What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

1. Unjustified step mum bashing
2. People who will argue that black is white and are clearly insane
3. Anyone who thinks that slobbish and messy teenagers must be depressed
4. Calling out mental health issues on men who are clearly just tests

Think that's it, but I'm relatively new here!

Brexit - pile in on David Cameron the stupid bastard who organised and then walked away. People are allowed to have different opinions.

Not acknowledging white privilege and racial bias

The ageism.
Just read a thread where someone is assuming that a work colleague is obnoxious because "she's at least 40 years older than me".

Can't she just be a pain in the posterior at any age?

Reminds of contestants on quizzes who smugly say, "That's before my time".
1066 (for example) was before the time of everybody who's alive now; you're just thick, not young and winsome.

Posters who seem determined to suck all of the joy out of their children’s lives it’s heartbreaking. Especially those that are obsessive and controlling about food.

@Cocobean30
I had no idea people we're so controlling about food until I joined. Even if only 10% is true there are some truly cruel parents out there.

People, usually Londoners or from the south east tbh, saying they want to locate to Yorkshire or other equally nice parts of the north ‘for a better quality of life’ with £900,000 to spend. You’ll invariably get other posters piling to say how they bought a 5 bed room converted barn with a swimming pool in a gorgeous village for £100,000 because property’s so much cheaper up here. Meanwhile I can only dream of moving back to my former home town because I’m outpriced.......

That not quite what they said, LaMarschallin.

Say it on the thread or not at all. Bitchy as fuck.

Any thread title which doesn’t encapsulate what the OP is about. It means that your OP is so boring that you have to lure people in by being vague.

Ageism. Any OP which mentions “an elderly woman” is never going to be cataloguing her good points. Don’t people get that the elderly are just young people who have been around for a long time? I can understand a five year old thinking that a 25 year old is from a different planet, but once you get to your 30s and 40s your thinking really ought to be slightly more sophisticated.

Any thread along the lines of “my friend can’t go to a concert with me, should I go on my own?” Cue lots of posts urging on the OP as though going to a play by yourself is akin to rowing the Atlantic on an inflatable flamingo, instead of a perfectly enjoyable activity which thousands of us do every day either by choice or necessity.

Posters who don’t RTFT - I cherish a secret hope that the MN IT geeks are toiling away
inventing a piece of software that will not allow you to post unless you have at least read the OP’s updates. Do you really think that after 10 pages of comments you have anything new and/or relevant to say when you’ve only read the original post?

The constant advice to kick out the Dh and 'change the locks'. Don't do that. You can't legally lock a person out of their own house.

Posters who love to play Head Girl. ‘This is a TAAT so will be deleted’. Well let the people who actually run the site get on with it then

I don't post much but have lurked here for a while. I find it bizarre when a newly pregnant woman is upset because a friend or relative, who they clearly deem less worthy, is pregnant at the same time as them. I actually would have enjoyed having a friend who was pregnant at the same time as me.

Also threads along the lines of 'My partner and I earn £100,000 pa, can we afford to have a baby?' As well as those with a clear contempt for poorer people.

Also the incorrect past modals ('could of done' instead of 'could have done', for example), as well as writing 'defiantly' when they mean 'definitely', but those are not exactly problems restricted to MN.

It annoys me when people insult others by sharing their so-called problems e.g. "I'm 30 and therefore so old and haggard". It's like some people are just in their own little bubble!

@NeverGotMyPuppy Well, if so, can't they piss off and do it somewhere else? not in the Secondary education section with all the normal people. I can't help but see them as gloaters.

Those who are so sanctimonious. Those starting their thread with 'just that really'. Those who type brought when they mean bought. Those who type breath when they mean breathe. So bloody annoying. Spelling, grammar and punctuation DO matter greatly when you are choosing to communicate in the WRITTEN WORD.

The helicopter parents,who wont give their kids some freedom.

Im not talking bout letting them run wild.But let them do age appropriate things with their friends.

The ones getting free childcare and have huge restrictions on what the mil is allowed to do or not do.

It annoys me when people insult others by sharing their so-called problems e.g. "I'm 30 and therefore so old and haggard". It's like some people are just in their own little bubble!

You mean the ones who post something like 'I'm so depressed about my weight. For the first time I've hit the 8 stone mark and I feel so depressed. We've just moved into our dream home and bought a holiday home in France, I've had a huge promotion in work which means I can afford to go part time, my husband has sold his business for several million pounds, our twin daughters have just started secondary school which means the end of school runs and childcare. We've got a great marriage and my husband encourages me in my career and hobbies and his family treat me like a daighter. I don't have any physical or mental health problems. My sister works part time in Tesco and struggles with money since her husband left her but sometimes I look at her and think her life is so much easier than mine'.

That sort of thing?

The helicopter parents,who wont give their kids some freedom.

I think if Mumsnet is still here in 30 years we will see an influx of posters on the relationships board saying they are no longer in contact with their mothers because they are so controlling and that every time they have tried to address the issue or reason with her, her response has been 'it's because I love you'.

Dimwitted contributors who are spectacularly unhelpful and think it's all about them. E.g. OP posts "my 3-yr-old won't eat anything except white bread, Pringles and Haribo, I'm really worried." Dimwitted contributor "well my 3-yr-old eats a really healthy diet, he loves all fruits, vegetables, meat, fish, eggs, cheese, wholemeal pasta and granary bread!" Why do they think a) anyone gives a toss, or b) it's going to be of any help to the OP?

People who try to give you a dressing down using the kind of language Enid Blyton would think too twee, then wonder why you don’t take them seriously.

That sort of thing?

My wallet's too small for my fifties, and my diamond shoes are too tight #chandler

The wedding ones.
I'm upset because I haven't been invited to my husband 's cousin's, son's, stepdaughter's , uncle's, twice removed cousin's wedding. They live a 6 hour drive away and I have never met them.
And?
Also the ones where a poster invites everyone else's children And partners but thinks it's totally fine to not invite her sil's child and partner. Then wonders why the sil declines the invite.
And, is this dress in to wear for a wedding? Just bloody wear it.

Still coughing and lauging
I actually guffawed out loud at that.
I know exactly what you mean, some of the dressing downs are just so fucking twee and righteous.

@RedSheep73 I think that's probably your issue rather than theirs. MN is always going to have people who earn more money than others. That's just life. Where else would they post?!