo and ask her. We won't know the answer!

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 07/09/2019 10:15

All I can think about (and I know it's a commonly-suggested MN theme) is that she might have some kind of MH problem. One of my relatives has schizophrenia and hears voices and will suddenly detest people because of what she believes she's heard them say to or about her - even though they never said or did anything of the sort in reality. Some of the people she suddenly takes against have either been long dead or never actually existed at all.

Otherwise, I'm wondering if she's an alcoholic or pregnant and hasn't computed that you haven't been told and have no way of knowing anything about it. There could also be some credence to earlier suggestions that the company mixed up your message with another customer's or you mean to give £50 (or equivalent) in vouchers and a typo led to them sending 50p. Or might the company have sent it along with their current advertising campaign and she didn't realise that you had no control over that (e.g. "Make your Christmas go with a bang!" when she's an avowed atheist or "Your favourite sirloin steak will go down a treat with this complementary rich red" when she's a vegan???)

RuffleCrow · 07/09/2019 10:16

Is she a rl friend or just someone you 'know' through facebook?

Was the gift an apology for something you'd done?

Do you have aspergers or any other condition that could cause you to make social gaffes?

Had she specifically mentioned this item to you or have you been cyber stalking her posts? Could she have found this creepy?

Could the delivery company have majorly messed up and sent her... i don't know... Nazi memorabilia by mistake?

Or have you always secretly suspected she's really a bitch and she's finally showing her true colours?

Mummyoftwo91 · 07/09/2019 10:19

How weird op!! Sounds like the problem is her not you

womenspeakout · 07/09/2019 10:20

Is it possible she's recently discovered she's an alcoholic or something?

I don't know, just ask her, she sounds like a right drama queen otherwise, especially asking for a gift back, you can't do that, it's a gift.

Lipz · 07/09/2019 10:21

That's very weird. I'd have to keep asking what her problem was. The gift voucher sounds like a very thoughtful gift. Especially when it's something she likes. Can't see why she behaved the way she did. What did she get you that she wants back ?

Soola · 07/09/2019 10:21

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Friend blocked me after a gift
NoLeopard · 07/09/2019 10:25

Sounds like someone's got hold of her phone! Crazy husband? I would say of course I'm not returning the gift! I'd just like an explanation out of courtesy then we can go our separate ways. A phone call though, just to make sure it's her.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 07/09/2019 10:27

Was the gift she gave you a corkscrew?!

TheSerenDipitY · 07/09/2019 10:27

maybe she has suddenly realised she is an alcoholic and thinks she has told you and that gift is rubbing her nose in it?

sonjadog · 07/09/2019 10:28

It may have nothing to go with the gift. Could someone have been gossiping and told her you have done/said something?

Bitchfeatures · 07/09/2019 10:28

Can you call her? Or message her again?
I'm invested now, I need to know what the problem is Grin