Young grandparents

[HighlandWorrier]

So I recently bumped into an old school friend who told me she's a granny and her 3 kids are all over 20. Realise I must have started out late as my own kids are 4 and 11.

Was speaking to my friend about it and she told me of someone who became a granny at 35 I was like

So wondering if I am in the minority to not have grandkids, I'm 44 by the way.

DM had me when she was 18 which seems to have been fairly normal for the time as a lot of my friends parents had their first DC somewhere between the age of 18 and 21.

I had DC1 when I was 28 so she became a grandmother at the age of 46. She is now 56 and has eleven grandchildren (not all of them are mine, I do have siblings!)

My sister was a gran at 36. I'm 11 years younger and didn't have my first until 35 so she could well be a great gran before I become a gran.

That's a bit like a friend of mine Bumply her brother,s first two sons were born when he was aged 17 and 19 and they both now have children, my friend didn't have her children until she was 37 and 39 her brother's grand children are around the same as age as her children

But that would have made you a great aunt at 25 @Bumply

My mum was 37 when she became a grandmother. We both married very young

I was 46 when I became a grandma.

Sorry, just to add that I now have six grandchildren.

My DM was 45 when I had my eldest - I was just turned 23 when he was born

The youngest person I've known to become a grandmother was 37

My mum became a gran a week after turning 39.
I work with teenage mums and I have came across a few grans in their late 20’s

Goodness, this thread is depressing. Grandparents aged late twenties/early thirties? Ugh.

My mother was 44 years old when I had my eldest and she became a grandmother.

People become grandparents at all ages. My mother was 70 and mother in law just short of 60 (I think my father in law was nearly 61, my dad was dead). They were all excellent grandparents which is what matters.

My mum was early fifties when I provided her first grandchild. I live in a city where young motherhood is quite the norm. It’s also not unusual for mothers to have a ‘second’ run of babies when their own children are having babies.

I had my first at 22, way too early in retrospect. Eldest has just left school and has no plans to reproduce.

I have a friend, same age as me (50) who has a grandson the same age as my ds(15).

One of DD's friends had a baby at 16, and her mother had her at 16. So her mother became a grandmother at 32.

I've just had my daughter this year and found out an old school friend became a grandmother around the same time. We're both 36 - she had her daughter when she was 18 and her daughter was 18 when she gave birth.

It boggles my mind that someone I used to hang around with is a granny. I barely feel old or responsible enough to be a mum (however I definitely feel like my body is old enough, I'm knackered!)

I had DD at 19 and this thread has just solidified everything I ever knew about people's judgments of young parents. Posters saying "ugh" and how they couldn't possibly be ready to have children- newsflash.

My DM was 43 when she became a Nanny to DD1 and 52 when I had DD2 (just in case there are any other preconceptions- both mine and DH's and the big age gap was due to fertility issues). She is honest that she found it easier 10 years ago!

Wow a real mixed bag then don't feel such the odd one out then as a lot of old school friends are grandparents, whilst my kids are still at primary school age.

I had DD at 16.

She is now 23, so it’s feasible I could be a grandmother under 40.

In some ways it has a lot of advantages.

I am 48. I had my dc late (37, then 40). I work with someone 2 months older than me, whose DGC are the same ages as my dc.(7 and 10).

I was 17 when I had my first son so my mother became a grandmother at 41.. there is an age gap between me and my partner now who I have a daughter with and because of this I am now a step nan at 26.. I dont tend to think of this though as it freaks me out a bit, even though luckily its through marriage so I dont think it technically counts?

I'm 39 and I am older compared other mothers at my DC school. I was 35 when I had my youngest. There is a child in his nursery class who's mum is a granny. His nephew is in the year above him in school.

MIL was a granny in her 40's and great granny in her 50s. She had her eldest young and he's about 10 years older than DH. I was a great aunt by marriage before I even had my own kids.

It is what it is really. I'd prefer my kids not to have kids as teenagers. But I'd also recommend not waiting until their 30s like DH and I did. Either way I'd be well into my 50s before I am one.

Most of the grans I know became grannys in their mid/late 50s. My DM was 60 and MIL was 63.
I'm often confused by the DMs at DSs nursery...lots appear mid 40s so I don't know if they are DM or young grans. I play it safe and refer to them all as 'Xs mummy'

(I once made friends with 2 lovely ladies plus their DD at toddler group. They looked very similar, to this day I still haven't figured out if they were mum and gran, mum and aunty, or a couple)

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I’ve told (begged) DS not to get anyone pregnant until i’m at least 50, preferably 55, and married! I’m a bit of a hypocrite really seeing as I had him at 19 but hey!

Im 44 and id hate to be a granny at this age. My school friend of 44 became a granny last week and her daughter is a 18, i have a 17 yr Old and id hate to see her have a kid so young.

My DM had me at 21 and I had DS at 22. So she became a granny at 44.

If DS has children at a similar age I could be a granny in my early 40s.

To be honest I'd prefer to be younger so I have enough energy to do plenty of things with my grandchildren (not that I'll necessarily have any, DS might not want children) but it is up to DS when and if he chooses to have them.