Is it ok to wear (fancy) trainers to a wedding?

[DewDropsonKittens]

We are going to a friends wedding, it is on a fancy golf course type venue.

I have 2 children I will need to supervise, cannot last in heels for longer than 30 minutes... health problems, mainly physical mean I have extensive pain when active for long periods of time.

I have a lovely 1950's dress I am wearing, I've found some lovely blue d.c / converse style shoes which would suit the dress but worry how I look

Is it too informal?

Wear the bloody trainers - it will look better than a pair of fugly sandals and the groom obvs doesn't mind!

My DH wore converse to our own wedding - he was going for the David Tennant as Dr Who look I think.

What about gold Birkies?

DewDrops, I don't have a pair from that make (I searched for pale blue ones for you) but I have two pairs and both have been fine.

I think I wore them around the house with ankle socks for a couple of hours before I went out in them, just in case, but mine have never given me blisters or anything.

Of do you mean the heel that's underfoot? I've never really noticed tbh, but they're not hard — they don't make my feet ache!

I have rheumatoid arthritis and wide feet so feel your pain
I have a silver pair of fitflop superballerinas which would work with your outfit, occasion & comfort requirements, not sure if they are still doing them though
They are as comfortable as proper trainers but look like nice shoes, agree with another poster who said fitflops lookmuch better on than in the website pictures

Can't you wear the mary jane style skechers?

www.skechers.com/en-gb/women/styles/shoes/casual-shoes/mary-janes

No grown adult should be glueing rhinestones to their shoes.

Quite!

As for a “style off” with someone carrying flat backed rhinestones and a glue gun? Nah. I’ll pass thanks.

I think proper pale blue converse or some of their new range come in lovely ombre colours would work.

But my top choice of what has been listed are the pale blue oxfords and they would be so lovely with jeans etc after the wedding

I'd wear them, and if I were a bride I wouldn't care. Wish I'd worn trainers for my own wedding rather than the really uncomfortable shoes I did wear, well, I didn't, because I took them off ASAP and was barefoot most of the day!

I wore these for my wedding day and only lasted 1 hour in them, a had also bought crochet converse for when this happened, unfortunately my false nails wouldn't let me put them on so I spent the whole of my wedding day in bare feet walking over gravel and the like.
My daughters wore the flat black shoes as they had knee length bridesmaid dresses.

@IvanaPee oh go on, I'm dying to see that happen!

www.office.co.uk/view/product/office_catalog/2,311/1858592139

I have these in a variety of colours and heel heights and every one are comfy and supportive. I have wideish feet and all fine, plus a variety of feet / leg issues and these are amazing, super comfy even for lots of walking!

@Pinkyyy 😂😂😂

Groom has said it's fine so bloody wear them op.

I am worried someone may think my child dressed me, will judge me or think I am ridiculous
So what. Going by this thread people will be judging you if you wear trainers, if you wear the wrong style / colour flats, if you wear ugly sandals, if you're not wearing heels, if you glue sparkles to your shoes. We all get judged. But you know what, being comfortable and confident in yourself and being able to dance all night / run around after the kids without feeling like you want to die will put your mind at ease.

Trainers that are metallic pink/covered in ribbons and sequins are still trainers. They might be prettier and girlier than trainers you could actually run a mile in, but they are casual shoes and that makes them inappropriate for an event with a formal dress code. Weddings where the bridal party wear converse generally don’t have a formal dress code.
And if you ask a bride or groom whether they mind, you’re kind of forcing them to say that they don’t. It isn’t really a fair question.

I can't imagine anyone being so uptight that they would spend time on their wedding day checking the shoes of their guests to see if they were appropriately formal for the occasion.

I am also totally baffled at the number of people that would be pissed off at someone else’s choice of footwear. I could have given a damn what people wore to my wedding I’d invited them because I loved them and wanted them there. In fact we had a right mixed bag of outfits at ours and as long as everyone was happy and comfortable I don’t care.
In fact I got married somewhere with a lot of trooping over grass do had actually suggested people hung up their fancy footwear and put on something comfy.

@Doobigetta do you have any other practical suggestions?

@DewDropsonKittens my SIL wore flip flops to my wedding, I really didn't care at all! I don't understand why people are bothered what others are wearing, surely it's about having people there to celebrate with you? If it was my wedding I'd think you looked cool in converse with a dress

DewDrops, only you know what works for your feet and what doesn’t, but as lots of other posters have said there are a whole load of options in between heels and trainers.
I’m just exasperated by people incapable of understanding that just because they had, or went to, an informal wedding that was lovely, does not mean that every wedding is like that or should be. And no, the chances are that on the day the bride and groom won’t notice, or will be too busy and happy to care. But they might be a bit pissed off if it stands out a mile in the photos. That doesn’t make them arseholes. And it’s a bit self-centred not to give a shit about that isn’t it? I realise that’s going to cause outrage in all the people to chilled and special to bother with social conventions, but most of the time social conventions exist as a way of showing respect to other people. And sometimes it’s nice to compromise your own specialness to do that.

@WhenPushComesToShove I like those Ted & Muffy trainers; how comfotable are they?

Those plimsolls will have no support and will be as bad for your feet as heels OP.
Do you normally wear proper shoes at all?
I know I have issues wearing real shoes if I've been wearing plimsolls or crocs for a couple of weeks. It sounds as if you have got yourself into the same pickle.
Sketchers/converse will make it worse over time but in the short term they feel like the most comfortable thing.
Try Marisota or Simply Be for wide shoes, and try to wean yourself out of plimsolls: they really aren't good for your feet.

Interesting to read your Doobigetta, because to me it is pretty much the opposite. To me, a bridal couple would have to be pretty self-centred and focused on their own "specialness" to put having a certain type of shoes in the photos above their guests' comfort and enjoyment of the day.

I would go for something like these, OP:
www.modishonline.co.uk/skechers-gold-awesome-sauce-glitter-sneaker.ir

Just wear the fucking trainers! Be comfortable!

Might be slightly off topic,
but my sister in law wore Dr Martens under her wedding dress..

Op wear what you like, as some one up post said, the bride n groom will be thinking of them selves, parents and groomsmen and bridesmaids etc rather than what the guests are wearing.