Young grandparents

[HighlandWorrier]

So I recently bumped into an old school friend who told me she's a granny and her 3 kids are all over 20. Realise I must have started out late as my own kids are 4 and 11.

Was speaking to my friend about it and she told me of someone who became a granny at 35 I was like

So wondering if I am in the minority to not have grandkids, I'm 44 by the way.

My DM is 62 with no grandkids. We range from 27-33.

No you’re not in the minority. The youngest grandmother I know had her eldest at 22 and and became a grandmother at 55.

I was 38 when I became a grandparent.

No, you’re not. I would guess that if it’s the norm in your family to have kids young the next generation will follow suit. Which would mean that I’d be nearly 80 before I become a granny!

My mum became a grandmother the fist time at 46. She had me at 23 and I had my eldest at 23. I expect to be a granny in my 40s but my brothers are just having children now in late 30s.

Nationally ? Of course you aren't in a minority.

In some pockets of society, people start having children very young, and that pattern tends to repeat itself. First school I taught at served the housing estate where the flats tended to house lots of the girls who had had their first child at 14 or 15. When we did stuff on family trees, we had to change the pictures we had of "typical grannies", as we commonly had grandparents who were under 36. Huge numbers would be under 40. But it only reflected our school population, not the whole City or County or Country.

I made my mother wait until she was 79 to become a grandma. I’m 57 and my kids are 14 and 15. Told them I don’t want to be a gran for ten years at least!

My mum was 43 and my dad was 42 when they became grandparents

But I am the youngest parent of daughters class now she's in primary school ... so I don't think you're in the minority

I agree that it's going to vary hugely from area to area. I was 35 when I had my dd so if I become a granny it will probably be when I'm in my 60s.

I'm 60, and DD is 18. We all have children late in my family.
DD has no intention of having children BTW.

I'm 47 none on the horizon for me for a long time. My eldest is 23, owns his own home and has been with his girlfriend over six years but they have no plans for at least 10 years.

@Anotherusefulname that’s so strange to think about! If I’d heard of someone being a Gran at 46 I’d be really shocked but 23 isn’t that young to have a baby!!

I became a grandma at 39 , I still get funny looks when my DG 5 shouts ' nanny ' as I do look younger than I am.

My mum was 61 when I made her a gran and I was 34. I would think it very weird for someone to be a grandparent in their 30s or 40s.

One of the girls from my class at primary school became a granny at 31. She had her first at 16, then her eldest had her first child at 15. We're now 40 and she has 5 grandchildren (her 3 eldest kids have had one or two each).

I can't say I approve, but I do understand why/how it happens. If it's the norm in your family to have kids young then of course it's not seen as a bad thing. If your mum had you at 16 and you think you've turned out ok, then teenage motherhood is obviously not going to seem like the disaster it would if your family tend not to have children til their 30s.

My DCs gran was 35 when my eldest was born. It’s not that uncommon round here tbh.

At DD’s school there are parents who have have only just been out of their teens, if that, when they had their first, and parents (fathers) who would have been well into their 40s when their first was born. Same school, different lives,

I'd expect to be 70+ when/if I become a grandparent, just as my parents were

My DM was 45 when she became a grandma, she had me at 23 and I unexpectedly had DS1 at 22.

I'm now 43 and can't imagine being a grandma for years. I have friends similar age who have primary school children and I can't imagine being a grandma when they have secondary children.

I’m 40 and I have a 12 year old and a 15 year old. My parents were 47/48 andinlaws 49/52 when they became grandparents.

Some people I was at school with have just had children and a few are the other end, granny’s before turning 40.

I was a dgm at 43.
My youngest dc was 18 months!!
Hasn't worked out so great tbh...

There is 5 months between my youngest son and my oldest granddaughter, they have a lovely relationship . It was nice if not a bit strange being pregnant same time as my daughter in law thou .

I became a grandma at 41. It was somewhat of a surprise as my youngest child was only 11 weeks when I was told. My DS2 was 17 at the time and was an idiot regarding contraception. When I'm looking after my DGD (now 2) people usually assume she and DS5 (now 3) are twins. I still find being called Nanny extremely odd.

@Yellowweatherwarning sorry to hear that ☹️

My friend became a great grandma at 55