Is it ok to wear (fancy) trainers to a wedding?

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We are going to a friends wedding, it is on a fancy golf course type venue.

I have 2 children I will need to supervise, cannot last in heels for longer than 30 minutes... health problems, mainly physical mean I have extensive pain when active for long periods of time.

I have a lovely 1950's dress I am wearing, I've found some lovely blue d.c / converse style shoes which would suit the dress but worry how I look

Is it too informal?

I’d be a bit pissed off of someone rocked up to my wedding in trainers

Really? Why would you be pissed off? Would the ‘wrong’ shoes spoil something, somehow?

I honestly haven’t got a clue what anyone wore on their feet at my wedding, but I suspect there was probably at least one pair of trainers/Converse in there.

Fuck everyone else op, wear what you want. If the bride is your mate she won't care.

I think the shoes you've chosen are cute and will look really funky with your 50s dress. I can't imagine the bride would care what you wore either.

I think the sole of those is too deep — I know it's obviously not possible with your feet needing support, but I think you'd get away with sneakers more easily because there's less rubber.

I think I'd look for a cream leather sandal, possibly closed toe. Joseph Seibel are very supportive and comfortable.

Actually, would Oxfords work for you? They don't have to be saddle shoes, but very low heel and lace up and they'll look a bit neater I think.

Like these.

Some of the weddings I have been to in the last couple of years have had female guests in their 20's wearing very feminine dresses and either trainers or dm's. I thought they looked great.

If you like the outfit and can carry it off, go for it.

I think it's fine
No need to cripple yourself for a wedding

I think you'd look fresh, comfortable and perfectly appropriate for a Summer wedding

Having said that, those Oxfords ^^ are lovely

Op if you were my friend I'd be happy just to have you there, I think a cute dress with cute trainers far nicer then someone struggling to stay fit the duration because their feet are hurting. Wear the converse, after a few champagnes no one will give a damn anyway

I think the DCs look fine under the circumstances, but I personally would struggle to wear them for a whole day.

To the person who suggested Teva Kayentas, as a PF sufferer and fellow Teva fan, I agree that they’d be an acceptable compromise under the circumstances but unfortunately they’ve been discontinued. Can’t find any suitable Tevas in budget except for on eBay.

I would in honesty message the bride to ask. I wore a white/cream dress to a wedding. Sent a pic to the bride with a 'please don't worry if you don't want me to wear it' type message 'it's my no.1 choice but if it's not on I have a blue back up'

She was lovely and didn't care. I wore it, we were all happy.

@howwudufeel Thank you for defending my crystal recommendation against Ivanas mockery! I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Ivana- if you want a style off, bring it on! I am confident me and my hot crystal gun and flat back Swarovskis would win.

I still think the blue Converse the OP linked to would look great with the dress she describes.

No grown adult should be glueing rhinestones to their shoes.

I think the dress and your shoes go together really well. Being comfy is very important, especially when you are standing around for ages at a wedding. Go for it, you will look brilliant.

I was one of the early posters saying trainers aren’t suitable for a wedding and to try Clarks . However , having seen some of the shoes linked by posters, your (lovely) dress, your difficulty finding shoes that fit and are comfortable, and your budget, I think go with your trainers!

Check with the venue though in case their is a ‘no trainers ‘ dress code!

I really like those oxfords, @PolkadotsAndMoonbeams do you have a pair?

If so, what are the heals like, are they hard?

I got my husband to message the groom as I didn't want to hassle a friend 2 weeks before her big wedding about my own issues

He said it is fine... I am worried someone may think my child dressed me, will judge me or think I am ridiculous

I hate getting dressed up to go anywhere, being short and fat in a posh place isn't ideal

*heels op.

Heals is what a doctor does.

You mention problems with your feet I’m assuming it’s your arch that needs support?

I saw an osteopath for my back issues, I have a congenital issue that will worsen with age. She advised wearing wedged shoes as they support and push up the arch. Never to wear heels and never to wear ballet pump style totally flat shoes or any other type of totally flat shoe. I threw out all my heels and ballet pumps. I now own wedged shoes sandals and boots plus my trainers have decent high insteps. The pain in my back has reduced by about 85%. I have also done away with my slippers and wear a pair of wedge sandals indoors.

If you wore wedged open sandals there would be no rubbing on the back of your foot.

Converse aren't really trainers, they're little pumps.

People get married in converse these days - well several do, not everyone obviously.

Young people seem to live in trainers and pumps for all occasions anyway so it's not even that unusual in my experience.

Wear what makes you feel comfortable. Ballet slippers etc aren't generally very good for people with mobility and foot issues. Heels are most definitely not necessary!

Ignore anyone who would judge. Says way more about them than you.

Sandals (flat) are a better option

@ohcanada please accept my apologies....

It isn't arch support I need, it is because my feet swell up and then become really painful when wearing shoes like ballet pumps
I fall sideways in a wedge lol... really don't want to be falling over

I've checked the venue and they have no dress code for weddings advertised, there is plenty of gravel and grass however

With a 50s style dress you've mentioned that some cute pumps or trainers would actually look far better than many heels and flats anyway.

Maybe consider some sparkle and ribbons instead of laces.

Birkenstocks and Fitflops are far more casual than a nice pair of pumps!!

OP I haven't read the full thread but look up cheerfulsoles in particular their Allegria range. They are not cheap but I suffer from issues w my feel Planctar Facilitis and Mortons Neuroma and I can not wear shoes like suggested on this post flats etc at all. The Allegria however I can wear all day without pain. Order them 1 size smaller than you usually wear as they fit wide. (also look on Ebay sometimes good bargains) I am fond of the Paloma style but recently bought a pair of sandals and I have been living in then this summer

I have these in gold and also white. They look fabulous with the silk ribbons and are easy to get on and off with zips. Reduced in the sale too www.duoboots.com/collections/womens-shoes/products/harlyn-rose-metallic-leather