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Is it ok to wear (fancy) trainers to a wedding?

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DewDropsonKittens · 29/07/2019 19:58

We are going to a friends wedding, it is on a fancy golf course type venue.

I have 2 children I will need to supervise, cannot last in heels for longer than 30 minutes... health problems, mainly physical mean I have extensive pain when active for long periods of time.

I have a lovely 1950's dress I am wearing, I've found some lovely blue d.c / converse style shoes which would suit the dress but worry how I look

Is it too informal?

OP posts:
3luckystars · 30/07/2019 17:58

Absolutely no way.

namechangerreloaded · 30/07/2019 18:38

^^ are extra wide, blue looks similar colour to your proposed trainers. And they are £7

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WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 30/07/2019 19:04

Fuck me what a depressing thread.

OP, a suggestion to make you feel better - start an AIBU thread saying:

"I'm getting married in two weeks. My friend has two young children to look after and foot/back problems meaning she can only wear certain shoes to walk in. She wants to wear blue converse which are the same shade and match her 1950s style dress. AIBU to say this isn't acceptable and she should buy something else? I really feel people should make an effort for a wedding plus I'm thinking about the wedding photos"

I guarantee you would get your arse handed to you as being, self centred, shallow, vain, like a snowflake etc etc etc who cares more about appearances than the pleasure of your friend's company Grin

Personally I couldn't give a single fuck (or even tell you know, a couple of decades later!) what my friends wore shoe wise to my wedding. I did care they were comfortable and happy and everyone enjoyed themselves.

I genuinely really do not understand how weddings have become like this. It's so superficial and absolutely not what getting married is about.

Does anyone really remember what their guests wore on their feet at their wedding? And has anyone seriously had their "big day" ruined^^ as they felt someone was wearing unsuitable footwear? I feel embarrassed even typing that!

pinkunicornsparkles · 30/07/2019 19:34

So OP what are you going to wear?

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DewDropsonKittens · 30/07/2019 20:02

I am going to order a pair of the trainers and a pair of the Oxfords they only have a 4, I usually wear a 3 but will see how they come up.

Then see which looks best Grin

Don't think I dare mention the frilly socks I am considering wearing with them Grin

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iamadalek2 · 30/07/2019 20:21

No trainers. Get flats.

NotExactlyHappyToHelp · 30/07/2019 20:32

Wear wherever you like on your feet. You’re dressing up and making an effort. It’s not like you’re going in trackies.

Have you ever tried Toms though? Very comfy and they sort of mold to your feet after a few wears. They’ve lots of styles. These would be event suitable if you ever want another option.

NiLunNiLautre · 30/07/2019 20:33

What WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles said x100.

I didn't notice or care what anyone wore to my wedding; especially not on their feet. I'd want my guests to be comfortable.

Pinkyyy · 30/07/2019 22:37

Why are you ordering more trainers? That makes no sense.

Cosentyx · 30/07/2019 22:43

Why not order more trainers? I love shoes! I have loads of pairs. I just bought two more. If you like them, OP, buy them!

Cosentyx · 30/07/2019 22:45

I have Toms myself, two pairs, but they aren't very supportive, not anymore than trainers are.

WhenPushComesToShove · 30/07/2019 23:41

@TattiePants - very comfortable, lovely soft leather.

IvanaPee · 31/07/2019 00:54

@DewDropsonKittens are you very young?

1300cakes · 31/07/2019 07:00

What about if you wear trainers but with a different outfit? With a dress the shoes are sort of a feature. If you wear trousers, a pair of dark coloured trainers would be hardly noticeable.

Daddylonglegs1965 · 31/07/2019 07:05

I also need supportive shoes and ballet flats or overly flats shoes even Converse would be a complete no no. I would go for low wedges sandals or similar.
Have a look at Gabor, Fitflop or Vionic website.

Barbarafromblackpool · 31/07/2019 07:13

I don't think anyone reasonable would care what you wore on your feet to a wedding.

nrpmum · 31/07/2019 07:21

@DewDropsonKittens wear the trainer's and the frilly socks, and then post a pic 😁 bet you look fabulous.

TwattingDog · 31/07/2019 07:25

Do it. My mother and a close friend wore something along those lines to my wedding. My DM had to wear lace up shoes, so these were ideal. My friend looked super cute in a 60s swing dress with hers.

As long as your shoes match your outfit, no one will give a shiny shit on the day, even if they are up in arms now.

Proseccoinamug · 31/07/2019 07:29

Definitely wear the trainers OP. I’ve been to weddings where people wore jeans and leggings alongside the posh dresses, nobody batted an eyelid. Nice converse with a dress is no issue at all.

Proseccoinamug · 31/07/2019 07:30

No frilly socks though!!

CorBlimeyGovenor · 31/07/2019 07:31

I was going to say 'no' at first. But they're not really trainers. They're also colourful and being new, it will be obvious that you have bought them to match your dress and made an effort (esp if your dress is a nice 1950s one). I doubt that anyone will care or notice. A little casual, but not disrespectful.

Oblomov19 · 31/07/2019 07:39

Trainers are inappropriate. Flat shoes or sandals are fine.

CuckooCuckooClock · 31/07/2019 07:49

Dress looks lovely and will look fab with the blue dc trainers. And frilly socks.
Deffo get the trainers and enjoy them!

SeaEagle21 · 31/07/2019 07:57

A 50's dress looks great with a pair of pretty flats. A 50's skirt and trainers would just look awful.

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