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Is it ok to wear (fancy) trainers to a wedding?

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DewDropsonKittens · 29/07/2019 19:58

We are going to a friends wedding, it is on a fancy golf course type venue.

I have 2 children I will need to supervise, cannot last in heels for longer than 30 minutes... health problems, mainly physical mean I have extensive pain when active for long periods of time.

I have a lovely 1950's dress I am wearing, I've found some lovely blue d.c / converse style shoes which would suit the dress but worry how I look

Is it too informal?

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mycatisblack · 31/07/2019 07:58

I feel sorry for the women posting on here that worry so much about something as meaningless as appearances and genuinely believe that what someone looks like in a wedding photograph is remotely important.
It really isn't, you know.
In years to come, the only thing you will care about when looking back on your photo's is all those people sharing the special day with you who are now dead and you'll never see them or speak to them again.
And it won't just be the elderly family members you mourn, but it could include friends and family who died far too young. Sad

KnittingForMittens · 31/07/2019 07:58

Are you trying to look like Lily Allen?!

Silvercatowner · 31/07/2019 08:01

I would judge someone who wore trainers to a wedding. They are far too casual for normal weddings

Lordy, I'm so pleased I had an abnormal wedding where my guests' comfort was prioritised.

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Rockbird · 31/07/2019 08:24

I had a big, formal wedding and wouldn't have given a shiny shite what guests wore on their feet. I can barely remember what I wore. Wear the trainers.

BenWillbondsPants · 31/07/2019 08:34

To be honest, looking at some of the absolutely hideous shoes which have been posted on this thread - trainers are a yes from me. Grin

kistanbul · 31/07/2019 09:10

Yes to trainers. The alternative shoes posted in here are incredibly ugly. Wear trainers.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 31/07/2019 09:13

I wonder how much these horrified at trainers at a wedding MNers would judge my DH, who wore trainers (and jeans!) to our own wedding Grin What do people actually think will happen if someone wears trainers/converse?

We are still extremely happily married many years later and it matters not one tiny bit to me what he wore on his feet. Our (non professional) wedding photos are still scattered around the house and we look ridiculously happy and smiley (and yes young, ivana; nice bit of judging) in them. I love him even more today than I did when we got married (sorry that makes even me feel a bit vomity Wink) and I couldn't give two shits even if he had hooves for feet.

If he wears trainers and jeans to my funeral I couldn't care less either, his footwear makes absolutely no difference to our lives together and how we feel about each other (mawkish as well as vomity, I am excelling myself today Grin)

Knitwit99 · 31/07/2019 09:18

I have arthritis in my feet so I absolutely get you. Wear the trainers. They are lovely. I hate any sort of dressing up occasion for the same reasons. And summer, I'm happiest in boots and trainers. I bought some Sketchers last week and now feel like a proper old woman.

Silvercatowner · 31/07/2019 09:22

The aghast at trainers brigade would be even more aghast if they'd been to the last wedding I attended - one of the guests wore shorts. It was the nicest wedding I've ever attended.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 31/07/2019 09:27

Wear what uou need OP but not sure why you called the converse you linked to fancy - there’s nothing famcy about them?

pinkunicornsparkles · 31/07/2019 09:28

I get the look you'd be going for with the 50's dress, trainers and frilly socks. I like the look too (though I couldn't pull it off myself). I just do think trainers for a wedding could be inappropriate. I would ask the bride. Or just fuck it and wear them, I don't think it will be a huge deal as the outfit will look lovely.

I wonder what the reaction would be on here if you were planning on turning up with ripped jeans and a stained wife beater top on with the trainers. Would the happy 'I don't care what the guests wore' couples still feel the same? Everyone's perspectives are different.

Swift1978 · 31/07/2019 09:35

I wore converse to my own wedding with a 50s style short wedding dress and my best friend wore vans to hers so yes go for it. I really don't think the bride will give two hoots what you have on your feet!

beanaseireann · 31/07/2019 09:46

Wear what you want. Nobody will care. Should you care what randomers think ? It's not as of the trainers will upstage the bride Smile
Some people will think for a split second you haven't made an effort though. I'm in Ireland and people really dress up for weddings.

Anyonebut · 31/07/2019 09:47

I think your original choice is absolutely fine and no one will care.
However, if the venue may not allow trainers, as someone with short wide feet, I can recommend these, they are so comfy!! (I actually have them in a different colour) :
www.pikolinos.com/uk-en/p-vallarta-655-0702cl.html?color=STONE
I know the price online is higher than your budget, but they msy be cheaper in an actual shop if you have any near.
(I will wait to be torn to shreds by the fashion experts 😆)

CIT80 · 31/07/2019 09:47

I would say it’s fine

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DewDropsonKittens · 31/07/2019 10:10

@KnittingForMittens

What has Lilly Allen got to do with it?

I am not suggesting I do their wedding disco with a cigarette in hand with my hair dyed purple??

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IvanaPee · 31/07/2019 10:20

I can see the Lily Allen thing, tbh.

Around my neck of the woods 12 year olds making their confirmation wear those dresses with trainers and frilly socks. That’s why I asked your age. If you’re very young it would make more sense to me.

In saying that, I still didn’t let dd do that!

Cocolapew · 31/07/2019 10:32

Wear the trainers.

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DewDropsonKittens · 31/07/2019 11:00

I'm 33..

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OliviaHarrison · 31/07/2019 11:19

Can you wear wedding appropriate trousers?

I have changed to wearing trainers to work in a smart casual work environment. I do so as I walk to work and I need good foot support. At a time when we should be encouraging more commuting by foot, for both health and environmental reasons, we should also be open to people wearing sports footwear to more formal occasions.

I dress smartly for work but always wear trousers and very nice trainers that blend in with my outfit.

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DewDropsonKittens · 31/07/2019 12:35

I think trousers can be nice for a wedding, but it would mean going and buying a whole new outfit

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sonjadog · 31/07/2019 13:04

Why would trousers be better? The dress is really nice!

OliviaHarrison · 31/07/2019 13:36

Yes I love the dress also, but op is self conscious and wearing trainers and a dress at a wedding is unusual so this may heighten feelings of self consciousness.

If she feels confident she should wear the dress and trainers, but if she is unsure I think trousers and trainers is a safer option.

IvanaPee · 31/07/2019 14:27

33!

Yeah, I might give the frilly socks a miss...

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 31/07/2019 14:50

Interestingly, there is a current thread in Chat where someone wants to impose a dress code on guests and is being slowly burnt into a little pile of ashes by Outraged MNers Grin