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Friend blocked me after a gift

973 replies

Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

OP posts:
PeriComoToes · 07/09/2019 09:42

You have to ask her straight

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:42

I wasnt stalking!
She sent photo of bottle and her glass and said....' a real find'.

Yes, I zoomed in on label to get exact name and sort gift card.

OP posts:
MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 07/09/2019 09:43

WTF? you seriously just need to ask what’s going on and why you have offended her whilst you are unblocked

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:44

I did ask what was going on.
She told me , 'nothing', and can i send gift back?

OP posts:
SpeckledyHen · 07/09/2019 09:45

Why don’t you pick up the phone and speak to her ?

Worgust · 07/09/2019 09:45

Well you've definitely offended her, albeit accidentally.

Are you sure it's about the gift? It might be something else, something she's heard maybe?

Worgust · 07/09/2019 09:46

What was the gift to you that she wants you to send back?

Guiltypleasures001 · 07/09/2019 09:46

What gift has she given you, that she wants returned? Has it something to do that maybe?

CandyLeBonBon · 07/09/2019 09:46

Well that's just weird. Sounds like a lovely thoughtful gift. Shock

minesasaugagesupper · 07/09/2019 09:47

Have you specifically asked her if she got your gift card and why is it a problem that you sent it?

Original poster
Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 09:47

I've honestly tried to get to bottom of it. Directly.

That's why I said I wouldn't normally bother posting about this. Youd just ask wth is going on?
And I have!!

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bettytaghetti · 07/09/2019 09:47

What was her gift to you, that she so desperately wants back? Does she think they were grossly unequal? Very bizarre to ask for a gift back.

Atalune · 07/09/2019 09:48

Say you won’t return the gift. She owes you an explanation.

Does she have a partner you can ask?

It’s very very odd.

peachgreen · 07/09/2019 09:49

What did you write in the gift card? Could it have upset her in some way? Very odd!

BrokenWing · 07/09/2019 09:49

was just about to say what a pp has said - pick up the phone and call her!

ThirstyGhost · 07/09/2019 09:50

Is this a friend you've known a long time and spent time with in real life who moved overseas or a pen pal/online friend you haven't met?

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 07/09/2019 09:50

So you send presents at random times, rather than "official" dates.

She's been going through a hard time at work that is concluding.

She sent you a picture of wine, which you sleuthed and sent her a gift card for the winery it came from.

Was there a message? How much was the gift card for?

She blocked you when she received it. Then she unblocked you and asked for your gift back - what was that?

You've asked her what was wrong with the gift and she said "nothing but please return xxx to me"

Any chance she thinks you're suggesting that her work issues are bad and she can't afford wine? Was it an insultingly low gift card for a winery, so she can't buy anything with it? Is it madly out of kilter with what she bought you?

If none of those things apply, I suspect this isn't about the wine and it's weird timing; given that you've asked her what was wrong with the present and she's said "nothing".

Any chance you could have upset her somehow relating to the gift she got you?

user1573624 · 07/09/2019 09:50

What gift does she want back?

JoyceJeffries · 07/09/2019 09:51

Have you got any friends in common that are real shit stirrers?
Maybe this isn’t about the gift at all? Somebody might have just made up a load of crap about you and passed it on to your friend?

wheretonow123 · 07/09/2019 09:54

Can you check if she has used the gift card that you bought?

I would respond that you have no idea as to WHY she has reacted like this.

Depending on her reaction and explanation I would be in two minds regarding the return of her present. I would be inclined to tell her that its here and she can arrange a courier to pick it up.

It does depend on her reason but, unless she responds quickly with a somewhat plausible explanation, I would just block her from your end. I assume there is no other link where ou could meet again? Same town growing up, mutual friends etc?

Blankspace4 · 07/09/2019 09:55

This is very confusing!! What is the gift (and value) of what she sent you? What was the value of the (presumably wine) gift voucher??

over50andfab · 07/09/2019 09:55

Trying to think of reasons why she’d do this, and not much to add etc
except- does she need her gift back because she needs the cash? Wouldn’t explain her blocking and telling you to eff off though. As another poster suggested - your friend doesn’t have a partner who might have said he fancies you, or that your gift was better than hers or something 🤷‍♀️

MeggyMeg · 07/09/2019 09:57

Tbh,she sounds like a PITA. Who needs the drama?

Ivestoppedreadingthenews · 07/09/2019 09:58

No idea...utterly bizarre. Doesn’t sound like you’ve done anything to remotely warrant that. Are there any mutual friends who could get to the bottom of it?

Marnie76 · 07/09/2019 09:58

Send a message back saying no you won’t send anything back to her as it was a gift in the same way that you sent her a lovely gift which you don’t expect back. It might spark her into telling you what her actual problem is.