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What drives you mad about MNers?

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omafiet · 27/07/2019 16:07

I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

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Vesperia · 01/08/2019 15:12

Brexit remainers that get truly nasty if anyone has a difference of opinion or, god forbid, asks a question that has been asked before

AmIChangingagain · 01/08/2019 15:17

The language used to describe food and cooking. Bung, chuck, throw. And chillis and salads are always huge or massive. Add in the toms and pots and veggies. It's just all so twee.

I'm also driven mad by the posters whose answer to every question about being single is to "just try OLD". For lots of people they already have and had no luck. It's not helpful to have that suggested as if it will solve everything

Then the cat apologists. I guarantee that every single thread about cat shit will have a poster say it must be foxes because cats always bury

Thegreymethod · 01/08/2019 15:26

@LoafofSellotape
Mine isn't so much what people say...... it's when someone references an earlier post on the thread but doesn't copy and paste what was said so if you're nosey (like me) you need to start going back through the thread to see what was said and lose where you were up too!!
I'm sure there was a better way of explaining that but It's the summer holidays and I'm tired and my brain wouldn't work!!

Lazy fuckers who don't C and P is the expression you're looking for.

Ha yes that's a much better way of putting it! (And see all the info is on one post making it easier for everyone!) 🤣

Mrsjayy · 01/08/2019 15:28

*Everytime someone asks what they should make for a dinner party/bbq, there is ALWAYS someone who suggests whatever food.. along with CRUSTY BREAD

Why does it always have to be crusty bread? Why can’t it just be bread, or blood baguette*

Because it is common and awfully unhealthy to buy a sliced white nobody admits to buying a Hovis Grin

OooErMissus · 01/08/2019 16:39

Not RTFT, but

This has got to be one of my biggest grievances.

People who say that ^^

MrsFezziwig · 01/08/2019 16:53

I agree OooErMissus, as per my previous post (which I’m not going to C & P because if people RTFT I wouldn’t need to!)

firstimemamma · 01/08/2019 17:01

People who phrase anything as AIBU so that it gets the traffic. Obviously it would be crap if absolutely everyone did it but person X is special and they deserve the traffic.

"AIBU to ask what you're having for tea tonight?"

"AIBU to wear a T-shirt today?"

boringlyboring · 01/08/2019 17:26

The language used to describe food and cooking.

‘A drizzle’ (eg of honey). Just say some honey! Or with honey.Angry

Dieu · 01/08/2019 18:01

The posters who never organise for their children's friends to come over to play ... are frankly beyond weird. So what if your house isn't perfect or you have social anxiety; it's not your kid's fault, so just fucking sort yourself out. Having your friends round is part and parcel of childhood. And don't even get me started on those who accept the invitation, but never reciprocate.
And parents who specify 'no presents' on their kids' birthday invitations are joysuckers, pure and simple.

Cosentyx · 01/08/2019 18:08

I guess we're weird then, Dieu. My kids are older now, but no, no friends over the play because of my son's SN. He can be quite volatile and we never know when he'll have a meltdown. I should tell him just to sort himself out, though Hmm. That'll work. Nice to know we're being judged for that, too.

AE18 · 01/08/2019 18:19

Why on Earth is everyone so bothered about descriptive words about food? Most of the examples people have given would not mean the same thing if they didn't describe it that way.

Firecarrier · 01/08/2019 18:28

Dieu didn't say that your child should sort himself out though did she cosentyx?

Firecarrier · 01/08/2019 18:29

Remoaners who have fooled themselves into thinking they're the majority and bully everyone else (even turning up on purely Brexit threads like a bad smell)

NoSauce · 01/08/2019 18:34

Oosh!

Alsohuman · 01/08/2019 18:35

People who call those who think leaving the EU is a shit idea “remoaners”.

Mrsjayy · 01/08/2019 18:37

When my 20 somethings were kids it was rare kids came round to play and play dates were like hens teeth my dc have grown up well adjusted with friends i didn't feel the need to micromanage their social lives.

Decormad38 · 01/08/2019 18:39

The men haters. If a guy dares to play sport, have a drink it's an automatic 'leave him'. He's a shit! I think quite a number of people need to chill out a bit.

sundaymorningblues · 01/08/2019 18:42

When people respond to a post about an unpleasant or abusive DH with sanctimonious jibes about "well, why did you have three children with him if he's that bad?". Really unhelpful given that you can't just post the kids back to the OP's uterus. And if the subtext is supposed to be that the DH can't genuinely be abusive or the OP wouldn't have had more than one kid with him, that's spectacularly naive. Most of the scary abusive men I've ever met didn't show their true colors until their wife or girlfriend was pregnant, then they were very good at controlling her into being near-constantly pregnant for the next few years.

Also, almost any comment including the words "if the roles were reversed". As in "if the roles were reversed and it was a woman going out on the piss six nights out of seven and coming home falling over drunk, and her DH asked her to tone it down and spend some evenings with him and their three month-old baby, you'd all be saying he was controlling and shrieking "LTB"". Yeah, right. About ninety-five percent of AIBU consists of women being very hard on other women. Nobody gets an easy ride here for having a vagina.

ExpletiveDelighted · 01/08/2019 18:43

Yes to the ambiguous thread titles.

"What do you think of...." Just say what you mean.

Ivy40 · 01/08/2019 18:46

@Decormad38

Absolutely agree. I’ve seen that so many times.

permanentlyexhaustedpigeon · 01/08/2019 19:30

Posters being holier-than-thou to (probably vulnerable, exhausted) OPs on the dementia topic - one poster accused an OP of 'disgusting ablism' for feeling distress at visiting her father, who had advanced dementia.

I do occasionally wonder if some of them have the first idea what it's like, or if they think that everyone at every stage of every sort of dementia is 'a little forgetful'. I have the same weary discussion IRL..

PolkaDotted · 01/08/2019 19:34

Yes, people who think that parents/carers shouldn't be allowed to complain on forums about how difficult things are for them because it's ablist are twats. Yes having a disability/condition/SN etc can be incredibly difficult but being a cater can be soul destroying too. I've been a carer(twice) and also the one needing care and they were both bloody hard and exhausting, and equally deserving of support.

PolkaDotted · 01/08/2019 19:38

This is a pet peeve but people referring to their three and four year old children as toddlers.

pearldiver19 · 01/08/2019 19:45

Too political, too anti-British and too many people trying to seem 'cool'.

Only on Mumsnet is it cool to hate The Beatles. In real life, it's just sad.

PolkaDotted · 01/08/2019 19:47

Are people not allowed to dislike The Beatles now?