What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

Only on Mumsnet is it cool to hate The Beatles. In real life, it's just sad.

It’s sad to hate a band? I’ve never come across that attitude anywhere. I hate the Beatles-that definitely doesn’t make me cool.

Why is it sad if you don't like The Beatles? I like some of their music and don't really have strong opinions either way. I'm just curious,

I dislike the Beatles, there I said it. I find their music wishy washy.

The people who laboriously type out texts/emails etc for the OP to send to someone in a totally ridiculously formal tone.

I'm afraid I don't like The Beatles either. I can tell that some of their stuff was very clever. I just don't really want to listen to any of it.

Some people are weird about them, though. A friend of mine at university was a terrible snob about The Beatles. She was very vocal about popular music not being worth listening to. In her eyes, liking pop music marked a person out as being shallow, conformist, bitchy and probably promiscuous. She only made an exception for The Beatles because they were "almost" like classical music.

Hi CF, I'm not able to help/give you a hand/take care of your whatever, I really can't collect/take your children anywhere.
Posters that just type their answer to the person that is giving the op their problem. With no qualifying info, as in, well op I'd suggest you say this.
Going against the grain!
This actually means doing or saying something that you personally disagree with. It doesn't mean expressing a different opinion to all the other posters.

The posters who never organise for their children's friends to come over to play ... are frankly beyond weird. So what if your house isn't perfect or you have social anxiety; it's not your kid's fault, so just fucking sort yourself out. Having your friends round is part and parcel of childhood. And don't even get me started on those who accept the invitation, but never reciprocate.

I guess we're weird then, Dieu. My kids are older now, but no, no friends over the play because of my son's SN. He can be quite volatile and we never know when he'll have a meltdown. I should tell him just to sort himself out, though hmm. That'll work. Nice to know we're being judged for that, too.

Posters taking offence at something that wasnt even aimed at them.

@dustarr73

Clearly that's a different scenario, in which nobody would benefit from having playdates. I work with children who have autism, and would never judge. Most do seem to be able to manage the odd playdate after school, but these are kept short and sweet!

What drives me mad? In no particular order.

• Those who consider themselves the sexual morals police.

• People asking for serious medical advice where only a trained medic can help.

• Assumption of sexuality, gender and/or race.

• Asking questions that can easily be looked up on Google.

@Dieu i know,i meant to add that.

The posters who reply with essays as if they are the font of all knowledge.

The remainers who just can't help themselves and abuse any leaver on any Brexit thread. These same people are the ones who would be the first to scream with righteous indignation if on any other thread about any other topic they were victim of a keyboard warrior themselves.

The 'woke' ones telling us all how we need to behave, the judgemental ones, the self important ones, the ones who never read the thread.

Mumsnet isn't the nicest of places anymore, for a certain group of people who profess to be empowered feminists accepting of all they certainly don't practice it on here.

The bizarre attitude to having so much as a glass of wine at a christening. I’m not suggesting they are events where everyone should be getting bladdered and puking into plant pots, but so much as suggesting anyone might have a drink at a christening party is met with horrified cries about how ‘inappropriate’ it is. And woe betide you have a christening party somewhere that actually serves alcohol - it’s the church hall or nothing (as if we all live in sodding Ambridge).

I saw one poor woman once ask whether she would take wine to a christening party and receive a horrified ‘But if you take wine with you, you’ll have to take it into the church!’ Yes, take it in, in a bag - not sit swigging it straight from the bottle during the sermon.

When you get invested in a thread and the poster doesn't come back and say how things panned out.

There was one thread about a strange clicking noise when somebody used their loo at night.
Intriguing- all sorts of theories - but the poster never came back.

Another where a poster thought that somebody might be living in their attic. Again the poster never came back.

When a poster is in distress, gets all kinds of support from others and the OP doesn't update.

StillCoughingandLaughing I suspect that probably depends on the type of church you are used to. The church I was raised in, and many of the churches in my area are absolutely anti alcohol. When we got married the minister told us that he didn't even like the fact that we were having our reception in a hotel because of the availability of alcohol and that he would prefer the reception to be held in the church hall. I was about 30 years old before I realised that in the rest of the world it was not a requirement to be tee total in order to be welcomed at church.

We had ds1 christening party at Peter Kay's "Phoenix club" so people did have a few drinks but it was still quite sedate I can't remember a christening where alcohol ha sent wen available tbh? But I have been to mainly Catholic christening ,s.

Some of the longer term frequent posters trying to convince others that they have rich and fulfilling lives with fab relationships with with their DHs despite clearly spending most of their waking hour on here telling others their husbands are selfish shits for spending all their time online/gaming.

I don’t understand Pan, why would their marriage not be what it seems because they tell others their partners are shits for gaming all day. I don’t get it.

Asking questions that can easily be looked up on Google

This. ^^^^

NoSauce

The irony being that they are often very quick to put the boot in on DHs who are seen to be not pulling their weight around the house or in their respective relationships while they simultaneously seem live on here commenting on multiple threads morning and night.

I amuse myself sometimes by assuming the mysterious 'DH hobby' ones are illegal like cockfighting or competitive coke-snorting.

Maybe their husbands are out at work?
I still don’t understand your point, are you suggesting they’re marriage isn’t what they’re making out it is?

When you get invested in a thread and the poster doesn't come back and say how things panned out.
The posters who don't realise Mumsnet doesn't exist solely for their entertainment. Most threads aren't some kind of soap opera where the OP will regularly update.

Yeah I never get the angst about posters not regularly updating either. Some people have work or other commitments that means they can't be permanently connected to mumsnet (or any other part of the internet).

1.People who post on MN with a list of symptoms, asking for someone to diagnose them or their child instead of just going to see a bloody doctor.

1. People who post asking for opinions and then get super offended and disagree when they don't like the responses.