How often has your significant other shouted at you?

[GymKitJen]

Like raised their voice in an argument?

Together 29 years and never shouted at me
Never made me frightened either, which you don't need shouting to do

Never. Been married 25 years.
We decided at the beginning that respect was very important to both of us and we didn't feel shouting was respectful.

Never. We have text ding dongs though sometimes

Loads. He's shouted at me so much tonight, I'm shaking and crying.
I'm so miserable and scared.

Teapot :(

Do you feel he might be violent?

Oh @TeapotofTerror what happened?

We don't do shouting in our house, so never in over 30 years together.

Teapot

My stbex did fairly frequently and right in my face with abuse. Hence we are no longer together.

Never.

@TeapotofTerror - you know that this is not acceptable don't you. I have just left my husband of 13 years after he scared me by screaming in my face and then blamed me. You need to speak to someone and get help to leave him. Throwing objects at you and punching walls are indicators that you are at increased risk. If you are too scared to clean your teeth you need to take steps to leave ASAP. I know how difficult this is but you must get help and advice. You can't leave your life this way. Do you have dc's?

40 years together, never.
My parents were very shouty. Dad in particular was intimidating.

@TeapotofTerror he is being violent toward you. He has no right to throw things in your face, scream at you or break things. You are living with an abuser. What is your situation like for work and house etc?

DH - ONCE in 27 years, shouted & threw the remote at me!
DW( me ) I threw a table lamp at him/his clothes out of our bedroom window/hid his bank cards/savings book in the freezer!
All before marriage & in our 20's !

No raised voices/fights/clothes/remotes/tables/hiding stuff so he wouldn't leave in the last 25 years!

Mutual love, respect & maturity, means we get mad, talk, laugh & make up ...

I can't, I have nothing and nowhere to go. My DC has health problems, it's just life. I need to put up with it. I shouldn't have said anything.
Can I get my posts taken down please?

@TeapotofTerror

You don’t have to put up with it. There’s help out there for you. Please call women’s aid

My boyfriend shouts at me quite a lot, we have an 8 week old baby and I thought maybe once he arrived that things would change but I was wrong.

He just goes from 0-100 in seconds and it's always over something so stupid. He recently hurt his hand whilst arguing with his mam as he punched the door. Excellent karma.

He threw a medicine dropper at me a couple of weeks back whilst baby was in my arms, it hit me on my arm but I was made to feel like I was overreacting when I said it wasn't okay. I started to doubt myself at that point,

I don't know, I'm still with him, he's never hit me but I think that maybe he will one day. I love him, I plan to leave a lot but I never do. It's a messed up situation x

Never. We've both had rare annoyed voice moments but never shouty- in fact, we both go quieter if we ever have a more heated disagreement.

Never. Together a yeah.

EXH of 18 years, very regularly

Seems ludicrous now, looking back. People who respect each other don’t yell. And respect should always be a major feature of any romantic relationship.

Yelling is never a sign of a successful, healthy relationship

Never. We've been together 15 years, married for 10 years. I've shouted a couple of times, but he never has.

3 or 4 times I think, in the 6 years we've been together. More a case of shouting at each other. We never go to sleep on an argument tho. & we do talk things out. There's been no shouting in I'd say last 2 years. Frustrations happen in all types of relationships so I can understand (very) occasional shouting but, not regular. My ex was a shouter as well as a 'street angel house devil'. I stopped him in his tracks by dumping him eventually. I'd had enough. Oh, the bliss... No. More. Noise. I hope you're not putting up with a shouter OP. You don't have to find it acceptable. At all.

How's @TeapotofTerror today?

1st exh - almost daily 2nd exh very regularly, fiance never ever shouts at me. If there is an issue we talk about it. There is never a series issue about anything just if one of us is upset about something eg: fiance had a bereavement and he finds it distressing at times.

We have niggles at each other but never once has he shouted AT me.