How often has your significant other shouted at you?

[GymKitJen]

Like raised their voice in an argument?

Never. Our relationship would be over if either shouted.

'Stressed and hormonal'. So that's ok then.

We are a loud animated family so yes we shout all the time. Been together 25 years. And I've heard both sets of neighbours have a shout at each other so I am quite suspicious of people who say they don't ever. What's the difference between raised voices and shouting that PPs have made, I don't get that?

Yes on equal terms. Life can be frustrating sometimes and we’re both inclined to hold our line quite loudly.

@CountFosco I have sensory issues and get completely incapacitated by loud voices.

People might like the loud sound of themselves but that doesn't mean other people do. It's like running up to someone in a wheelchair and kicking them.

You can say something in a more reasoned way.

We've been together 13 years and have shouted at each other a handful of times, definitely no more than 5. And it has definitely been sitting at each other, not just one person doing the shouting. All have been at times of extreme stress.

We don't really have big arguments, we discuss things and occasionally take some space from each other if we disagree.

It's all the same between raised voices and shouting, you like the sound of your voice and think you can inflict it upon other people

Never. No shouting, no 'raised voices' for either of us. We disagree and we argue occasionally, but he's never spoken to me with anything but respect.

Never.

I can’t think he ever has, we’ve argued, he’s been an absolute tit at times and he’s been incredibly angry at things and a couple of times me. M
But he’s not a shouter.

Me on the other hand, hmmm a lot.

With my ex of 11 years never. Never even had a row. Even when we drifted apart.

I don't understand threads on the relationships board when people say things like "all couples argue" and "we row fairly often like most couples" and "we shout quite often". If that's the case, surely you're in the wrong relationship?

Never.

Xh a few times when we were arguing but I spent a lot of time walking on eggshells to keep the peace and stop things escalating.

to all those on the receiving end of shitty behaviour. You’re worth more

My whole family conducts discussions from separate rooms, so there’s always shouting!

But shouting in anger? No, it’s awful, no one should tolerate it.

Never. We've disagreed, but never shouted

Once, but he was listening to Breaking Benjamin with headphones and forgot I couldn't hear it!
Actual shouty argument? Never. We've had a few snippy moments, but no rows.

I shout more at ds's and tell them they are not being respectful. I don't really shout at Dh. We argue rarely, but when we do it's big!

He's shouted a few times, and quite loudly. If he starts to feel like he can't control his emotions, he'll literally leave. Like walk or drive away to calm down before coming back and I prefer that (we don't live together). He was brought up in a house where they shout and swear at each other most of the time and other things have happened that cause him to bottle everything up (serious case of abuse when he was 11 or so). All I ask is that he works on it, and he is. If he ever made me feel scared, I'd leave.

I've also shouted too, so by no means innocent. Every relationship is different

Occasionally but only in retaliation to my shouty shoutface .

Never - neither of us would do that to each other.

I’m talking raised voice here not actually shouting at me. It’s normally when a teen DC is pushing the limits and we disagree on what to do.

He's never shouted at me. Once, when I was in the grip of a breakdown he raised his voice to say he didn't know what I wanted from him because I'd been crying for hours and had confused the shit out of him, but it was in distress not anger.

We have times where we disagree or have an issue, but having both had abusive marriages before we got together, have made a conscious decision to talk things through and never let it escalate, for our own sake and for the kids sakes too.

We've been together 8 years.

What a mild mannered lot! I would say we have a shouty row about once a year. Ideally of course it would be never but it's not divorce kind of material, sometimes the air gets cleared by it.

We regularly raise voices but usually in a playful manner about nothing, it’s never at me or offensive. Plus his talking volume is loud

I wouldn’t be happy if he ever considered yelling at me or I to him